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TheDiabolicEsper said:
so basically he likes to be personal with u while preferring to screw other girls[unless he doesn't] in that case what does going out with another person even mean unless ur gonna be flirting all the time or talking about life or having sex, basically one night stands? or just potentially harmless dates? like meeting new female friends?


yeahhhhhh don't seem like a serious relationship if kids r ever gonna cross ur mind,
maybe roommates or ''best friend with sex included''?
cuz in the end marriage is what seals the relationship
that's the difference between a best friend and a husband/wife right?
like not everyone marries their bestfriends
or wanna/have to do it with a sibling to show/prove their ''love'' that's just incest

he has absolutely no regrets about him OR you doing it with another?
well..

in the end it depends on wat kind of relationship YOU want and if he is serious about u he should give u a serious answer without giving a half assed one
real love is not so simple

also if u get to attached to someone u don't wanna leave that someone
but u still don't wanna commit it just sounds like
u 2 have being to close without actually having any sparks,

its like living with a friend for a long time and then when he/she leaves u miss them or don't want them to go, but that's between friends
now love?, that's for when u want to be with that 1 person forever blabla stuff
but if one stays together long enough they actually fall in ''love'' that's how it always gos. .. really though honestly i will never understand what it means to like someone and still want to ''go out''' with others without calling it simple sexual relief,it would be alot different if ur just masterbating to people in porn without the actual sex involved.

cuz LOL i was once jealous when my bestfriend was hanging with other friends i didn't know about, Without me!, its the same with relationships but sex [unless its a sex friend lol] and more personal things r involved like caring for each others problems on a Deeper level and life and about being faithful to that 1 person.

also for how long rly is he gonna keep coming back to you?what if one day he doesn't ? u have to be ready for that
also what if he is secretly having the same kind of relationship that he has with u with someone else?
that's like a free pass for cheating and the ability to drop the relationship whenever he wants.. but the same applies to you

now if we talking pros/cons im sure u already know the biggest pro is being free to do it with other men,
now the biggest con is... if u ever have kids with that person

hope i helped

Well, i wasnt being specific, so like we do sex and stuff but not only that, i also hold his Instagram account and WhatsApp account and he isn't denying when ppl ask if we are dating or not he would just nod, and when he went out w someone else im pretty sure that they are just going to eat do some fun and stuff with no physicall action but still why he didnt really ask me out yet, like what's on his mind actually.
 
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I wouldn't call it healthy

Because unlike the typical definition of open relationships all the power is held by him. He's the one introducing jealousy. He's the one making the calls. Did both of you decided the rules of your relationship? Do the other girls have some say? Even in typical open relationships the capacity to accommodate to others is tested often and can be stressful. What if he finds someone else he's as emotionally attached to?

I'm going to make the assumption that you don't probably date around as well? So you should probably reasses what love means to you.
no we do dates a lot since we are in the same college but yet he still go out w girls and he wouldnt say if i dont ask, he is assuming that i already know bc i held his account however or assuming that i don't really care, at the beginning of the relationship he was the one who said that he doesn't catch any feeling but as the time goes by he then said that he is catching feelings , so i assume if i stay longer he'd ask me to go further so here i am waiting almost a year for him to make further move and he yet doesn't seem to be moving at all still in his comfort zone,should i wait longer? Bc last time i waited he admitted that he catches feelings even tho he said he didn't, or does it comes just the mere of getting used to being w me?
 
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149597871 said:
He seems to be ok with you two having an open relation while you seem to have a problem with that. If you are not on the same page then it's better to just quit and not torture yourself.

Or you can learn how to "love" people without attaching yourself to them, trying to possess them and so on and go on. Realistically speaking, if you have full freedom in your relationship, it's not harming you in any way or whatsoever and you are not bothered the fact that he has sex with other girls then you don't really have much to win by quitting it or at least not until there's a better opportunity. Just have fun with him when you are able to, do whatever you want when he's not there and when/if you find someone ready for a more serious relationship, just break up with the guy.
as i said before, its not like he do sex w others, just with me. And for your suggestions that if i find someone that is ready to commit w me other than him then i should just go after it, well the main issue is that im famous at my college, so does him, basketball player etc, and what public know is that we are in relationship like official relationship and the jerk thing about him is he is not denying that when ppl ask for a clarification, so there will be no guy that is interested on pursuing me as long as all that they know is that we are officially dating although we don't, so what should i do then?
 
Dec 27, 2019 1:23 PM
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You need to watch some harem anime and see how the girls deal with this sort of situation.

 
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You need to watch some harem anime and see how the girls deal with this sort of situation.

too bad most of the mc in harem anime doesn't really chose any character:(
 
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Lalala1412 said:
149597871 said:
He seems to be ok with you two having an open relation while you seem to have a problem with that. If you are not on the same page then it's better to just quit and not torture yourself.

Or you can learn how to "love" people without attaching yourself to them, trying to possess them and so on and go on. Realistically speaking, if you have full freedom in your relationship, it's not harming you in any way or whatsoever and you are not bothered the fact that he has sex with other girls then you don't really have much to win by quitting it or at least not until there's a better opportunity. Just have fun with him when you are able to, do whatever you want when he's not there and when/if you find someone ready for a more serious relationship, just break up with the guy.
as i said before, its not like he do sex w others, just with me. And for your suggestions that if i find someone that is ready to commit w me other than him then i should just go after it, well the main issue is that im famous at my college, so does him, basketball player etc, and what public know is that we are in relationship like official relationship and the jerk thing about him is he is not denying that when ppl ask for a clarification, so there will be no guy that is interested on pursuing me as long as all that they know is that we are officially dating although we don't, so what should i do then?


Sorry, you said "going out with" which for me it sounds like the two of them are dating in which case it would be quite naive to assume there is no sexual stuff going on as well.

I think you should talk to him and tell him that if he wants this relationship to continue he has two options. 1. Stop fooling around with other girls/things 2. Officially change your relationship status to open or pretend it's not existent to other people so both of you can have the freedom to search for other opportunities.

 
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I think you should talk to him and tell him that if he wants this relationship to continue he has two options. 1. Stop fooling around with other girls/things 2. Officially change your relationship status to open or pretend it's not existent to other people so both of you can have the freedom to search for other opportunities.


I am just not ready to give him the ultimatum yet, what if his answer wouldnt be as i expected
 
Dec 28, 2019 1:20 AM
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Lalala1412 said:
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I think you should talk to him and tell him that if he wants this relationship to continue he has two options. 1. Stop fooling around with other girls/things 2. Officially change your relationship status to open or pretend it's not existent to other people so both of you can have the freedom to search for other opportunities.


I am just not ready to give him the ultimatum yet, what if his answer wouldnt be as i expected

I'm glad you know the consequences of ultimatums. Best thing really would be to sit and talk with him.

You are going to have to ask the cliche question, "Are we on the same page?"

Guys hate that btw but being a guy myself I know that he isn't ever going to ask you if you are happy with the way that things are. You might lose him no matter how you go about this. Chances are he doesn't want to be with you for the rest of his life.

...Or maybe he does and he doesn't realise it yet. If you two broke up he might miss you so much that he decides he does want a relationship with just you.
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Well, i wasnt being specific, so like we do sex and stuff but not only that, i also hold his Instagram account and WhatsApp account and he isn't denying when ppl ask if we are dating or not he would just nod, and when he went out w someone else im pretty sure that they are just going to eat do some fun and stuff with no physicall action but still why he didnt really ask me out yet, like what's on his mind actually.

Sounds like he wants an open relationship. Nothing will ever change if you just sit there and wait for him to change his mind.
You need to set boundaries on what you actually want, stand up for what you want.

Tell him that you can't fool around anymore, say everything you love about him, and everything that hurted you. (Communication is very important.)
Lastly, tell him that being in an open relationship just wont work anymore and just to tell you if he changes his mind. (Do not be emotional. Be firm.)

It may ruin your relationship, but it's also the best way for him to realize his feelings for you.
You can still see him, but just lessen it, and without benefits. Start dating other guys seriously, not just to make him jealous.

tl;dr: Don't be a nice girl
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I am a middle school band teacher and was asked if I would host anime club. I watched anime growing up but never went to anime club. What do you guys do in there? Watch anime, draw anime, manga? What would you guys suggest for my middle schoolers?

 
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I am a middle school band teacher and was asked if I would host anime club. I watched anime growing up but never went to anime club. What do you guys do in there? Watch anime, draw anime, manga? What would you guys suggest for my middle schoolers?

Welcome to MyAnimeList!
Yo honestly same, I never really went to any anime club at all but I do watch anime a lot. I did briefly get to see what an anime club's kinda like at college and it seems like they watch anime and read manga. Drawing anime-style is pretty fun, but I can't say I know any actual anime clubs that do this.

Are there any students you know that watch anime and would like to join an anime club if it was made? Find out what kind of anime they like before deciding on any anime to watch together as a club. Actually, that would make for a good icebreaker for new club members or during the club's first few days.

Also, what kind of anime do you personally like? I would recommend you some titles, but your anime and manga lists are empty so idk what you'd like
 
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You should definitely schedule a viewing of Hibike! Euphonium, a story about a high-school concert band. I liked season one more than season two myself. Has a bit of yuri-teasing in episode eight, but it's really just teasing.

 
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Need advice, I think i'm experiencing Quarter Life Crisis. Warning: sorry if i sound naggy about life but i just felt like sharing and maybe if any others are experiencing something similar, we can share thoughts?

So i quit my job as an architect more than half a year ago. i didn't feel satisfied doing what i did. I felt like i didn't learn much about architecture in design during my 11 month tenure other than learning to cope with stress and deadlines, plus the pay sucked.

Now i'm making a living out of flipping items online lol, i actually started while i was still working as an energy-efficient side hustle but i've gotten good at it to the point i can stand on my own feet just flipping stuff and tbh i am actually making more than my previous job.

But the tough part is just living this kind of life, i feels so static. I'm not meeting new people. I mostly stay at home all the time just playing games, watching anime, youtube, and netflix. It sounds great but being like this for more than half a year isn't healthy (sorry fellow weebs, but being a NEET is bad). The only community i got is playing csgo online with my college or high school buddies. I probably go out just 1-2 times a month other than going out to the minimart. Heck i'm turning to dating apps which i used to hate so hopefully i can get a romantic life lmao, yea its a longshot.

I actually graduated from a pretty good college in my country, although my grades were just average, but i feel that society (especially my family) is pressuring me to continue my profession because of my background. But the working culture is just sooo bad and it'll take years before i am able to handle my own projects and I don't wanna waste so much time struggling in one industry when i know there are greener pastures, don't get me wrong tho its not like i hate designing or anything but the industry just sucks right now.

Yeah flipping items is doing good for me financially. I've even grown a passion for entrepreneurship while i'm at it, hopefully if i have enough savings i can open a business. Oh btw staying at home all the time can also save you so much money compared to living alone. But damnnnn its boring and depressing, especially when i feel like no one is supporting me, my family is the typical conservative type where pride and titles means a lot.

Ofc i don't wanna spend my life just flipping stuff, but i can't see myself back in architecture. Maybe i should get a job in another more general field like a bank or some startup... I know i'm not alone in this quarter life thingy but bruh this is so frustrating.

Sorry for the long rant MAL. i just felt like sharing and this is the most comfortable place for me lmao, thanks.
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Jan 13, 12:24 PM

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so ive bin studying japanese for around a month now. i got hiragana down and am working on katakana. i know some basic phrases and vocabulary. but ive hit a rut. thought this would be a good place to get some advice or good resourses. have any of you sucessfully learned on your own and could point me in the right direction. i havent bought any courses and would like to study myslef and learn some more before i go that route.

thanks all.
 
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One thing that was an immense help to me was the book Remembering the Kanji by Heisig. There is also a free site called kanjii koohii that lets you use the method.

Next step after that is buying textbooks for your level and completing them.
 
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1. Most anime watchers don't bother with learning japanese
2. Anime will only supplement your learning
3. If japanese language is an iceberg, then hiragana and katakana is not even the tip of it.
4. Look for motivation somewhere else
5. Tons of free resources are available only, search instead of wasting your time making this post
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Iizbakaokay said:
1. Most anime watchers don't bother with learning japanese
2. Anime will only supplement your learning
3. If japanese language is an iceberg, then hiragana and katakana is not even the tip of it.
4. Look for motivation somewhere else
5. Tons of free resources are available only, search instead of wasting your time making this post


nothing is a waste of time if you use the experience wisley

EratiK said:
One thing that was an immense help to me was the book Remembering the Kanji by Heisig. There is also a free site called kanjii koohii that lets you use the method.

Next step after that is buying textbooks for your level and completing them.


thanks ive bin looking for a good place to study kanji!

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Ok so I'm at a decent level. I can follow simple spoken and written Japanese, and I can hold a simple conversation. So I think I can give some good advice.

Here is the order I recommend:
1. Hiragana / Katakana. This is so important for understanding how Japanese is formed. It will provide a basis for pronunciation, reading, listening... everything.

2. Grammar. There are tons of resources for this. Personally, I watched the Japanese from Zero video series on YouTube, and eventually bought the books. Other resources which people talk up but I haven't used are Tae Kim, Genki, Minna no Nihongo. They all do the same basic thing by introducing a total newbie to Japanese starting with grammar.

Lastly, I recommend the Cure Dolly YouTube channel. The presentation is really weird and his/her voice is super weird, but the person behind the channel has a lot of really insightful stuff to say about Japanese grammatical structure. At least watch this video:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pSvH9vH60Ig
Whatever you decide to do here, you need to pick a resource and commit to it. Follow the program.

3. This is where is gets painful. 2000 kanji at least. That's what you need to learn to be able to read most Japanese. To be truly fluent you need over 3k. I HIGHLY recommend WaniKani. Look in to it to get an idea of how it works. WaniKani will teach Kanji while also reinforcing that Kanji knowledge with vocabulary.

4. When you've got a strong understanding of grammar and a decent amount of vocab, you want to start reading. There are a number of ways to go about this. Look up visual novels and mouse-over dictionaries to see how I do it.

4. Find someone to talk to in Japanese. A professional tutor or just a random Japanese person. You will never achieve fluency without being able to express youself on the fly quickly in conversation. I just started this step myself recently. Probably a little too late because it's been easier than I expected.

Some things to remember:
-Learning a language is quantity over quality. You don't need to fully undestand or remember absolutely everything when you study. Just put the time in. As long as you're getting something out of your time then it's worth it. That said, don't be one of those people that watches raw anime before they even know any grammar, thinking they'll just "pick it up". You won't.

-This is a commitment. Learning a language will take up a significant portion of your life. No two ways about it, unless you're under 18 or have a natural talent. If you're under 18 then put in as much time as quickly as possible becuase language learning only gets more difficult the older you get.

Guess I'll save this and copypaste it when others ask about learning Japanese seeing as I put in this time. Anyway, all the best to OP and anyone else reading this looking to learn Japanese. 頑張って下さい!
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Vash902 said:
so ive bin studying japanese for around a month now. i got hiragana down and am working on katakana. i know some basic phrases and vocabulary. but ive hit a rut. thought this would be a good place to get some advice or good resourses. have any of you sucessfully learned on your own and could point me in the right direction.


It is possible to pick up a language self-taught although I believe you will hit a ceiling in pure isolation. Make it a part time job, spend at least 1-2 hours daily. I was able to pick up enough in 6 months to be able to comfortably (and foolishly) navigate Japan, and my learning capabilities are probably about average. It is only a function of time and effort.

Vash902 said:
i havent bought any courses and would like to study myslef and learn some more before i go that route.

thanks all.


You don't need to buy courses to make decent headway. Just a pen, paper, flashcards, dictionary and the hundreds of linguistics channels on video hosting sites.
 
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Need advice, I think i'm experiencing Quarter Life Crisis. Warning: sorry if i sound naggy about life but i just felt like sharing and maybe if any others are experiencing something similar, we can share thoughts?

So i quit my job as an architect more than half a year ago. i didn't feel satisfied doing what i did. I felt like i didn't learn much about architecture in design during my 11 month tenure other than learning to cope with stress and deadlines, plus the pay sucked.

Now i'm making a living out of flipping items online lol, i actually started while i was still working as an energy-efficient side hustle but i've gotten good at it to the point i can stand on my own feet just flipping stuff and tbh i am actually making more than my previous job.

But the tough part is just living this kind of life, i feels so static. I'm not meeting new people. I mostly stay at home all the time just playing games, watching anime, youtube, and netflix. It sounds great but being like this for more than half a year isn't healthy (sorry fellow weebs, but being a NEET is bad). The only community i got is playing csgo online with my college or high school buddies. I probably go out just 1-2 times a month other than going out to the minimart. Heck i'm turning to dating apps which i used to hate so hopefully i can get a romantic life lmao, yea its a longshot.

I actually graduated from a pretty good college in my country, although my grades were just average, but i feel that society (especially my family) is pressuring me to continue my profession because of my background. But the working culture is just sooo bad and it'll take years before i am able to handle my own projects and I don't wanna waste so much time struggling in one industry when i know there are greener pastures, don't get me wrong tho its not like i hate designing or anything but the industry just sucks right now.

Yeah flipping items is doing good for me financially. I've even grown a passion for entrepreneurship while i'm at it, hopefully if i have enough savings i can open a business. Oh btw staying at home all the time can also save you so much money compared to living alone. But damnnnn its boring and depressing, especially when i feel like no one is supporting me, my family is the typical conservative type where pride and titles means a lot.

Ofc i don't wanna spend my life just flipping stuff, but i can't see myself back in architecture. Maybe i should get a job in another more general field like a bank or some startup... I know i'm not alone in this quarter life thingy but bruh this is so frustrating.

Sorry for the long rant MAL. i just felt like sharing and this is the most comfortable place for me lmao, thanks.



Ooh, I understand what you mean! We have similarities: I quit my job to work online because I hated the 9-to-5 grind and the whole toxic culture that surrounds it. I did web and graphic design at first — but then transitioned to online entrepreneurship and being an ~influencer~ (lol which I didn't even intend to do at first, it's just fun).

Anyway, at the start, I was like you. Since my job involved staying at home to work online, I didn't go out as much. No social life, etc. Things only started to make a turn for the better when I did the blogging thing because I got to travel and do projects etc. — but also because I found out some ways to expose me to more people. And this was where I realized that spreading out your network really helps.

First up: I suggest you sign up for some events or get-togethers in your area. I think the app 'meetup' is great for that so you can meet like-minded people. Through that way you can socialize and you can even bounce ideas too (eventually you might even find another kind of business that you will enjoy and that can bring you more financial security, like I did).

When you get to secure a more stable income, to answer the social problem part, I suggest signing up for a coworking space so that you're not always holed at home. Coworking spaces are so good for promoting productivity but also for meeting new people (and being in a similar setting like an office but without the toxicity lol).

Anyway, what I'm just saying is: hang in there bro. These are just bumps on the road (for now). You'll find a way to get through this!




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Vash902 said:
Iizbakaokay said:
1. Most anime watchers don't bother with learning japanese
2. Anime will only supplement your learning
3. If japanese language is an iceberg, then hiragana and katakana is not even the tip of it.
4. Look for motivation somewhere else
5. Tons of free resources are available only, search instead of wasting your time making this post


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Learn english while you're learning japanese as well.
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Hello I need help with earning income. Anyone PLEASE give me ways to earn income in the UK and online especially for someone who can't work.
 
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Hello I need help with earning income. Anyone PLEASE give me ways to earn income in the UK and online especially for someone who can't work.
If you're hot you can sell your nudes online. People pay big time for a good time. Just saying.
 
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deimos96 said:
Need advice, I think i'm experiencing Quarter Life Crisis. Warning: sorry if i sound naggy about life but i just felt like sharing and maybe if any others are experiencing something similar, we can share thoughts?

So i quit my job as an architect more than half a year ago. i didn't feel satisfied doing what i did. I felt like i didn't learn much about architecture in design during my 11 month tenure other than learning to cope with stress and deadlines, plus the pay sucked.

Now i'm making a living out of flipping items online lol, i actually started while i was still working as an energy-efficient side hustle but i've gotten good at it to the point i can stand on my own feet just flipping stuff and tbh i am actually making more than my previous job.

But the tough part is just living this kind of life, i feels so static. I'm not meeting new people. I mostly stay at home all the time just playing games, watching anime, youtube, and netflix. It sounds great but being like this for more than half a year isn't healthy (sorry fellow weebs, but being a NEET is bad). The only community i got is playing csgo online with my college or high school buddies. I probably go out just 1-2 times a month other than going out to the minimart. Heck i'm turning to dating apps which i used to hate so hopefully i can get a romantic life lmao, yea its a longshot.

I actually graduated from a pretty good college in my country, although my grades were just average, but i feel that society (especially my family) is pressuring me to continue my profession because of my background. But the working culture is just sooo bad and it'll take years before i am able to handle my own projects and I don't wanna waste so much time struggling in one industry when i know there are greener pastures, don't get me wrong tho its not like i hate designing or anything but the industry just sucks right now.

Yeah flipping items is doing good for me financially. I've even grown a passion for entrepreneurship while i'm at it, hopefully if i have enough savings i can open a business. Oh btw staying at home all the time can also save you so much money compared to living alone. But damnnnn its boring and depressing, especially when i feel like no one is supporting me, my family is the typical conservative type where pride and titles means a lot.

Ofc i don't wanna spend my life just flipping stuff, but i can't see myself back in architecture. Maybe i should get a job in another more general field like a bank or some startup... I know i'm not alone in this quarter life thingy but bruh this is so frustrating.

Sorry for the long rant MAL. i just felt like sharing and this is the most comfortable place for me lmao, thanks.



Ooh, I understand what you mean! We have similarities: I quit my job to work online because I hated the 9-to-5 grind and the whole toxic culture that surrounds it. I did web and graphic design at first — but then transitioned to online entrepreneurship and being an ~influencer~ (lol which I didn't even intend to do at first, it's just fun).

Anyway, at the start, I was like you. Since my job involved staying at home to work online, I didn't go out as much. No social life, etc. Things only started to make a turn for the better when I did the blogging thing because I got to travel and do projects etc. — but also because I found out some ways to expose me to more people. And this was where I realized that spreading out your network really helps.

First up: I suggest you sign up for some events or get-togethers in your area. I think the app 'meetup' is great for that so you can meet like-minded people. Through that way you can socialize and you can even bounce ideas too (eventually you might even find another kind of business that you will enjoy and that can bring you more financial security, like I did).

When you get to secure a more stable income, to answer the social problem part, I suggest signing up for a coworking space so that you're not always holed at home. Coworking spaces are so good for promoting productivity but also for meeting new people (and being in a similar setting like an office but without the toxicity lol).

Anyway, what I'm just saying is: hang in there bro. These are just bumps on the road (for now). You'll find a way to get through this!


Thank you for the insight! Yeah i will hang in there. I'll try and join some events that i've previously thought of joining but never really end up joining. It's a gathering of online entrepreneurs that my marketplace organizes and maybe find other events. Again, thank for the advice and inspiration:)

PS: never thought of talking to an influencer in this forum haha
 
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I'm going down the hole again. I feel so lonely. I feel like I have no one to talk to, and it hurts so much.

I don't want to post this here, but I feel like I have nowhere else to talk about my feelings. I don't want to burden anyone either.


go join a discord community based around something you enjoy, talk there a bit, make some friends and you'll have someone to talk to.

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how do i get a boyfriend that loves me
pleas mesasage me iif u wanna date <3
 
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how do i get a boyfriend that loves me


I'm sure you'll be fine. It's easy




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oh well, nevermind
 
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midascruzer said:
cluclu said:
how do i get a boyfriend that loves me


I'm sure you'll be fine. It's easy




"(´• ω •)ノ devours pocky and left over cummies uwaaa~"

oh well, nevermind

this is bullying and harassment i do not appreciate this treatment
pleas mesasage me iif u wanna date <3
 
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holy frick. feeling sad.
i look into the abyss and the abyss looks back.
nietzche was right when he said this.

just when i thought i started to figure it all out, everything begins to fall apart.
the idea of being perfect/complete always eludes me.
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what should I do, she says I am not ready for an relationship and I am gonna talk to her on Saturady (its an long distance relationship so i have to drive w/ the train to her..)
 
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I suppose it depends entirely upon the exact circumstances unique to your relationship.

You not 'being ready' could mean all sorts.
 
Jan 20, 10:25 AM

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You should definitely talk things out with her. Find out why she thinks you’re not ready for a relationship and try to improve yourself so that you are ready for a relationship. If she has unrealistic demands or if you find that there isn’t much love between you maybe it’s time you breakup, you can still be friends and it will sting but if it’s a toxic relationship it will be better in the long run if you breakup. Either way definitely talk to her and figure out what you both want out of each other, how either of you can improve yourself for the other or if you should continue to pursue a romantic relationship together.
 
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Mate, if she told you that it means she has already decided to break up imho
 
Jan 20, 10:55 AM

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thanks for the advice, and for the (not) advice while maybe flameshame your just being realistic, but idk yet...
edit: actually thanks everyone for replying and saying something.. even if its not telling me she dosent want to breakup with me or something i appriceate it. I will talk with her and update if anyone cares then..
 
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My advice was just to prepare yourself as usually when your partner tells you this kind of things he/she has already taken a decision
 
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If she does break up with you, please do not chase after her; we women do not like that. I once had a guy stalk me for SIX MONTHS even though we only went on two dates. It was horrible. He would not leave me alone.

So please be a good guy and respect her decision, okay?



 
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If she does break up with you, please do not chase after her; we women do not like that. I once had a guy stalk me for SIX MONTHS even though we only went on two dates. It was horrible. He would not leave me alone.

So please be a good guy and respect her decision, okay?


It's a crime, it isn't about women not liking that lol
 
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She doesn't know what she's talking about if she hasn't seen your avatar here yet.
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Chiibi said:
If she does break up with you, please do not chase after her; we women do not like that. I once had a guy stalk me for SIX MONTHS even though we only went on two dates. It was horrible. He would not leave me alone.

So please be a good guy and respect her decision, okay?

Yeah dont worry I wont be doing that.

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My advice was just to prepare yourself as usually when your partner tells you this kind of things he/she has already taken a decision

Yeah, but it isnt really like that, I dont think she wants to break up yet, but rather talk about our relationship and our issues and her issues, and then decide if she still wants to be with me but thanks anyways

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She probably found your MAL profile and is displeased with your list
 
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She probably found your MAL profile and is displeased with your list

Is my list that bad? lmao haha grrr i hate character maximum
 
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are you losing her or is she losing you?
stay strong champ

 
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Tell her you don't care because she was "an ugly bitch" and her pussy smells like "egg fu yung"
Guaranteed to break down any girl's self esteem while giving you enough plausible deniability to not slit your wrists in a warm bath.
 
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are you losing her or is she losing you?
stay strong champ


Id say both if she were to end it since I think i am a pretty good guy. And also thank you mate il try to stay strong
 
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Tell her you don't care because she was "an ugly bitch" and her pussy smells like "egg fu yung"
Guaranteed to break down any girl's self esteem while giving you enough plausible deniability to not slit your wrists in a warm bath.

are you speaking of expirience or what?
 
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Bobby2Hands said:
Tell her you don't care because she was "an ugly bitch" and her pussy smells like "egg fu yung"
Guaranteed to break down any girl's self esteem while giving you enough plausible deniability to not slit your wrists in a warm bath.

are you speaking of expirience or what?

I don't like to call it experience but...yes.
 
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What's the best site to look for anime fanarts, wallpapers or lockscreen?


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have you tried pixiv?

deviantart and zerochan are also pretty good options for finding art.


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@excuses i've tried deviantart and zerochan but haven't tried searching on pixiv yet. Thanks for the advice ^^)

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@excuses i've tried deviantart and zerochan but haven't tried searching on pixiv yet. Thanks for the advice ^^)

Try alphacoders its where i look up specific wallpapers reso

 
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