Kryomatics said: Having female friends is the first step. You need to understand that. ... You really disregard the value of being able to openly converse with people. I presume you can without the help of using something like it's work or class as an excuse. Don't worry, I have (a few) female friends. I actually consult one of them for this matter, lol. Being able to openly converse with people is something I can apply to most people, but for some reason I find it really hard to talk to her for things not related to work. For those things I usually run out of topics even though we're friends and on paper we have a whole lot of things to talk about. In the same vein, I could make people laugh without much trouble, but she is again the exception, which I believe is a serious if not fatal weakness when trying to win a girl over.
You can consider yourself a loser if you so wholeheartedly believe yourself to be one. I think of myself like that because it gives me motivation to change. If you wanna just take the title so be it. Just make sure what you describe yourself is what you believe. If you wanna feel like a loser, are you going to stay like that? If so there's nothing I or anyone can do. ... Anyways when you find yourself in a hole of regret and stuff like that. No one can save you. You have to fall to the bottom and pick yourself back up. Humans struggle to live. That is our existence. I see where you're coming from about the 'loser' thing; You're reading too much about my placing the 'bigger loser' line at the end of my post, or more like I worded it carelessly... I don't intend to brand myself one and stay down, because I'm through with that the first time I fell down. I am able to pick myself up now because I have friends like you guys in this club, and other people in real life who care just as much.
You can't always win them all. While I would say to give up, it all depends on your nature and how you want to settle things.
Peptalk™ Finished. Now give them hell True enough. Giving up, is of course a valid, rational and sensible option. Right now, part of me wants to... and part of me doesn't come hell or high water. There's an inner conflict going on... and I'd like to thank you for offering your take on this. I don't think this is going to end inconclusively like the troubles of the past year.
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JnMegami said: Our stories really are quite similar lol. Don't quote me on this but with my limited experience girls seem to be "nicer" to someone they've been giving the cold shoulder to after they get a partner. Something like "now he has to give up and I can act without thinking of his emotions!" Refer to the part where I said limited experience. A similar train of thought also crossed my mind, and now that you bring it up again... things actually make more sense from that perspective. It's becoming quite likely that they're already going out considering how fast that sneaky guy / friend of mine was able to progress in what I think was a span of less than a month since getting to know her... that maybe they're just keeping it secret from everybody else for some reason...
I think you should just ask someone else out. There are 7 billion people in the world. No need to let one ruin your life. Indeed, that option makes the most sense and is the most reasonable. It's also the easiest way to solve this. I also have this strong, irrational and idiotic desire to finish all my fights; that I'd lose without giving up no matter how bloody painful it gets. Deep inside there's also a part of me that wants to take the rational route - think of "pro-war" and "pro-peace" factions competing inside my head.
Door to door sales metaphor coming in:
So I just keep going. Frankly, I think it's pretty amazing that you were able to take your experience from work and apply it as advice for me. ^^; To be honest, I haven't even decided yet if I'll keep pressing the bloody fight or lift the failing siege that I've laid for 17 months outside her extremely fortified castle, but either way, I thank you for contributing your view and your advice. Maybe it really is time to hop off the route of the most difficult girl 'cause I've already missed too many flags to get any decent ending.
Asking girls out is less drastic percentages than this. If they're single and not overly self centred and picky (which your girl unfortunately seems like) you should be able to get a girlfriend in maybe 3 different girls (as long as they're single or the aforementioned self centred picky eater). I hate to admit it, but picky is indeed a word that suits her for a lot of things. It's part of how she was able to stay single for who knows how many years, perhaps even ~27 despite having model/celebrity grade looks (imagine a slight resemblance to Mia Wasikowska with long, wavy black-brown hair; I'm pretty sure you've seen her already though) and a legion of secret admirers eagerly waiting for a chance to attack.
She's the unspoken princess of my team; to quote a line from a song:
"You're just the girl all the boys want to dance with;
And I'm just the boy who's had too many chances" |