Personally I have tried though my urges came knocking hard and a friend offered themselves to me. If I ever find that someone for me I'll let them know how long I waited. I feel like I lost a lot of my innocence doing so.  |
L0LlDec 11, 2019 1:39 PM
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| I think people who keep their virginity for that special someone have it backwards. Basically what you're saying is this: "When I meet the love of my life I want to suck so hard at sex because of my lack of experience, it'll be a right pain for him/her to deal with whatever the fuck my ignorant ass throws at him/her when we do it." wtf? why? Like yeah sure, the first time I have sex with the love of my life I want to be in pain! That sounds like a great idea! LOL. No. When you finally meet that special someone you want to be as good as sex as you can be, so that you can get together and have a blast. I say fuck as much as you can/want, and when you meet the perfect somebody, you'll already have a great foundation to build on, sexually. Staying a virgin on purpose is super weird and pointless. |
| "my life at this state could be transposed into a pretty massive biography" - Cneq, "the guy who was literally using BTC in 2012 to make deals in the first main instance of a digital itemized economy forming naturally in all human history (also the precursor of NFTs) and who had 20k+ total trades.", 23 years old MAL's most prolific antivaxxer, Noboru. |
| HahahahaNO. I'm asexual and happily married to my virginity *cough* That whole concept of 'no sex before marriage, I am waiting for that special person for my first time' is kinda outdated and unrealistic nowadays anyway. |
SpectralFoxDec 9, 2019 1:54 PM
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| I'm a virgin because I don't want to be away from home at all until I've accomplished some internet projects. |
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| Hmm, I'm not keeping the V-card for someone absolute special. More like, I just want to be loved by someone I love and lose that in the context rather than doing it with someone I barely have any feelings for just to get experience. If someone actually loves me, then they will not mind whether or not I'm skillful the first time. I'll just try and see how things stand if and when the time for it comes As for why virginity is appealing: actually, this refers pretty much only to female virginity, because of telegony: https://culturacolectiva.com/technology/telegony-phenomenon-children-get-ex-partners-looks https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4282758/ And while it would be indeed more exciting and idealised to have my V-card swapped with the V-card of a girl/woman, it's far from being a requirement for me. If I love someone, then it won't matter. Rather, I will be able to stay calmer, because there will be less pressure on me To those who can practice with random sexual contacts and get experience in order to get the most satisfying result for the actual partner when that time comes: kudos, but I don't work that way |
| Yes, I have been leaving some space for Jesus, the pool boy. |
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Kosmonaut said: No room for Satan or his demons at all though?Yes, I have been leaving some space for Jesus, the pool boy. |
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| HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHA... No, no I have not. |
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KlND said: My special place is reserved for Jesus, the pool boy. Satan gets everything else. Nothing left for low tier demons though, specially if they are Santa. Kosmonaut said: No room for Satan or his demons at all though?Yes, I have been leaving some space for Jesus, the pool boy. |
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| Artis has too many beautiful animals. I'm not sure how anyone could expect me to be a virgin, sorry girls. |
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| I'm very anti-social, which prevents me from meeting anyone. Also, finding a guy who isn't manly is a very difficult thing where I live. I'm not even sure what to do. |
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Esquirtit said: Damn mokummer.Artis has too many beautiful animals. I'm not sure how anyone could expect me to be a virgin, sorry girls. I really like the flamingos, I'd tap that. |
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| What special someone? There is no guarantee you'll stay with the person you lose your virginity to. In fact its super rare. So holding out is honestly just setting yourself for failure. If you want to hold onto it for someone you want to have a relationship with, and not lose it as a random encounter, then I understand it a bit better. |
Kosmonaut said: You'd tap anything that moves as long as it has yuri tendencies...Esquirtit said: Damn mokummer.Artis has too many beautiful animals. I'm not sure how anyone could expect me to be a virgin, sorry girls. I really like the flamingos, I'd tap that. OT: It's too late now... |
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Luchse said: Are there bicurious female flamingos with a really close, totally platonic bond with their best friend? If so, I finally found a waifu worthy of my dedication. Maybe Jesus, the pool boy won't have dips on my v-card anymore. You'd tap anything that moves as long as it has yuri tendencies... |
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BlakexEkalb said: Seiya said: I'm very anti-social, which prevents me from meeting anyone. Also, finding a guy who isn't manly is a very difficult thing where I live. I'm not even sure what to do. How about you become manly so that the ones that aren’t flock to you? But, I don't like manliness. Granted, I'm not super feminine or anything, but I don't like facial hair or body hair, and I don't like guys who use terms like "dude/bro/brah/bruh/etc." |
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BlakexEkalb said: Seiya said: But, I don't like manliness. Granted, I'm not super feminine or anything, but I don't like facial hair or body hair, and I don't like guys who use terms like "dude/bro/brah/bruh/etc." Oh I thought you were talking about muscles. I'm not a big fan of muscles either, although if they're shiny, and they have their hair brushed forward like an anime character, maybe I'd be okay with it. |
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| I kinda wanna say "Yeah", but not really. Idk, I've wanted to save it for someone I'm gonna marry or whatever, but honestly, what's the point anymore? Huh. |
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| Uh... Why did you pick that gif of Rukia to represent this thread? |
| I think the concept of preserving one's virginity is stupid |
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Railey2 said: I think people who keep their virginity for that special someone have it backwards. Basically what you're saying is this: "When I meet the love of my life I want to suck so hard at sex because of my lack of experience, it'll be a right pain for him/her to deal with whatever the fuck my ignorant ass throws at him/her when we do it." wtf? why? Like yeah sure, the first time I have sex with the love of my life I want to be in pain! That sounds like a great idea! LOL. No. When you finally meet that special someone you want to be as good as sex as you can be, so that you can get together and have a blast. I say fuck as much as you can/want, and when you meet the perfect somebody, you'll already have a great foundation to build on, sexually. Staying a virgin on purpose is super weird and pointless. What one person likes another wont. It's an intimate act not job training. All that is needed is to be attuned and responsive to eachother and you don't have to learn to do that from sex specifically. One can learn with that specific person in time. If a relationship can't handle that experience together and requires earth shaking sex right off the bat to last it's just a poorly rounded relationship. |
| I lost my virginity to my right hand ages ago. |
| haha, yeah... that's my excuse for being a virgin. I mean I did have a religious upbringing so... ha ha ..... kill me |
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BlakexEkalb said: Seiya said: I'm not a big fan of muscles either, although if they're shiny, and they have their hair brushed forward like an anime character, maybe I'd be okay with it. I was more specifically saying you should get manly aka muscular. Or at least lean with muscle. I have chronic pain. I'll never be able to lift weights. |
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| I guess I technically did, but it was largely a result of nobody else offering. |
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Scud said: You seem to have everything coming your way though?I guess I technically did, but it was largely a result of nobody else offering. |
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KlND said: Yes, women find it quite intimidating.Scud said: You seem to have everything coming your way though?I guess I technically did, but it was largely a result of nobody else offering. |
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| Nah , I don't remember like 75% of my first time(what happened before and after) cause I was drunk as hell in new year [as my friends told me] after like 20-30 shots of vodka I went outside for a walk and after 2-3 hours I came back to drink again. If I remember well it was 3-4 years ago I don't remember during which party that happened cause I was in 3 parties of new year at the same place and I don't remember if I went for a "long walk" in first or in second party. |
RicePounder said: "true" in the original sense of the word of "firm" and therefore derivative usage of "loyal"/"faithful". I generally treat any romantic relationship as a true one, even if that only comes from my sideI don't know why, but over the years I've just become way more cynical about the world - I'm not a pessimist, but I definitely mull over some deep philosophical questions when I've got the free time and leisure to do so. One of the things that pops up in my mind when we talk about this subject is the whole idea of finding TRUE love. But I do want to find genuine love that stays true RicePounder said: I absolutely agree with you here. Though I've been wondering whether or not it would be easier to first establish a bodily connection and only later a psychological connection with the other person, rather than the other way aroundIn this case, my physical sexual urges are not so important as my psychological needs. If a girl who I think both looks good and I care about mentally and she feels the same way about me, then that girl (to me) would be a huge "turn-on". And like Noboru said...if the psychological link is strong between 2 people, it matters less about your performance in bed. That is not to say that it won't matter at all.... Excactly. I also agree with what traed wrote above |
traed said: most annoying response ever. I never said that it's needed, just that it makes everything better. Logically speaking, saving your virginity on purpose will make your relationship with "the one" worse, at least temporarily.Railey2 said: I think people who keep their virginity for that special someone have it backwards. Basically what you're saying is this: "When I meet the love of my life I want to suck so hard at sex because of my lack of experience, it'll be a right pain for him/her to deal with whatever the fuck my ignorant ass throws at him/her when we do it." wtf? why? Like yeah sure, the first time I have sex with the love of my life I want to be in pain! That sounds like a great idea! LOL. No. When you finally meet that special someone you want to be as good as sex as you can be, so that you can get together and have a blast. I say fuck as much as you can/want, and when you meet the perfect somebody, you'll already have a great foundation to build on, sexually. Staying a virgin on purpose is super weird and pointless. What one person likes another wont. It's an intimate act not job training. All that is needed is to be attuned and responsive to eachother and you don't have to learn to do that from sex specifically. One can learn with that specific person in time. If a relationship can't handle that experience together and requires earth shaking sex right off the bat to last it's just a poorly rounded relationship. It's objectively true for like 98% of all people (excluding the people that have a kinks for that sorta stuff) that having sex when you're experienced with people that are also experienced beats having awkward virgin sex. Almost any relationship benefits from sexual experience, and that's a fact. Enough with your stupid quibbling. The whole "save yourself for your future husband"-thingie is a social norm that came from a time where the best birth control was pulling out, where saving yourself wasn't just a weird purity fetish, but actually a rational consideration (because you don't want to be pregnant when you're not married in 1600 AD). Nowadays it's obsolete and only weirdos and religious nuts do it. Go figure. |
Railey2Dec 10, 2019 12:40 PM
| "my life at this state could be transposed into a pretty massive biography" - Cneq, "the guy who was literally using BTC in 2012 to make deals in the first main instance of a digital itemized economy forming naturally in all human history (also the precursor of NFTs) and who had 20k+ total trades.", 23 years old MAL's most prolific antivaxxer, Noboru. |
| I don't look at it this way. I've had friends that tell me they only do BJs with girls to preserve themselves. Even I find it absurd. Either way, losing it here is tiresome and requires effort. Miss me with that. |
| thats my idealistic thinking when i was young lol but adulthood came and i become practical to just pay for sex on brothels (a few times just to experience it back when i was still at the workforce) seeing that my sexual market value is bad anyway |
Maneki-Mew said: You don't have to do anything. I didn't suggest that you have to develop a neurotic obsession and fuck until you've reached near olympic heights of stamina and technique.Railey2 said: I think people who keep their virginity for that special someone have it backwards. Basically what you're saying is this: "When I meet the love of my life I want to suck so hard at sex because of my lack of experience, it'll be a right pain for him/her to deal with whatever the fuck my ignorant ass throws at him/her when we do it." wtf? why? Like yeah sure, the first time I have sex with the love of my life I want to be in pain! That sounds like a great idea! LOL. No. When you finally meet that special someone you want to be as good as sex as you can be, so that you can get together and have a blast. I say fuck as much as you can/want, and when you meet the perfect somebody, you'll already have a great foundation to build on, sexually. Staying a virgin on purpose is super weird and pointless. Therefore you have to what.. practice? Should it really matter? I'm seriously disgusted by the idea of having sex with someone I don't love in some ways and by the idea of using people for experience. - just the five yen of my ignorant ass. That sounds quite... neurotic to worry about your lack of experience. If they break up you for a lack of experience, they are shit anyway. So you always win. Also just because how one person works doesn't mean you know what someone else likes. I'm just saying that if there's someone you like, but don't necessarily love, there's no reason to hold back and wait for the perfect match, because you're not doing yourself or your future partner any favours by doing that. It's just better to have some experience when you jump into a relationship that you're actually serious about. Makes the whole process more pleasant, especially at the start. I'm refuting the idea that saving yourself somehow improves your relationship with "the one", or that it has any sort of value whatsoever. Also damn, you're "seriously disgusted" by the idea of having sex with someone you don't love? Even if they're like.. super attractive? That's kinda odd, are you ok man? |
Railey2Dec 10, 2019 1:04 PM
| "my life at this state could be transposed into a pretty massive biography" - Cneq, "the guy who was literally using BTC in 2012 to make deals in the first main instance of a digital itemized economy forming naturally in all human history (also the precursor of NFTs) and who had 20k+ total trades.", 23 years old MAL's most prolific antivaxxer, Noboru. |
FlowersInTheRain said: Wait so how many different partners did you cheat on? traed said: What one person likes another wont. It's an intimate act not job training. All that is needed is to be attuned and responsive to eachother and you don't have to learn to do that from sex specifically. One can learn with that specific person in time. If a relationship can't handle that experience together and requires earth shaking sex right off the bat to last it's just a poorly rounded relationship. Your debate in this thread is interesting because back when I was in school my and my friends walking home from school one day had this exact same discussion. About whether saving it for marriage was worth it vs getting experience in sex before meeting the one. Well let me tell you guys something. Yes, I was one who wanted to wait for marriage before losing my virginity but that didn't happen. Instead I got into relationship after relationship and many of those relationships either I or the other person cheated. So basically you could end up with emotional damage / baggage / trauma. And then of course there are the usual risks such as unwanted pregnancy or STDs to worry about. Genuinely curious. Now I get why you think that cheating is just a part of life, lol |
| "my life at this state could be transposed into a pretty massive biography" - Cneq, "the guy who was literally using BTC in 2012 to make deals in the first main instance of a digital itemized economy forming naturally in all human history (also the precursor of NFTs) and who had 20k+ total trades.", 23 years old MAL's most prolific antivaxxer, Noboru. |
| be careful of too much sexual partners too btw you do not want to get them AIDS/HIV that is becoming an epidemic even here in a conservative country like the philippines especially for LGBT people |
FlowersInTheRain said: My first date was already married and had a child, she denied it until I caught her with the kid. It's just not in me to cheat on someone else when it was already done to me.Railey2 said: Wait so how many different partners did you cheat on? Genuinely curious. Now I get why you think that cheating is just a part of life, lol Don't just go by my experience. As I've said before I've seen cheating all around me. It was even actively encouraged. My friends and I used to compete to get girl's numbers and sometimes things just went from one base to the next. I got cheated on first and then I became cold for a few years. I can think of three right now that I cheated on but there are more. I know I was cheated on by at least three different girls. Anyway, let's not make this thread all about me again. Its unfair to the OP and other forum users. |
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| @Railey2 You're on a roll recently OT: I have no idea what's going on in the brains of those who fetishize virginity, but there sure are a lot in the conservative Muslim men here. Some of which are disgusting creatures who bring their wives to gynecologists for checks or if there was no bleeding in their first sex or otherwise abuse them. |
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Mayuka said: A reminder of my past innocence since it was my own personal response to the thread itself, did ya stay untouched waiting for marriage at least?Uh... Why did you pick that gif of Rukia to represent this thread? |
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KlND said: I'm not waiting for marriage. I just haven't been intimate with the people I have dated since I never felt that connection. For me, I don't really care about doing it before or after marriage as long as I love someone. Mayuka said: A reminder of my past innocence since it was my own personal response to the thread itself, did ya stay untouched waiting for marriage at least?Uh... Why did you pick that gif of Rukia to represent this thread? |
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