Jul 15, 2013 11:26 PM
Ideal Girl?
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Kami nomi zo Shiru Sekai
"What is your ideal girl?" You usually hear this in your elementary days or your pre-teens and in my case, who is in third year college student right now, just yesterday on a post made by Heaven's Lost Property's facebook page (fanpage). I got ready to type in the description of my ideal girl onto the comment box but surprisingly...I found myself unable to type anything then it dawned on me "What IS my ideal girl?" I thought hard and through but came to no conclusion, the thought kept bugging me even while going through the grocery store.
(elegance is hard to come by in real life )
Really, What is an "ideal girl"?, simply put an ideal girl is someone who embodies all the desirable qualities of the man in question, the criterie varies from person to person obviously, but yet here I am at a loss of words and unable to produce anything. If one were to ask me about in my younger years I would have been able to give an answer straight away but that is no longer the case as you can see. I feel that with everything that I have experienced and my exposure to anime made me like this, Anime is not to blame for this, it would seem that I have just been hardened by said experiences. One example of these experiences is with my ex girlfriend, yes I had a girlfriend and to be honest those were some of the happiest days that I had but she has a yandere personality and like every archetype you see in anime, these personalities do not jive well with the real world, eventually things didn't last between the two of us and it left a bitter taste my persona.
(as much as I like Gasaii Yuno, yandere just doesn't go well with real girls)
Even way back before those happened I started inclining more to the 2D world with the inclusion of waifus in my life as a substitute for the lack of affection from women. Since we are on the topic of 2D women during my many adventures in the youtube world I have encountered a video made by Gaijin Goomba who is talking about what he hates about the Japanese Culture and, that's right, he hates the fact that men there have been reduced to loving 2D, inanimate and fictional characters instead of looking for real women to love. During his entire video I acknowledged with everything he said in it and naturally I got hit with some of his arguments, he himself said that he also once fell to this state because his ex fiance just left him for no reason for another guy, I agree with his statement "I had to do, what I had do to in order to fill that giant void in my heart" and that is exactly the state that I am in now. My recent adventures with real women who blackmailed me and/or end up breaking up with them only to not fill their end of the promise of it being just between the two of us, or just balls up being friendzoned countless of times wasn't really that pretty and only reinforced the concept of 2D in me. I was so hurt by the succeeding bad events in relationships that I closed my mind to the idea of getting in a real one and this for me probably blurred my idea of the ideal girl.
(link to the video of Gaijin Goomba
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R5-4q8sK9yI
if you have a youtube account you might want to check his channel out
http://www.youtube.com/user/GaijinGoomba)
The idea of my "ideal girl" got crushed after everytime I try to conquer the woman who have some of the qualities that I am looking for ended up failing. Eventually I got tired and sought refuge in 2D. This is only natural for people, a person by nature doesn't want to experience pain and will eventually avoid what causes them pain but for some reason all sense of logic and intelligence disappears when faced with the emotion of love. I guess you could say that I got hurt several times to learn that this is not going to work. It's sad and pathetic but that's how things turned out for me fortunately/unfortunately (however you want to look at it)
(one of the things that I have been following for a long time now)
an Ideal girl in the end is someone whose qualities is what you are looking for in a female partner, the reason the characters in my profile became my waifus is because I love their qualities and what makes them, them. Azusa is cute and funny but knows her responsibilities, Nymph is a tsundere and archetypes don't do well with real girls and Asia is very gentle and motherly-like. I already explained before that I tried to conquer women with similar qualities to them but all of them ultimately bombed or ended up biting me in the ass. I was hardened enough to believe that not a single girl like that exists. I may be appearing weak and pathetic but i'm just tired of moving forward to the next conquest because one way or another it will ultimately fail.
That probably just about sums it up. I guess this doubles as my take on the "Ideal girl" idea and an explanation to why I am heavily into 2D and perverted and not that interested in 3D. I may look at beautiful real life women and adore their beauty but will only stay at that.
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IIHaseOII
| Jul 15, 2013 11:26 PM |
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IIHaseOII | Jul 19, 2013 9:18 AM
Yeah, I know and have experienced that first hand and no i'm not generalizing that all women are the same, i'm just too afraid or hurt to try again because i'm not really proud of the things that happened and most of it is my fault or that i'm just taking the blame too much when in fact I shouldn't. I'm open minded enough and i'm still grounded onto reality, I still know what is real and not, i'm just not too keen on taking on another conquest because of said events.
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SamreenM | Jul 17, 2013 9:55 PM
Kami, first of all I would say “Ideal is ideal”. Ideal is perfection and in real world no one can be perfect whether it is male or female. It is the maximum loftiness and latitude of character that we associate with our “ideal” partner whether male or female. Certain characteristics of the ideal can be found in the real world characters but not all in one because they are human.When in the world of reality, we try to fit our partner in the frame of our “ideal”, the collision of expectation and disappointments create quite a bleak situation. This is where the issues crop up. Secondly, one size doesn’t fit all. If someone did wrong to you, you should not tar the whole gender with the same brush. Have belief that All is not lost. You need not take refuge in the 2D world. Just come back in the real world, eradicate the bitterness of the previous experiences and start a new life. Do take interest in fiction but keep your feet on the ground. Samreen M Bolee.com |