| While it is true lying is easy on the internet, I believe true love can work out in LDR. I'm currently in one with a girl who lives is Michigan while I live in Oregon. We have been dating several months now and we and chatted, Skype, and even talked on the phone and I plan to move out there when I become 18. (currently 17) So yes. I believe LDR can work if you both are honest and never stop loving the other person |
BloomingFlora said: While it is true lying is easy on the internet, I believe true love can work out in LDR. I'm currently in one with a girl who lives is Michigan while I live in Oregon. We have been dating several months now and we and chatted, Skype, and even talked on the phone and I plan to move out there when I become 18. (currently 17) So yes. I believe LDR can work if you both are honest and never stop loving the other person Believing is not the same as practically working. In theory if both people are honest and committing to each other of course it can work. That's not how things work in reality though. Because it is easier to find someone you like on the internet, it is hard for the relationship to actually work out. When looking for someone, you just ignore/block those that you don't like and focus on those who do. Same thing for when you are tired of that person. Just block them online and you don't have to deal with them. In real life, you would see each other much more often. It would be much more awkward to break it off that way. |
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Infinite8 said: It never works! Time is constantly flowing.. Wat. Also, it works if you want to make it work. There's not a whole load else to it. |
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NoobHunterD said: do yourself a favor and avoid it Yes... Listen to the dancing melonpan. |
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| I believe relationships in general can work at a distance. but for lovers it can be tough. A friend is someone who is there for you and ready to support you and have fun, but a lover is something on a deeper lever; something that can't be filled through distance unless you see each other occasionally. If it's someone you already know - but they need to move away or similar, then in cases I think it can make your love stronger. But this person needs be a real thing you can see and touch. |
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Infinite8 said: Guess I have god-like determination then.Scud said: Infinite8 said: It never works! Time is constantly flowing.. Wat. Also, it works if you want to make it work. There's not a whole load else to it. Its sad but its true.. Alot of people who posted here have explained it better than me, but you need some god like determination and unbelievable loyalty to keep it going for a long.. |
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Scud said: Infinite8 said: Guess I have god-like determination then.Scud said: Infinite8 said: It never works! Time is constantly flowing.. Wat. Also, it works if you want to make it work. There's not a whole load else to it. Its sad but its true.. Alot of people who posted here have explained it better than me, but you need some god like determination and unbelievable loyalty to keep it going for a long.. Scud having god-like determination is the funniest thing I've read all day. |
| best advice: if she/he says they found a cool friend, it's game over. people have a habit of comforting others and then capitalizing on the situation... |
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| Awesome. You only have to see her, when you want to and have no daily obligation to constantly spend time with her, because as time passes by, you will want to do stuff on your own again. But in the long run, the distance has to change, or it's not gonna work out anymore. Worked out over 2 years for me, but then it just became a nuisance. That's where you have to end it, or it gets messy. |
| My ''internet'' boyfriend just left yesterday morning after being here for 3 weeks for the third time. I think it can work if you're old enough to travel alone and have the guts to tell people irl about them. He plans to come here for college after summer and of course theres more times in between we are going to see eachother. On the other hand an internet relationship where you cant see the person at all is really hard to keep together. Infinite8 said: Its sad but its true.. Alot of people who posted here have explained it better than me, but you need some god like determination and unbelievable loyalty to keep it going for a long.. Why is that hard if you love the person? If you dont whats the point of going through all that trouble. |
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| IMO doesnt work, cos women is bitches guys want to fuck your girlfriend and she feels alone and sad if you really loved eachother you would be together at all costs (together in the traditional sense, where you can touch and see eachother) |
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t3hrabb1t said: best advice: if she/he says they found a cool friend, it's game over. people have a habit of comforting others and then capitalizing on the situation... Haha, this is definitely where loyalty kicks in. My boyfriend makes it clear that he has a girlfriend to every girl he befriends/is friends with. If they still want a friendship, he still always brings me up in a conversation or when the other girl tries to talk crap about me and that LDRs don't work out, he drops her immediately. I agree w/ @Ekoskotzi though: at some point the long distance will have to stop. You can't have a long distance marriage, or something. It's usually a temporary "bump" in a relationship. I agree with whoever said relationships in general don't work out, either. Just like a LDR, it takes trust, determination, and communication. |
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| I've only had one relationship that lasted 3 years and it wasn't long distance; we were sort of like high school sweethearts in a way. But, keeping a long distance relationship would be emotionally exhausting :\ Congratulations to those who managed to make it work (: |
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| Hate to be negative, but from my experience they never work out. I once dated a girl from canada and, well, it didn't work out.The good thing about it is that they develop trust. Good luck though. Maybe you'll make it work. |
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| it works better than loving an anime character. |
| It's hard to argue whether or not long distance relationships work because it depends on the individuals. Obviously, some people can be clingy and need their partner with them at all times, and some people have a lot going on in their lives that a long distance relationship is beneficial. However, I can argue this. when you're in a long distance relationship, you are not getting to know your partner to their full extent In my opinion, to really know a person inside out, you have to be with them constantly, almost every day. Not just on skype or on the phone. You all know as well as I do that people can act different in real life. In a LDR, you can't truly grasp someone's full personality because, well, long distance relationship is solely based on conversations here and there. It goes beyond knowing a person inside out, it's also a matter of being natural and comfortable with each other's presence to a point where you can start to see each other's flaws. In my opinion, it's important to see someone's flaws because that's how you know if a relationship is going to work or not. It's hard to see flaws when you're in a long distance relationship. ...that's just me :P |
| Yes I have had 1. I just texted him and called him alot. You can also video chat!^^ |
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Pessoa said: it works better than loving an anime character. Can't argue with that. |
| I had a long distant relationship 4 years ago on a site called "gaiaonline" the relationship was pretty nice and lasted for about 3 years and me and the girl still talk today. |
QuantumZero125 said: Pessoa said: it works better than loving an anime character. Can't argue with that. Are there actually people who do that? |
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Vinter said: QuantumZero125 said: Pessoa said: it works better than loving an anime character. Can't argue with that. Are there actually people who do that? where have you been all your lifetime? |
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xxangelchanxx said: Vinter said: QuantumZero125 said: Pessoa said: it works better than loving an anime character. Can't argue with that. Are there actually people who do that? where have you been all your lifetime? Amongst sane people, apparently... ^^ I mean, I've heard about it, but I just thought it was a joke. Like saying someone's in love with their hand, it's just a little joke to make fun of someone for not having a boyfriend/girlfriend. |
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| Yes I have been in a long distance relationship for now over two years. We met online, due to the fact he lives in America and I live in Australia it would have been impossible to meet him in person. Anyway, I have been saving for the past year and a half to go see him and I just came back from the USA. Before then we always would skype, infact skype is what keeps us so close I believe. Constantly we Skype, we eat, we sleep, we watch anime, we do our own thing, watch tv, but we're always on a call through Skype. A lot of people have told me "oh pft this won't work out" but we've made it work in our own way. I had the time of my life with him and I'm continuing to save for the future and look forward to the day we close the distance, for now though I'm comfortable for everything to stay the way it is for a while. I honestly think that our relationship is one that will work, with no doubts at all. Positive thinking, skype and ignoring bs from people are part of the solution aha :3 |
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| I already tried twice. Both of them not work. ^^; |
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| I've had one, but it was only because my boyfriend was away for Marine training and whatnot. It's difficult to get through, but if you like (or love) them enough, the relationship can persevere. |
kiltroutgore said: but if you like (or love) them enough, the relationship can persevere. You could be the most loyal and devoted, and things still wouldn't work out. It isn't that simple. edit: typo |
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| I had one for a year distance Portugal-UK(quite a big one)... We are together for 2years and 6 months already, everything started with distance but now we live together for 1 year a 5 months already xP 1 year and a month of the relationship was at distance ^^ It depends on the couple itself, it needs efforts to be made by the two. We used to make video calls on skype, play together in MMRPG's, even watching films/animes when the call was being made xP. |
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| I'm in a LDR (100 miles / just under 3 hours on the train) and yes, it's not as easy as a relationship where you can be together whenever, but it's totally worth it. I think one of the most important things is knowing that there's going to be a time when you will be together whenever you like - for us, it will be when he finishes uni next summer and moves back. I imagine if you don't know that that will ever happen it makes it hard to feel fully invested. Since almost everyone on here's so negative (some comments naively so, I'd say) I think it's worth noting that relationships between people who finally get to stay together after being in a LDR tend to last longer than those of regular couples, and they report greater happiness in the relationship too. It's equally ridiculous to say 'it doesn't work' or 'anyone can make it work if you really love each other'' because ultimately it's entirely down to the individuals. I absolutely know for sure they can work out wonderfully, but certainly a lot of people aren't suited to it. Also, I found this site quite a while ago - www.lovingfromadistance.com, which is really sweet and has suggestions on how to make LDRs work, suggestions on what to do together, and stories about successful LDRs. |
| They can work out. I think one of the biggest advantages of a long distance relationship is that you will like someone by her/his personality rather than the physical aspects. In my opinion a long distance relationship depends on: commitment, honesty and trust. In the end it will come down to the individual and his/her cultural background. I do think that it is an essential part to have an ending point in a long distance relationship. There should be something that both are working towards to. (e.g. closing the distance) It's fair to say that being long distance is a good "check" whether you really love someone or not. As in general a long distance couple would deal with more core issues of a relationship than a normal relationship. |
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