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Dec 30, 2011 7:56 AM

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DarChronicle said:
The only reason I'd want to be young when I marry, is so that I won't be really old for my children. For example if I got married at 30 (not being very technical but bare with me), my child would be 15 when I am 45. On the other hand, getting married at 20, I'd only be 35, and I would say that I'm young enough to participate in similar activites to my children, like sports.

That's only my take however, but obviously children are only one aspect of a marriage, if at all. I say as long as the two are mature, and wise people, allow them to marry as they wish. Putting laws against it is unnecessary, and the idiots that do wish to marry, allow them too as well. It'll be a good growing-up experience for them. Nevertheless, if you do wish to throw kids into the equation, a lot of children are now dealing with divorced or single parents and it's almost the same as having parents that are still together.

TL;DR: Sometimes getting divorced is better than forcing a marriage. Young marriages are okay with the right people.


I got married at 25 and made the wise choice to enjoy playing with my wife for 8 years before we elected to have kids. Had lots of great times with the wife before we burdened ourselves with the responsibilities of being parents. Getting married and immediately having kids, has decided limitations.

For one, if you find that you and your wife really don't get along, well there is nothing like kids making divorce a major hassle and good for fighting over things you wouldn't need to fight over if still not parents.

I have never once experienced a divorced couple with kids go their own ways and not be a source of a lot of vicious behaviour. I've known a few people that got divorced with no kids, and they just got there own way and that's it.
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Dec 30, 2011 8:03 AM

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I got married at 25 and made the wise choice to enjoy playing with my wife for 8 years before we elected to have kids. Had lots of great times with the wife before we burdened ourselves with the responsibilities of being parents. Getting married and immediately having kids, has decided limitations.

For one, if you find that you and your wife really don't get along, well there is nothing like kids making divorce a major hassle and good for fighting over things you wouldn't need to fight over if still not parents.

I have never once experienced a divorced couple with kids go their own ways and not be a source of a lot of vicious behaviour. I've known a few people that got divorced with no kids, and they just got there own way and that's it.

I figured someone would end up having a scenario like this, and to be honest, the circumstances I stated were specific to me. I'm sure their are tons on families that decided to have children around mid-life and I'm totally fine with that. I'm just concerned as to what I would want for my children.
As to the divorce, children do make divorce a hassle, but if anyone is to divorce, they obviously must be prepared for a hassle. Although; I do agree that waiting to see if the marriage will work prior to having children is a wise decision.
 
Dec 30, 2011 8:21 AM

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Speaking as a polygamist, I think marriage is an unneccessary, outdated custom that succeeds at nothing but forcing me to adhere to an old-fashioned and unrealistic views about human relationships prescribed onto us by religious leaders of a bygone age.

If we take the view that marriage is a religious event, then I should be within my rights to engage in polygamy provided that my religion allows me to do so. As an Orthodox Mormon, my religion has given me this right and any state intervention in religious affairs would surely constitute a violation of my right to 'freedom of religion'.

If we take the view that marriage is a civic event, then I should also be free to engage in polygamy if I wish to do so. The fact that I have several wives rather than one should not limit my entitlement to the benefits associated with marriage (such as those related to taxation and inheritance) and it is not the state's prerogative to decide whether or not such relationships are moral or sustainable, so why shouldn't I be allowed to marry more than one person?

There is nothing to stop me from living with multiple partners in legal terms, so why shouldn't I be allowed to marry them if I want to?
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Dec 30, 2011 9:28 AM

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Remove state from marriage and I won't care, marry whenever the fuck you want.
 
Dec 30, 2011 9:57 AM

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DarChronicle said:
Sukunai said:
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I think between your debate and the scientific explanation of Vegeance we must have a clear idea of what is our opinion. So basically this are my thoughts:

1.- Not recommendable to get married to young (-17). probably lack of maturity both mentally and emotionally.

2.- When there is love we will probably don't give a ^%&% about point 1.

3.- Get married to satisfy some society, religious or gov status seems stupid for me, if your woman wants it you probably will have to suck it up and do it if you want to be with her.

4.- Having children is hard work, but I don't know any parent that feels repentance for that. Even when they are always saying how they have stolen their youth and figure. Still, as a person that doesn't have kids yet I think I'm not prepare to have kids, how will I can prepare them for life if I still feel confuse about it.
 
Dec 30, 2011 9:59 AM

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I myself wouldn't mind having 2-3 wives, the only thing wrong with Polygamy is it's just got ruined to hell by sick fucks who marry 9-13 year olds and chances are that the reputation of the practice is pretty much near impossible to get another chance at redeeming it's reputation ever again.


 
Dec 30, 2011 10:19 AM

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Whenever they want, because they're going to do what they want anyway.

But I personally don't see marriage as significant... it should only be a formal declaration of love anyway. Plenty of marriages have little or nothing to do with actual love...
 
Dec 30, 2011 12:23 PM

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well i don't know much about marriage, get married when you truly think it is right. but i think from what i have seen is that if you get married before you are 25 is they almost always break up some time, the older you get the more settled down people get and i think people are more likely to was to settle down with just one person. i think around 28 and up is the right time to get married, even if you are 45 i think all that matters is that 2 people love each other enough, and have lived with each other for a while to realise this.
 
Dec 30, 2011 12:28 PM

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luia said:


Jaconator said:
Age shouldn't really matter, but it does play a role on how mature an individual is.

maturity is the keyword


Oh really

Would you marry someone who's 12 and had the maturity you seek?

Here's another thing (has sex tips in the site so slightly NSFW)

http://www.meetingland.net/men-talk/real-dating/28-types-of-women-childlike.html

I want a wife with this personality.


 
Dec 30, 2011 12:37 PM

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luia said:

I do believe in God, but that's it.
Society will force me sooner or later into marriage.. well, provided that I'll find that "special someone".
For no, I'd like to think I'll stay "forever alone" (I'm actually quiet contempted with being single, lol).


I think you mean contented...

'contempt' means to seriously dislike or hate someone or something.

'contented' means to be satisfied with your present situation or with what you have, without any desire for 'more'.
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Dec 30, 2011 12:58 PM

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AnnoKano said:
luia said:

I do believe in God, but that's it.
Society will force me sooner or later into marriage.. well, provided that I'll find that "special someone".
For no, I'd like to think I'll stay "forever alone" (I'm actually quiet contempted with being single, lol).

I think you mean contented...

'contempt' means to seriously dislike or hate someone or something.

'contented' means to be satisfied with your present situation or with what you have, without any desire for 'more'.

Some might say that was a Freudian slip, and thus we might infer that subconsciously he actually hates being alone. Now we all have to secretly pretend we didn't notice...
 
Dec 30, 2011 1:44 PM

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uff.. so much to reply to, haha. That's what you get for writing with your phone v_v

@AnnoKano: obviously, I meant contented.. sorry for that

@InfiniteRyvius: I'm a girl. You don't know me at all so I think it's quit unappropriate to assume that "in fact, i hate it". Again, I'm fine with being single.

@Hoppy: I don't want to marry at all actually (but I'll have no choice)..
uhm... with keyword I really didn't mean it in that way.. uff, sometimes I can't express myself properly in english *sigh*
I think you thought that I was contradicting the quote, right? I just wanted to emphasize that maturity is more important to me, but age STILL matters (of course)..
and no, of course I wouldn't marry someone who is 12.
It would be pretty.. weird if I'd only look for someone who is mature- of course there are a lot of other aspects that play an important role.. frame/physical appearance etc.
(I hope I was able to bring the point across.. having a limited vocabulary really sucks sometimes :/ sorry for the bad english ._.)
 
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Age is something that really matters but I do agree that two individuals should be over 18 and have financial support for one another, including themselves, before marriage.
 
Dec 30, 2011 1:56 PM

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Marriage died when people started to look for finances in a relationship and this is not just a female problem either, men do it too at a growing rate.


 
Dec 30, 2011 2:08 PM

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luia said:
uff.. so much to reply to, haha. That's what you get for writing with your phone v_v

@AnnoKano: obviously, I meant contented.. sorry for that


Just trying to be helpful. It was a humorous but honest mistake to make!

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@InfiniteRyvius: I'm a girl. You don't know me at all so I think it's quit unappropriate to assume that "in fact, i hate it". Again, I'm fine with being single.


I don't think he was being serious.
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Dec 30, 2011 2:36 PM

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luia said:
@InfiniteRyvius: I'm a girl. You don't know me at all so I think it's quit unappropriate to assume that "in fact, i hate it". Again, I'm fine with being single.

As AnnoKano said, I said it in jest, I didn't actually mean anything by it, nor did I mean to offend you. Also.. well, I always assume someone is male, since most the time it'd be right.
 
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Although maturity should smooth up most things, I doubt there is a certain age for love, you can't learn to feel.

The problem with marriage is that it is an ideal. Going into a such a strong relantionship with such preconceptions is doomed to fail. In other words, it is the ultimate crush, not the ultimate love, most of the time.
 
Dec 30, 2011 3:20 PM

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Hoppy said:
Marriage died when people started to look for finances in a relationship and this is not just a female problem either, men do it too at a growing rate.


But...hasn't that been a part of marriage for a much longer time than love has? O.O
 
Dec 30, 2011 3:26 PM

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Don't get married. Marriage aside, long term relationships in general require a special kind of person and most of you are far too stupid to be able to handle the level of commitment and expectation that comes with marriage.
 
Dec 30, 2011 4:05 PM

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ReaperEXE said:
Don't get married. Marriage aside, long term relationships in general require a special kind of person and most of you are far too stupid to be able to handle the level of commitment and expectation that comes with marriage.


Allow me to express my gratitude, on the behalf of all concerned, for providing us with your expert opinion on this matter. Your knowledge and experience in this highly specialised subject is no doubt unmatched, and this very charitable gesture on your part will no doubt be of tremendous value to all concerned. Thank you.
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Dec 30, 2011 4:21 PM

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ReaperEXE said:
Don't get married. Marriage aside, long term relationships in general require a special kind of person and most of you are far too stupid to be able to handle the level of commitment and expectation that comes with marriage.


Hmm.. Not Married? In my country (and in my religion), the purpose of marriage is to have child (and of course, legal sex)

So, i think if i don't married, i can't fulfill my humanity needs..
 
Dec 30, 2011 4:26 PM

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I think 25-35 is just an ideal age for "settling down." I mean there are individual factors to what makes a marriage successful such as compatibility, finances, how long they've known each other/been together, etc.

I mean you could be 26, dating someone for 2 years, and live with them only to find out you hate doing that. -shrug- Or you could have been with someone for 5 years, age 25 now, thinking they are the one, but you might regret not "exploring around" more. -shrugs again-



 
Dec 30, 2011 4:41 PM
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luia said:
@Vegeance: sorry, i tried but.. TL;DR ._.

AnnoKano said:
Speaking as a polygamist, I think marriage is an unneccessary, outdated custom that succeeds at nothing but forcing me to adhere to an old-fashioned and unrealistic views about human relationships prescribed onto us by religious leaders of a bygone age.

I agree, I'm not a polygamist though xD
I do believe in God, but that's it.
Society will force me sooner or later into marriage.. well, provided that I'll find that "special someone".
For no, I'd like to think I'll stay "forever alone" (I'm actually quiet contempted with being single, lol)..

Anyway, to answer the actual question:

Jaconator said:
Age shouldn't really matter, but it does play a role on how mature an individual is.

maturity is the keyword



Concise Version :
When partners meet each other, they receive warm fuzzy feelings for each other due to chemical releases in the neuroendocrine/various system of the brain. These come from the expectations of a good relationship. Risk and uncertainty play a role in shaping these expectations. As a result, intimacy is easily established in the initial stage of infatuation of a beloved one.

As time progresses, these expectations deteriorate and so do the systems of the brain that partake in releasing pleasurable hormones that make us all lovey-dovey when we see or think of our partner.

Young people like me and many others are biologically inclined to be risk-taking. This is the byproduct or resultant of generations of offspring who in their adolescence (in the past) more likely to survive onto the extent at which they were able to take risks in decisions such as choosing mates, deciding between life and death (fighting animals) and so on forth.

Naturally, we have a tendency to liken ourselves to similar people with similar traits. This can be seen in the past in a vast and different, parts of the world, countries and cultures. We have a preferential bias for various things such as height, age, race, etc (men, shorter women; vice versa). As we age, we tend to be less accepting of partners who deviate/are different from us.

Men have regions of their brain, and in addition their sexual organs are intermediary between being reproductively invested in having many offspring and having very few. That is to say, we are somewhere between poly and mono- of relationships. Some people have different brain shapes and forms of structures which give rise to slightly biases to being poly or mono- in terms of relationships. And the amount of sperm we carry, and to the extent of our muscle vs blood (longer time erection, longer time activation) / (shorter time erection, faster time activation).

http://youtu.be/LOY3QH_jOtE?t=44m48s
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Cohabitation or living together is one in which of the many ways for which younger people are adapting to hearing sources of frustrating, uncorking and regretful divorces for which the older generation might or might not have suffered from.

Marriage can be thought of a political and legal construct that is necessary for the normal operation of society. Those who lack financial reserves will seek to marry later, and likewise, vice versa. However, aging populations of various countries find themselves in the campaign for raising love amongst younger people (or so forbid, marriages) and immigrants as a way to replace the slowly more becoming-of soforth senile population.

If we take such a stance, and avoid the traditional nature of seeing marriage as "love", then some argue that we don't need marriage. We can drop it altogether and just live "under the roof" but of course that means a lackluster of so-called "security" or double-edged sword "atrocity" when it comes to divorces and break-ups.

Since the beginning of modern human times, marriages have been arranged both in the royalty context and the familial context for obvious financial reasons, in addition to socially contextual reasons. Children as young as 8, 10, 12, 16, or what have not have been obliged to such "marriages". In addition, to the stacking up of or surrogates, (second- third- fourth- women/mistresses "of the house") or concubines.

Marrying later and settling down to have children like most (but not all) couples also means higher financial stability, social security and parental investment for the children. However, this also means an increased risk for genetic diseases, not that that is such a significant issue at case.

If we grasp marriage as something as unfixated, of something of deserving, because of autonomy (the right to freedom of choosing your own decisions out of the respect of capability of acknowledgement or of reason), then what of those that we find repugnant in relationship for which we would deny for whatever reason?

There is no one-size-fit-for-all solution. We give privileges like drinking, having sex, driving, smoking weed because we believe that people are capable of making such decisions out of good rationale. The actuality is, that there will always be few that are fit and those who are unfit to perform such activities. Therefore we assign an age limiting factor. However, there have been backfires.

Is young people "breaking up" a bad thing? What of the nature of their mistakes? Should they not learn from them? Should we allow others to just follow through? What if it does work out?
Some are not capable and some are capable. Older relationships also entail no certainty of "working out" in retrospect.

Obviously we acknowledge the behavioral tendency of young people to make inappropriate choices, and we also acknowledge the behavioral tendency of exclusive persons of beyond age of marriage to make irrational choices, some lead to consequential effects that are good and some bad. Whatever offspring, whatever familial relations there may be...

Also acknowledge that certain marriages (homo- and infertile-) do not necessarily play the befitting role of intent of marriage (intercourse and offspring). No one says you need to marry to have offspring. No one says that you need to marry to have a relationship. Certainty, society places great pressure by contemptuous means of looking down on those couples who "are not officially married, or not have children or those who are single"..by assigning pejorative terms such as "virgin, wizard, impure"..alas.
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Dec 30, 2011 6:45 PM

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Fuck, if that was the concise version, I'd hate to see the full version.
 
Dec 30, 2011 9:09 PM

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InfiniteRyvius said:
Fuck, if that was the concise version, I'd hate to see the full version.

The full version is on the third page, if I remember correctly =)

@Vegeance: I read everything now, I can't say anything besides that I wholeheartedly agree with everything you've said.. Thanks for the shorter version, hehe;)

InfiniteRyvius said:

As AnnoKano said, I said it in jest, I didn't actually mean anything by it, nor did I mean to offend you. Also.. well, I always assume someone is male, since most the time it'd be right.

okay, i totally misunderstood ._. I didn't mean to sound rude, either.
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Dec 31, 2011 7:03 AM

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People should be married at 18 if they want - less job competition for competent people.
 
Dec 31, 2011 7:09 AM

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I think age doesn't matter, s long both of them love each other and they was mature enough to understanding this world. ^_^
 
Jan 2, 2012 12:51 AM

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25 is the starting age for marriage and above ^^
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Glyre said:
Hoppy said:
Marriage died when people started to look for finances in a relationship and this is not just a female problem either, men do it too at a growing rate.


But...hasn't that been a part of marriage for a much longer time than love has? O.O


Marriage for Reproduction came first, then love, and after that finances.


 
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It takes a while to make sure you've made the right decision, and you don't want a relationship to screw around with your future when you're younger. It's safer to go through childbirth when you're a bit older if you're looking to settle down too. 25-35
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I see people around me getting married around 20-26 years of age. That's fine by me, to be honest I could care less when others decide to get married. I for one will get married whenever I feel I'm ready to share my life with someone else and when the time comes to start a family.
 
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selective_yellow said:

Do people that get married need to have kids?

No. I don't even recommend get kids, if you don't have enough income or you are somehow mental sick..
Everything just become worse, if you do that. It's bad for you and bad for those kids.

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Hoppy said:
Glyre said:
Hoppy said:
Marriage died when people started to look for finances in a relationship and this is not just a female problem either, men do it too at a growing rate.


But...hasn't that been a part of marriage for a much longer time than love has? O.O


Marriage for Reproduction came first, then love, and after that finances.


People still marry for love, it's just that marriage turns out to be harder than they thought. So many divorce because it either didn't meet up to their expectations, or they didn't want to work it out. Also love has been around for quite a long time as well; it was just that it wasn't allowed to be acted upon.

I believe 25 or above is a good time to get married.
 
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Agree 25 or above is the right time for marriage.
 
Jan 6, 2012 3:34 AM

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Hey man Tomoya got married at 19!
 
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I believe above 21 is fine. At least, 21+ should be by law, and now people can decide for themselves when do they wish to get married, as long as both partners are older than 21.

But, to be honest, marriage is not needed at all. In today's society, not married couples have the same rights as married couples, so why bother?
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Hoppy said:
It's 18 in most nations, 16 in some states in the US with parent consent, 15 with that and a court order in some states, 15 in some Muslim nations.

My opinion it should be 16 or 17, if you are mature enough to drive a car at 16-17 which can kill someone if misused, then you can get married.

How'd a 16-18 years old couple be able to get a house among other stuff?
 
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As long as they're over the legal age, that's fine with me. My mom got married to my dad when she was my age but times have changed now. I don't much about marriage in the 1980s but I do know that most women from a long time ago get married at the age of 16.

But overall, you can get married when you are ready, at least mentally.
 
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AlanViBritannia said:
I believe above 21 is fine. At least, 21+ should be by law, and now people can decide for themselves when do they wish to get married, as long as both partners are older than 21.

But, to be honest, marriage is not needed at all. In today's society, not married couples have the same rights as married couples, so why bother?


I take it you have never heard about gay marriage. Also that's bullshit to say 21+ should be the law.

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Hoppy said:
It's 18 in most nations, 16 in some states in the US with parent consent, 15 with that and a court order in some states, 15 in some Muslim nations.

My opinion it should be 16 or 17, if you are mature enough to drive a car at 16-17 which can kill someone if misused, then you can get married.

How'd a 16-18 years old couple be able to get a house among other stuff?


Because people totally need to own houses.
 
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@ Samurai:
Ah, right, I totally forgot about LGBT marriages. Consider my previous post written with only heterosexual pairs in mind. :)

Also, why is it a bullshit? :)
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23-25 would be the right time for me. I couldn't care less when others decide to get married. There's probably no right time for everyone, as long as you're mature enough to handle all the responsibilities that come with marriage, I guess it's fine.
 
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i want to be married by the time I'm 25. That's just me though. I do feel people should wait until they're in their 20s before getting married though. This whole fresh out of high school and pregnant isn't working. But that's just me and my little opinion cant change the fate of humanity.
 
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AlanViBritannia said:
@ Samurai:
Ah, right, I totally forgot about LGBT marriages. Consider my previous post written with only heterosexual pairs in mind. :)

Also, why is it a bullshit? :)


You become an adult legally at 18 therefore you would be old enough to get married.
 
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as long as you're not in school/college


and are mature enough to not be just in love with the idea of being married
 
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Drunk_Samurai said:
AlanViBritannia said:
@ Samurai:
Ah, right, I totally forgot about LGBT marriages. Consider my previous post written with only heterosexual pairs in mind. :)

Also, why is it a bullshit? :)


You become an adult legally at 18 therefore you would be old enough to get married.


In my opinion girl is not mentally old enough in 18th to get married. [Guys are okay. But no, I am not sexist, it's just that girl is sacrificing more of her life with marriage than guy is].

But in the end, that is just my opinion. Calling other people's opinions bullshit just because you disagree is stupid.
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AlanViBritannia said:
Drunk_Samurai said:
AlanViBritannia said:
@ Samurai:
Ah, right, I totally forgot about LGBT marriages. Consider my previous post written with only heterosexual pairs in mind. :)

Also, why is it a bullshit? :)


You become an adult legally at 18 therefore you would be old enough to get married.


In my opinion girl is not mentally old enough in 18th to get married. [Guys are okay. But no, I am not sexist, it's just that girl is sacrificing more of her life with marriage than guy is].

But in the end, that is just my opinion. Calling other people's opinions bullshit just because you disagree is stupid.


It is bullshit. Since you become legally old enough to marry at 18. Therefore anybody is old enough to get married at 18. Also yes you are sexist. Putting a disclaimer doesn't make it untrue.
 
Jan 8, 2012 12:26 PM

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Why am I a sexist now? @_@ I only didn't really think about LGBT couples when I first wrote in the thread. And LGBT marriage is mostly prohibited in the world, I don't see why does it have to be first association to marriage? I am not against LGBT marriage, I just forgot about for few moments when I was writing that post.

... Now that I look at this all, I don't see why am I trying to elaborate my point of view to you anyway. ~
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Jan 8, 2012 10:07 PM

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AlanViBritannia said:
Why am I a sexist now? @_@ I only didn't really think about LGBT couples when I first wrote in the thread. And LGBT marriage is mostly prohibited in the world, I don't see why does it have to be first association to marriage? I am not against LGBT marriage, I just forgot about for few moments when I was writing that post.

... Now that I look at this all, I don't see why am I trying to elaborate my point of view to you anyway. ~


Seriously? "In my opinion girl is not mentally old enough in 18th to get married." That is a pure sexist sentence.
 
Jan 8, 2012 10:52 PM

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AlanViBritannia said:
Drunk_Samurai said:
AlanViBritannia said:
@ Samurai:
Ah, right, I totally forgot about LGBT marriages. Consider my previous post written with only heterosexual pairs in mind. :)

Also, why is it a bullshit? :)


You become an adult legally at 18 therefore you would be old enough to get married.


In my opinion girl is not mentally old enough in 18th to get married. [Guys are okay. But no, I am not sexist, it's just that girl is sacrificing more of her life with marriage than guy is].

But in the end, that is just my opinion. Calling other people's opinions bullshit just because you disagree is stupid.


Yes, clearly the girl is sacrificing more. Things like alimony totally don't exist.
 
Jan 9, 2012 6:28 AM

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Drunk_Samurai said:
AlanViBritannia said:
Why am I a sexist now? @_@ I only didn't really think about LGBT couples when I first wrote in the thread. And LGBT marriage is mostly prohibited in the world, I don't see why does it have to be first association to marriage? I am not against LGBT marriage, I just forgot about for few moments when I was writing that post.

... Now that I look at this all, I don't see why am I trying to elaborate my point of view to you anyway. ~


Seriously? "In my opinion girl is not mentally old enough in 18th to get married." That is a pure sexist sentence.


It may be so. If it is, then you can consider me a sexist, yes.

But let me elaborate that sentence.

In the marriage [with kids], woman will be sacrificing more of her social life [since she can't be replaced in children's early age, and it is a fact, not a sexist thought], she will be missing out from her career life, etc. In other words, in baby's early age, woman will be more at home, missing out other important aspects of social & work life, while man doesn't need to miss out basically anything.

That is why women sacrifice more with marriage. And that is why I think girl, who is 18, isn't able to comprehend the "cost" of the marriage life, motherhood, etc. That is why I told girls @ 18 aren't mentally old enough. Not because they are stupid, but because they don't really know what's waiting for them afterwards.
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