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Jun 28, 2015 6:31 PM

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palladia said:
It's all superficial stuff that seems pointless, but at least it gets the conversation going.

Superficial like reading off a script feels kind of more awkward for me. It works but makes me cringe a bit inside, both when I'm the greeter or when I'm the greeted one. When I'm greeted that way, I tend to trail off to being more defensive than open or I just pass back the same question asked. x_x

How I start off a conversation with a person would be the obvious: the reason why they attracted my attention.

Example on a foreigner: "Hey! Where are you from? Oh, Japan, I like that place. I wanted to go there since I was a child. What is Tokyo like? Is it really busy? Where I'm from, it's really peaceful. Have you been in Akihabara?" and so on.

A cute girl or handsome schoolmate: "Hey, I just noticed you're really cute. Really I'm serious, I think you're pretty. What classes are you taking? Are you taking any clubs or electives? Oh, I want to join the choir club too!" (Since you're interested in them, your intent is to find ways to always be with them by asking those kinds of questions)

Some otaku: "Hey, is that School Days you're watching? What episode are you up to now? That anime's really sick. Do you watch a lot of anime? etc."

So I basically just let the conversation flow naturally by building up from what attracted my attention in the first place. (But of course, I don't do that to a person in a wheelchair. Only build up from the person's good qualities.)
Jun 28, 2015 6:33 PM

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Jun 28, 2015 6:37 PM

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Keep calm and make a joke
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Jun 28, 2015 6:45 PM

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if you can muster up a smile it can do wonders :D The biggest problem about being quiet is you get judged as hostile and smile can be quite disarming in those situations.
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Jun 28, 2015 6:53 PM

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Introduce yourself and present yourself as pleasant. Start a conversation by choosing an interesting topic. While I'm an introvert by nature, I have no problems talking to people though I can get awkward at times.

Jun 28, 2015 6:53 PM

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Shiny_Goomy said:
if you can muster up a smile it can do wonders :D The biggest problem about being quiet is you get judged as hostile and smile can be quite disarming in those situations.
If a normally quiet person builds up a reputation for always being quiet, they become suspicious when smiling and people will put up their guard.
Jun 28, 2015 6:58 PM
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Step 1: Break the ice.



Step 2: Hello
Jul 24, 2015 7:30 PM
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Being yourself and letting them know you're going to be kind and modest.
Jul 24, 2015 7:31 PM
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Hey do...do... you like anime?
Jul 24, 2015 7:32 PM

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sometimes ill whisper you smell nice into their ear, but that
has gotten me more restraining orders then friends... so i guess im saying to learn from my mistakes
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Jul 24, 2015 7:37 PM

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I do this:
Jul 24, 2015 7:42 PM
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There's nothing we need to talk about.
Jul 24, 2015 7:54 PM

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I don't.
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Jul 24, 2015 7:55 PM

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be a fgt to him/her
Jul 24, 2015 8:05 PM

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ok shit i mean i'm hilariously drunk right now but usually i only approach people if im drunk

when i'm not i'm literally too scared and shy to utter a word but **sometimes** i'll try initiating conversation

i back off easily though i should try being more social but like w/e
Jul 24, 2015 8:37 PM

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First, I think of words. Then, I say them in the order that I thought them in.
Jul 24, 2015 10:41 PM

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It's honestly really simple, just talk about stuff. Conversation turns awkward? Think what you said or did to cause that, or was it the other person? Think critically and after a few conversations you'll be fairly comfortable doing it. The things said in this thread already help you out a lot.

If instead you go in scared and afraid of something awkward happening, shutting your brain when it does and running away, you'll be forever uncomfortable with talking to people you don't know, because you never learn. If making the initiative and not running away is the problem, then youre asking the wrong question. No conversation with a stranger will (most likely) ever be perfectly pleasant with no awkward moments when youre just starting out with it.
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I get myself in the mindset to talk, then I think of what to say followed by what they might say so I have a comeback.

Think of it like chess
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