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@excuses i've tried deviantart and zerochan but haven't tried searching on pixiv yet. Thanks for the advice ^^)

Try alphacoders its where i look up specific wallpapers reso


It's only good if i'm looking for an hd resolution. But if i'm looking for a spesific series or characters it is more likely that i won't find many.

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White_Hollow said:
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Try alphacoders its where i look up specific wallpapers reso


It's only good if i'm looking for an hd resolution. But if i'm looking for a spesific series or characters it is more likely that i won't find many.
have you even try looking in it. Some of this site might help. If not best bet to lookup in pixiv

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Silly question but important. How do you pronounce Academia from my hero academia?. My friend say it is aca-de-my. wich makes sense but I have only heard aca-dej-mina online
 
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White_Hollow said:
@excuses i've tried deviantart and zerochan but haven't tried searching on pixiv yet. Thanks for the advice ^^)
glad I could introduce you to something new. Although I'm not too sure if you will find the character you want, you many need to do some long, hard searching.
Pixiv is different to deviantart and zerochan, there is mainly original art posted on it

@hugfal05

I always thought it was just 'a-kuh-day-me-uh'
but I know some people pronounce academia like 'a-kuh-dee-me-uh' so I think either one is fine.



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So hello everyone, I hope you are doing well

I know I am not stupid but I often do stupid things.... I still procrastinate alot... don't eat even if I am hungry and sometimes forget things from time to time.... I have time to study but still don't and have also failed exams two times,

I know I can do it ...but don't have the motivation to do so....

it feels I am losing control of my life... any suggestions what to do...

at times I just sit for hours wondering what I should do and then realize that I wasted my time and get depressed again, masturbation seems at times a solution but I know deep inside that it is not.

I think some thing is wrong with me.

It's like at times I don't have any motivation to actually try to live but then get depressed when I see others trying and achieving so much more.

any suggestions on how to keep on trying.... before I was good at hiding my emotions now I am getting those comments as to why are you like this right now

Any suggestions will help
 
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Have you tried to have sex with female? If not, then do it many times.

Do you have job? If not, find one.

Do you have any goal in life? If not, thing of some.

Are you disappointed in some part of you which can be easily changed like haircut or being little too fat? If yes, change that.

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shirakawa_megumi said:
Have you tried to have sex with female? If not, then do it many times.

Do you have job? If not, find one.

Do you have any goal in life? If not, thing of some.

Are you disappointed in some part of you which can be easily changed like haircut or being little too fat? If yes, change that.



i don't think someone who lacks motivation has the drive to do those things, speakin from personal experience >.>

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Hey, everyone, I'm new to this thread but had a quick question on cosplay. I am going to a convention soon and am too lazy to make my cosplay this year. Does anyone know of a good place to buy cosplay online other than EZ Cosplay? I would love any recommendations. Thanks!
 
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How do you motivate yourself to do something?

I haven't left my bed all day and am trying to force myself to do anything really. I have been pretty fucked in the head recently and have been trying to entertain myself but can't bring myself to do anything.

How do you guys do it?
 
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CodeBr0t said:
what should I do, she says I am not ready for an relationship and I am gonna talk to her on Saturady (its an long distance relationship so i have to drive w/ the train to her..)

So what happened in the end?

Alpha_Trans said:
How do you motivate yourself to do something?

I haven't left my bed all day and am trying to force myself to do anything really. I have been pretty fucked in the head recently and have been trying to entertain myself but can't bring myself to do anything.

How do you guys do it?

You just got a new place so you deserve a break anyway.
You will be motivated again when there is a sense of urgency, excitement or anticipation.
 
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FlowersInTheRain said:
CodeBr0t said:
what should I do, she says I am not ready for an relationship and I am gonna talk to her on Saturady (its an long distance relationship so i have to drive w/ the train to her..)

So what happened in the end?

Alpha_Trans said:
How do you motivate yourself to do something?

I haven't left my bed all day and am trying to force myself to do anything really. I have been pretty fucked in the head recently and have been trying to entertain myself but can't bring myself to do anything.

How do you guys do it?

You just got a new place so you deserve a break anyway.
You will be motivated again when there is a sense of urgency, excitement or anticipation.

She broke up but i think I am slowly getting over here so its all good i guess
 
Feb 21, 7:02 AM
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CodeBr0t said:
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So what happened in the end?


You just got a new place so you deserve a break anyway.
You will be motivated again when there is a sense of urgency, excitement or anticipation.

She broke up but i think I am slowly getting over here so its all good i guess

You got another girl lined up? Also do you know why she broke up? Was it out of the blue or something that you though might happen? Do you think her reasons were sincere? Do you think she may have been messing around?
 
Feb 21, 12:01 PM
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FlowersInTheRain said:
CodeBr0t said:
what should I do, she says I am not ready for an relationship and I am gonna talk to her on Saturady (its an long distance relationship so i have to drive w/ the train to her..)

So what happened in the end?

Alpha_Trans said:
How do you motivate yourself to do something?

I haven't left my bed all day and am trying to force myself to do anything really. I have been pretty fucked in the head recently and have been trying to entertain myself but can't bring myself to do anything.

How do you guys do it?

You just got a new place so you deserve a break anyway.
You will be motivated again when there is a sense of urgency, excitement or anticipation.

True, I just got very very depressed for like a week. Got out of that funk honestly faster than I thought. Just ended up having alot going on so quickly overwhelmed me.

Thanks for this reply though, it does help.
 
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FlowersInTheRain said:
CodeBr0t said:

She broke up but i think I am slowly getting over here so its all good i guess

You got another girl lined up? Also do you know why she broke up? Was it out of the blue or something that you though might happen? Do you think her reasons were sincere? Do you think she may have been messing around?

honestly, i think she was just playing with me.. but idk i dont really care about her anymore and i am trying to focuse on myself now instead of other peoples well being for once so i think that helps. havent got another girl lined up yet tho haha
 
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does anyone know whether you can be forced to stay in a psychiatric hospital against your will? if so, what are the conditions and what is the maximum duration you will be kept there?
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does anyone know whether you can be forced to stay in a psychiatric hospital against your will? if so, what are the conditions and what is the maximum duration you will be kept there?
I can only think of 3 situations in which that would happen, In America I'm not so sure about the laws elsewhere.
1. A court mandated stay
2. Being a minor
3. Being under a conservatorship

But I'm no legal expert and you should probably consult with one if this is happening to you or someone you know



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@Wakai- thanks for the info. my country's legislation seems unclear/vague on what conditions would allow a court to rule this
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I have completely forgotten how to make friends. Like what does one even say to random people? Most people already seem to have their own groups I wouldn't even know how to spontaneously jump into their convo. Most of the time I'm not even particularly interested in what is being said to add anything. I find it hard connecting with others because most people don't have remotely the same interests as I do.
I know I've made a series of embarrassing threads as of late I am just under a lot of anxiety, sexual frustration, and bitterness I feel really helpless and don't have anyone to talk to.
 
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let me help you, dont make friends 2D anime Waifus are all you will ever need
 
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I wouldn't consider myself a master at conversation but oh man, I'm starting to feel quite sorry for you, man. Especially because you seem to be expressing yourself okay on your posts.

Getting in a group conversation is hard if like it's at like the University Canteen. If your uni has any credentials or certificates you can go get/apply to they're really the best place to make friends. One is forced to make conversation in an environment like an improv classes, public speaking, digital marketing or movie appreciation certificate course (lol) the class is generally small too (barely 25 people in my film club-thing) and you'll have a consistent crew of people to work with. You're bound to get to know someone there. You'll find similar activities outside of University - Dance classes or places for like Jiving is a great place to meet people and they'll be of a different set of age groups so some will be quite patient too.

If you have none of those options. Get on a dating app and explicitly state you'd like to make some friends on your profile. My sister says it works.

I don't know how bad you are but you could practice some conversation starters on MAL. Go comment on someone's profile, someone nice or responsive. If you're nervous about that explicitly state you're practicing maybe.

If you meet a "Talker" just keep asking questions. Listen and respond appropriately, I guess. Be observant. If something catches your interest and it's not too personal ask someone about it.

Feel free to add me and practice with me even. I can dissapear from MAL sometimes and get caught up with work but I'll be glad to help.

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Ehh... idk. Mostly i just talk with them. If they like it, we become friends and if they don't.... well... maybe we will but it takes time. Sharing the same interests or topic is one of the best way to make friends. If you have an interest that's different from others... well i can only say, good luck! And best regards.

Sometimes you need to go out of your own box if you want to blend in society. Not a hard thing nor the bad thing to do. But, just... scary and uncertain. But you know... that's just how life is. Taking one step to change wouldn't be so bad... find out what they like and don't just watch from afar and eavesdropping.



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let me help you, dont make friends 2D anime Waifus are all you will ever need



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I don’t make irl friends anymore for the reasons that you stated. Especially at work. I used to but it only led to me being frustrated with them every time. People are always trying to make friends with me but they aren’t into what I’m into, they never talk about anything interesting and the activities that they like are not my thing so I keep everyone at arms length.

For sexual gratification though you really do have to reach out to people. You will be surprised that as you start to sleep with diffferent people you will meet people that have so much in common with you that you are pretty much soul mates.

Right now I can’t do those sexual adventures anymore because I’ll soon be married. I do feel that life is a bit unfair though because I could have a harem of people that love me and share my interests but society and my religion say I must do that with only my future wife.
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I don’t make irl friends anymore for the reasons that you stated. Especially at work. I used to but it only led to me being frustrated with them every time. People are always trying to make friends with me but they aren’t into what I’m into, they never talk about anything interesting and the activities that they like are not my thing so I keep everyone at arms length.

For sexual gratification though you really do have to reach out to people. You will be surprised that as you start to sleep with diffferent people you will meet people that have so much in common with you that you are pretty much soul mates.

Right now I can’t do those sexual adventures anymore because I’ll soon be married. I do feel that life is a bit unfair though because I could have a harem of people that love me and share my interests but society and my religion say I must do that with only my future wife.

How do you go off on sexual escapades when you have trouble with irl friends? What do you mean by reach out?
And congrats on your marriage I guess.
 
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firstly, be weary of advice online. secondly, friendship is fleeting – it's not often these days that you make lifelong friends, especially online.

if you're comfortable enough, perhaps try something in your local community such as charity groups, church activities if you're religious, start a club in your area and advertise around?

honestly none of those suggestions would work for me but they may work for you, who knows. anyways, the fact you're interacting online is a good first step.
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You don't just go out and make friends. All you need are supplies from which you are getting attention from. Such people are easy to find and replaceable if needed.


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Feb 27, 12:50 PM
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xxBenisxx said:
FlowersInTheRain said:
I don’t make irl friends anymore for the reasons that you stated. Especially at work. I used to but it only led to me being frustrated with them every time. People are always trying to make friends with me but they aren’t into what I’m into, they never talk about anything interesting and the activities that they like are not my thing so I keep everyone at arms length.

For sexual gratification though you really do have to reach out to people. You will be surprised that as you start to sleep with diffferent people you will meet people that have so much in common with you that you are pretty much soul mates.

Right now I can’t do those sexual adventures anymore because I’ll soon be married. I do feel that life is a bit unfair though because I could have a harem of people that love me and share my interests but society and my religion say I must do that with only my future wife.

How do you go off on sexual escapades when you have trouble with irl friends? What do you mean by reach out?
And congrats on your marriage I guess.

Never said I have trouble with irl friends. I said I get annoyed with them. I’m not like them I am an individual who is self driven and capable of independent thought. I get on best with people that I sleep with. Going on a sexual escapades is easy. You need only to reach out. What do I mean by reach out?

Online - use apps and sites for dating / hooking up. Even porn sites have dating sections or social options for registered members. Don’t spend any money though whatever you do. Absolutely no need to.

Offline - old fashioned way, y’all to the people who happen to cross your path. Wherever that may be.
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If you realized your alone...reach out...nobody's gonna do it first for you especially if your reclusive...Do you think a person will help you first if you dont reach out to them???
Of course not...thats the sole reason why your making a thread here 1st...

& what i mean about "reach out", For starters, why dont you start talking or commenting to other mal users here and start conversations...i know it is hard & sometimes even pointless but you need to do it in order to get away from your situation.

IRL same idea, talk to people...who probably youll meet in your everyday life...i do understand your nervous but you really dont have choices...
 
Feb 27, 5:05 PM
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A lot of really solid advice on here. I'm in the same boat where talking to people that don't share the same interests as me are super hard to talk to. Try to find an environment where people have the same interests as you. When I'm at a skatepark or at the local game store I find it so easy to talk to people, throw me in some bar and I have no idea what to say. Even if that environment is on forums like these that's fine, I have met people online that I'd go as far to say they are family to me.

 
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A lot of really solid advice on here. I'm in the same boat where talking to people that don't share the same interests as me are super hard to talk to. Try to find an environment where people have the same interests as you. When I'm at a skatepark or at the local game store I find it so easy to talk to people, throw me in some bar and I have no idea what to say. Even if that environment is on forums like these that's fine, I have met people online that I'd go as far to say they are family to me.

Yeah I already know this stuff but I don't know where I would find people I could connect with around me. I live in a dead suburb where you need a car to get to places. I am still working on getting my license but when i get it i still won't be able to afford a car I am a poorfag. If i had a license and car or if public transportation was good and worth a shit where I am I can get to the city ezpz and do shit but I am stuck with a soulless suburb.

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As someone that has also difficulties in finding friends on his young age.

You know, when you get older. You'll realize that self happiness is golden.
Forcing relationships is too tiring especially if you force yourself to get one.

The thing is, if you don't have happiness when you are alone, you can't just go and have it on others.
What's really depressing is not having a friends, but not having happy when your alone.

Once you become self sufficient, finding friends will be easier.

Also I think its fine, If you become an adult. Friends are rare!
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As someone that has also difficulties in finding friends on his young age.

You know, when you get older. You'll realize that self happiness is golden.
Forcing relationships is too tiring especially if you force yourself to get one.

The thing is, if you don't have happiness when you are alone, you can't just go and have it on others.
What's really depressing is not having a friends, but not having happy when your alone.

Once you become self sufficient, finding friends will be easier.

Also I think its fine, If you become an adult. Friends are rare!

Well I've been alone for too long. I was fine with it for 1-2 years but I have been getting sick of it. It is not good for anyone to be alone for too long it messes you up. Your post reminds me of that Sartre quote (fuck Sartre btw): "If you're lonely when you're alone, you're in bad company.” I am in bad company. I hate my company. My internal monologue has been tearing me apart. I notice that I am usually fine around other people though. People aren't meant to be isolated.
You are right that self-sufficiency is the only way but I hate how long that will take I will be out of school by then. Need to get a job and car so I can get the fuck out of this suburban burger punk hell heap.
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As someone that has also difficulties in finding friends on his young age.

You know, when you get older. You'll realize that self happiness is golden.
Forcing relationships is too tiring especially if you force yourself to get one.

The thing is, if you don't have happiness when you are alone, you can't just go and have it on others.
What's really depressing is not having a friends, but not having happy when your alone.

Once you become self sufficient, finding friends will be easier.

Also I think its fine, If you become an adult. Friends are rare!

Well I've been alone for too long. I was fine with it for 1-2 years but I have been getting sick of it. It is not good for anyone to be alone for too long it messes you up. Your post reminds me of that Sartre quote (fuck Sartre btw): "If you're lonely when you're alone, you're in bad company.” I am in bad company. I hate my company. My internal monologue has been tearing me apart. I notice that I am usually fine around other people though. People aren't meant to be isolated.
You are right that self-sufficiency is the only way but I hate how long that will take I will be out of school by then. Need to get a job and car so I can get the fuck out of this suburban burger punk hell heap.


I think youre too conscious about having no friends and it messes you up. That's why you think you're bad at human interactions and small talk.

Saying Act natural is what usually people will say regarding this but that is easier to said than done.

I mma tell you since thats what I also thinked from the past,
Having a job will only make friends harder by 10x. Less social interaction, more responsibilities. lol


Perhaps the best first step is to get out of your comfort zone.
Go to a tabletop cafe, Try to go to a music or language class or something. Try to socialize at strangers first. Its easier than an already acquaintance.
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Find a hobby club! It's much easier to talk about something in common everyone shares. Hobbies that you have will attract personalities or others who share values like yourself.
 
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keySL said:
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Well I've been alone for too long. I was fine with it for 1-2 years but I have been getting sick of it. It is not good for anyone to be alone for too long it messes you up. Your post reminds me of that Sartre quote (fuck Sartre btw): "If you're lonely when you're alone, you're in bad company.” I am in bad company. I hate my company. My internal monologue has been tearing me apart. I notice that I am usually fine around other people though. People aren't meant to be isolated.
You are right that self-sufficiency is the only way but I hate how long that will take I will be out of school by then. Need to get a job and car so I can get the fuck out of this suburban burger punk hell heap.


I think youre too conscious about having no friends and it messes you up. That's why you think you're bad at human interactions and small talk.

Saying Act natural is what usually people will say regarding this but that is easier to said than done.

I mma tell you since thats what I also thinked from the past,
Having a job will only make friends harder by 10x. Less social interaction, more responsibilities. lol


Perhaps the best first step is to get out of your comfort zone.
Go to a tabletop cafe, Try to go to a music or language class or something. Try to socialize at strangers first. Its easier than an already acquaintance.

I don't have anything like that near me I told you I live in a suburban hell heap.
 
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I highly recommend going to therapy.
 
Feb 27, 9:29 PM
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Hey man

You just needa find things that you're interested in and go to clubs/events that require that, then just strike up conversation. Normally it's easy to find new friends if you have something in common with you just gotta go to the place.

I think it's partly due to learning to just become confident. Like it's not easy..it really isn't easy, however it's what you have to learn to be able to make it easier on yourself. Also try yo best to ignore gender when making friends, never look towards the wanting sex, it's easier to try keep a mindset of just having common interests with the people around you, and you slowly work around the people in that

Even finding 1 person you can try find a friendship is great, cause if it clicks well you'll end up getting to the circle phase where you jsut start naturally meeting new people, it doesn't matter that people have their own groups, if it clicks it all works out and you become that group.

Sometimes no matter who you are talking to it may not just click, and that is OK!! People with a mindset of expecting closeness with every single person is retarded and isn't gonna work out well, however if you do click that's an easy friendship right there. This includes offline and online.

I can't remember what i rambled about but.....

tl:dr, go to places where people have similar interests, gain confidence to talk to them, click, become buddies, get in circle....profit.

GL OP!

 
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Wouldn't know. I have major trust issues and phobias when it comes to dealing with other people due to past events I'd rather not talk about. Literally everyone I've actually gotten to know well enough to consider a friend made the first move. If the hadn't I'd be a lot more isolated and anti-social than I currently am. Not that I never leave the house or anything, but when I do I generally only talk to people when I feel I absolutely have to. Though I 'm trying to get better with this.
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You can check out subreddits like r/MeetPeople, r/MakeNewFriendsHere, r/NeedAFriend, etc. Look at the posts people have made and DM those that live in your city and/or have listed some of their interests that are similar to your own. I feel like it's a lot easier to talk to and get to know people online rather than face-to-face, and if you do ever meet them in person, it will be easier to have a conversation with them since you've already gotten to know them a little. It may not work for everyone but I've actually made a couple of friends this way.

 
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just keep stalking someone until they notice and tell you to stop... when they do, spark up a conversation
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Why go out, when you can play video games instead? Outdoor activities are **** anyway.
 
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Stop caring about making friends. Rather, focus and pursue your interests and hobbies instead. If likeminded people come along who have the same type of passion you do for the things that you love, then you've just made new friends. If it's a connectivity issue, as you've put, then that is a little more problematic. I'm also a bit socially isolated/detached, and find it hard to make friends with other people. Especially if I don't know them all that well. The thing about friendships and relationships is that they become extremely more difficult to obtain if they are pressured or forced out of desperation. Rather, play it cool, and just let these things come to you.
 
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I highly recommend going to therapy.

this is actually great advice. even if you're not suffering from anything like the usual depression or anxiety, a lot of people go to therapy just to keep their mind healthy or for some clarity in life. one of my best friends was my therapist
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Ryagan said:
I highly recommend going to therapy.

Yeah I was considering this as a last resort desu might end up trying it I have a lot of issues. How helpful is therapy? @korishi

 
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@xxBenisxx depends if you want to be helped. also, the relationship between therapist and client is very important. if you don't like him/her it's not going to work. but if you settle in well after a few sessions, you really start to learn more about yourself. worth it imo.
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Korishi said:
@xxBenisxx depends if you want to be helped. also, the relationship between therapist and client is very important. if you don't like him/her it's not going to work. but if you settle in well after a few sessions, you really start to learn more about yourself. worth it imo.

But how does it help you? I feel like I already know too much about myself and I already know what my issues are.
 
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xxBenisxx said:
Korishi said:
@xxBenisxx depends if you want to be helped. also, the relationship between therapist and client is very important. if you don't like him/her it's not going to work. but if you settle in well after a few sessions, you really start to learn more about yourself. worth it imo.

But how does it help you? I feel like I already know too much about myself and I already know what my issues are.

then you should be able to fix your issues yourself right? well no, that's why we seek professional help lol. I'm not really going to make a case for psychology here but it's personally been effective and beneficial to me. if it evidently works that's all that I care about.
in the end it's up to you though.
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I have completely forgotten how to make friends. Like what does one even say to random people? Most people already seem to have their own groups I wouldn't even know how to spontaneously jump into their convo. Most of the time I'm not even particularly interested in what is being said to add anything. I find it hard connecting with others because most people don't have remotely the same interests as I do.
I know I've made a series of embarrassing threads as of late I am just under a lot of anxiety, sexual frustration, and bitterness I feel really helpless and don't have anyone to talk to.


Try joining a book club or a running group something like that. There's website/apps to find these kind of things
 
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