Precise age?
Below 25
25.9%
41
25-35
69.0%
109
Above 35
5.1%
8
158 votes
| Age shouldn't really matter, but it does play a role on how mature an individual is. I think marriage should only be allowed for matured,level headed people, who are willing to commit to love and accept any consequences that may follow. So many stories I've heard teens like myself, running off to Vegas or something and getting married and ends up being a sham. I may be wrong about this but this is what I think, if someone is willing to correct me or show me another way then please enlighten me And like you said they should at least lived together and in the relationship for more than a year first. |
| It's 18 in most nations, 16 in some states in the US with parent consent, 15 with that and a court order in some states, 15 in some Muslim nations. My opinion it should be 16 or 17, if you are mature enough to drive a car at 16-17 which can kill someone if misused, then you can get married. |
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| LOL, NEVER! Marriage is horrible and is more likely to end in divorce than "Happily ever after"... But, that's just my opinion, I'd rather stay single and have multiple relationships with any girl I want then settle down with one bloodsucking witch... |
| Age is definitely a factor. A marriage is has an 83% success rate in the 26-30 age bracket, but that's only if both partners have post-secondary education. Sadly, the 18-24 bracket is almost guaranteed failure with 25 being a grey-zone; however that at least makes sense to me and I do not support marriage as an option for that range. Personally, I believe that no earlier than 26 is the perfect age to propose, anything before that will most likely fail due to differences in maturity, and here's the big one; money. My advice, if marriage is something you foresee in your future, do a prenup regardless of how old you are. I've had many friends who married young and quickly followed up with divorce, and honestly, I surprised that some of them had survived as a couple, let alone be cut out for marriage. Rushing things seems to be a common mistake to make. Hell, I barely support marriage as it is; it takes a special kind of person to be cut out for marriage because a 50% divorce rate in most first world countries proves to be a major roadblock. |
| who cares if people get divorced? There shouldn't be a law preventing people because you seem to dislike divorce. Let people do what they want. |
| below 25 is just too young..the couple can't be that prepared for a family.. |
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akihibari said: below 25 is just too young..the couple can't be that prepared for a family.. Do people that get married need to have kids? |
selective_yellow said: akihibari said: below 25 is just too young..the couple can't be that prepared for a family.. Do people that get married need to have kids? Or better yet do people that have kids need to be married? |
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Hoppy said: selective_yellow said: akihibari said: below 25 is just too young..the couple can't be that prepared for a family.. Do people that get married need to have kids? Or better yet do people that have kids need to be married? @Selective Yellow -No @Hoppy- Yes, because if not no one will take care of them and everyone will spends years and thousands in legal battles about who will or will not pay for them. |
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| If there grass on the pitch, then shes a bitch. I think that's how the saying goes, i'm not sure. I think marriage is a stupid idea, but I also think having kids is a stupid idea, well done on 7 billion people. But being with someone you love, and taking care of any mistakes that might have happened while having sex? that's cool in my book. |
Suzune-chan said: Hoppy said: selective_yellow said: akihibari said: below 25 is just too young..the couple can't be that prepared for a family.. Do people that get married need to have kids? Or better yet do people that have kids need to be married? @Selective Yellow -No @Hoppy- Yes, because if not no one will take care of them and everyone will spends years and thousands in legal battles about who will or will not pay for them. Not true, grandparents and aunts can take care of them a lot of times it's voluntary, this is more true if both parents are considered unfit or they are addicts to drugs and alcohol. |
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| Precise age? What a shallow question. Marriage, if you decide upon it, may forever change the course of your life. The precise time for marriage is when you're ready to accept that fact. |
| If I'm planning on getting married, I think I'll be married before 32ish. Basically every single male in my family goes bald... so gotta get someone to fall in love with me before the hair starts falling off;) But if I'm not completely sure I'm in love with someone, no way will I pay for it by losing half my stuff later. |
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| I think before marrying, it is important to spend time with the person to learn more about them, understand them and establish a healthy level of comfort with the other. Discussing certain serious topics must be done too and both must be completely committed to the other. |
Suzune-chan said: Hoppy said: selective_yellow said: akihibari said: below 25 is just too young..the couple can't be that prepared for a family.. Do people that get married need to have kids? Or better yet do people that have kids need to be married? @Selective Yellow -No @Hoppy- Yes, because if not no one will take care of them and everyone will spends years and thousands in legal battles about who will or will not pay for them. But... my parents never married and everything is turning out pretty well. |
Appel_stroop said: Suzune-chan said: Hoppy said: selective_yellow said: akihibari said: below 25 is just too young..the couple can't be that prepared for a family.. Do people that get married need to have kids? Or better yet do people that have kids need to be married? @Selective Yellow -No @Hoppy- Yes, because if not no one will take care of them and everyone will spends years and thousands in legal battles about who will or will not pay for them. But... my parents never married and everything is turning out pretty well. YOU LIE!!!! |
InfiniteRyvius said: Appel_stroop said: Suzune-chan said: Hoppy said: selective_yellow said: akihibari said: below 25 is just too young..the couple can't be that prepared for a family.. Do people that get married need to have kids? Or better yet do people that have kids need to be married? @Selective Yellow -No @Hoppy- Yes, because if not no one will take care of them and everyone will spends years and thousands in legal battles about who will or will not pay for them. But... my parents never married and everything is turning out pretty well. YOU LIE!!!! I DO NOT!!! I'M EVEN USING CAPS TO MAKE EXTRA SURE YOU GET IT. honestly though my parents never married and I have 4 brothers and 2 sisters they say they don't need a stupid paper or something that costs monuey to prove their love. |
| I think entering into ANY decisive and legally binding decisions before 21 is likely a bad idea. People change around 21 and you simply don't want to find yourself stuck in something that you come to find a few years later ie earlier than 21 meaning you decided too early in my view, that you come to regret. And marriage is a fairly significant life choice. I also think old buggers marrying little girls are no better than fucking pedos too. And I don't give a shit if your fucking religion condones it. Little girls belong to little boys. |
| While not technically anime, currently I am a big fan of Hatsune Miku. At least I can go see her in concert. |
| I think people should get married whenever they want. And the real point is that people are going to do what they want. So why is another person's opinion important? People make mistakes when they're young, I don't think that's going to change anytime soon. However, I just don't see marriage as being important except when it has legal benefits. Love is not about the label of "marriage" for me. But again, my opinion doesn't matter, because I am in charge of myself and not other people. Let them do what they want. |
| I'd say 25 - 35. Because from my knowledge, its standard practice. Besides that is also the age where people actually 'act' mature. That is also the age where most people have a means fo finance. |
| My dad wants me to get married before he dies so he can see my kids. If I am going to be married I'll be sure to do it after I finish my studies which would be done when I'm about 25. Or not. D: |
| 12 is appropriate, I think. |
| I probably regret this post by now. |
| My dad wants me to marry a cousin. Thank god my mother is against it. |
| Like some have said I think maturity should come before the matter of age. |
Higashi_no_Kaze said: 12 is appropriate, I think. Old men will be in heaven if that happened. Not a wise idea plus the chance of exploitation is huge. |
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| Marriage shouldn't necessarily be influenced by someone's age, however I personally think marriage before 20 years old is inappropriate. Simply because I think people before the age of 20 are generally not mature enough to make such an important decision. Besides the age there are two factors that are important: the situation and the individual person. For example there's a big difference between being together for four years and just five months. Besides this it depends on what a couple has experienced and has been through together. I think a long distance couple would consider marriage earlier than "normal" couples. As in a long distance relationship the most essential parts of a relationship will be tested: trust, honesty and love itself. For example if a long distance couple decide to marry after 'dating' for four years at the age of 22, then it would be acceptable in my eyes. (of course it would depend on the financial situation, etc.) Of course this could be the case in normal relationships too, but most couples simply don't go through those situations and are thus not 'matured' enough regarding their relationship. You see a lot of people marrying at an early age just to divorce a couple of years later. (sometimes even months!) In the end it will all depend on the couple that will decide upon marriage, some people are just more matured than others. |
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| So, uh, the economic and legal benefits of marriage isn't something to be considered? At least if someone live together anyways, and don't seem to be getting shaky anytime soon, marriage would make for a great bonus in that regard, if nothing else. |
Suzune-chan said: Hoppy said: selective_yellow said: akihibari said: below 25 is just too young..the couple can't be that prepared for a family.. Do people that get married need to have kids? Or better yet do people that have kids need to be married? @Selective Yellow -No @Hoppy- Yes, because if not no one will take care of them and everyone will spends years and thousands in legal battles about who will or will not pay for them. Bullshit. Apparently you have never heard of single parents. |
| I dont think there isnt really certain age of marriage but i can't say i will marry someone till im atleast 25-37 |
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| I definitely think everyone should wait until they are at least 18, which I think is also the law in most of the USA. Otherwise, it depends on the maturity of the people involved and the situation. Personally, I'm definitely not getting married until I'm at least 25. There are too many cases out there of people getting married too soon and then getting divorced (example: my dad was only 20 when he married his first wife. They eventually got divorced and both remarried different people. ). Of course, there are also a few cases where things turned out fine for young marriages. My two oldest sisters both got married when they were 21, and the older one is approaching her 15th anniversary. Of course, it's still possible that they will end up getting a divorce at some point in the future, but that also happens with people who waited until they were much older to get married, like my friends whose parents are getting divorced but didn't get married until they were in their 30s or 40s (I don't know their exact ages). Either way, I think 15 years is a pretty long time, so their marriage isn't a failure. There are definitely cases where young marriages make a lot of sense. For example, my sister who is about to celebrate her 15th anniversary married a man from England (and she lives in England with him and their children). Like the rest of my immediate family, she is from the USA. Basically, their choices were get married or live in separate countries, because the whole immigration thing in both countries suck. |
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| after seeing all of my highschool friends get married right when they hit 18, only to be divorced no more than 2 years later i think rushing into a marriage is a really silly idea. you have the whole rest of your life to find that perfect someone. |
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Hoppy said: selective_yellow said: Or better yet do people that have kids need to be married? Actualy, one of my uncle living in Nova Scotia (canada) had a child with his girlfriend 3 years ago, he had 18ish months (after birth) to get married to her or they would lose the child. I can't find any law or detail about that on the internet so it might be an isolated case. |
Maal said: Hoppy said: selective_yellow said: Or better yet do people that have kids need to be married? Actualy, one of my uncle living in Nova Scotia (canada) had a child with his girlfriend 3 years ago, he had 18ish months (after birth) to get married to her or they would lose the child. I can't find any law or detail about that on the internet so it might be an isolated case. What? That is not a law. I am from Canada and the government did not take me away. People get divorced all the time. That makes no sense, unless there are some other factors you are not sharing. |
| Woah... Marriage... All i can say is RESPECT to those who manage to get married and don't split up after 4-5 years. Much respect -.- |
ProdiGene said: Yeah, wedlock. The minimum age, here in India, is set 18 years for women and 21 years for men, to get married. Before that, it's illegal. I've always wondered why the coerce is even needed. Premature marriage, without thinking closely, is mostly the reason why people get divorced in most cases. There's also the case when people get married intentionally without even knowing their partners completely. I've seen 20 year-old lovebirds wanting to get married who don't even know each other for more than 5 months. Geez, what's the rush about? Why on Earth would you want to get married when you're only in College? Why the hell would anyone younger than 25 want to get tied down so early? I guess I'd understand if the woman's pregnant or something, but c'mon. You should at least get to know each other before getting yourself into it. For Christ's sake, there are so many people to meet and so many things to experience! In my opinion, people should at least try to live together before getting themselves into wedlock. Get to know each other more, get to learn about your good and bad points, etc. and then think about it. What do you — people of MAL — think over the matter? Well I don't really see the point in making it illegal, because it might lower the divorce rate, but I would imagine there is little to no other differences. I was engaged prior to finishing University. Why? Well, it's rather simple in my case I we'd been best friends since we were 16, and dating exclusively since 20. There may be a large amount of people to meet and things to experience, however that being said I've never found anyone that remotely compares to my significant other and I experienced all the dating I cared to in high school really. Everyone has a different situation, so I don't think there is any set answer on when people should get married, if they should get married at all. Marriage is only a tradition really, a symbolic act that I myself never found necessary, but be that as it may, I think imposing age restrictions that go above 18 is rather pointless. I agree about the living together part as well, though I imagine people who do, have a higher rate of pregnancy. So, that's something to keep in mind, but outside of that I think it's highly beneficial to live together prior. |
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| In UK you can get married when you're 16 with your parents permission. Legal age is 18. But I think 16 is waaayyyyy too young for marriage. I think you should get married around 30. And you have to have been with that person for at least 2 years. |
| Just because people get married or settle down quickly, it doesn't mean it always ends in divorce. My parents got married after being together for eight months and knowing each other a year. My aunt and uncle got married after just about six months and knowing each other for the same length of time. They're still doing just fine. As for age? A friend of mine got married pretty soon after she graduated from high school. It's been ten years, they're still happily married. It has more to do with maturity than just age. I do have to say, wait until both people are out of high school, but you don't necessarily have to wait until you're through college (if of course, both or either of them are even going through college). If it feels right, and you have the means necessary to move in together, then go for it. I was almost surprised with how many people are so against marriage (and even relationships, with some of them) here, until I remembered this is an anime site. Lol, nerds. |
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| Getting married, because if you treated it like it was potentially dangerous, and a major expense worth doing the same research you would do for a major purchase like a house, chances are more people would have more success with staying married. Dating a minimum of 10 times with NO sex means you find out about the person before you ever risk awkward situations like accidental pregnancies with someone you sure don't want to have kids with. Living with the person for a few months means you get to see them being who they really are day to day. Because just being a great fuck won't make you want to be stuck with a person when they get older and unable to be that great fuck any longer. Because a great marriage is about liking the inner person as much as you like the outer person. It's about being ok with the person's weird habits as well as their behaviour while dating (often not the same). It's about having the same life goals, or at least having life goals you can live with. Look at the beach babes and the hunks of the 70s, because that is all you can expect from today's fapping targets and drool magnets of today. That girl you'd so like to take to bed in time is someone's granny. That hunk of muscle if tomorrows flabby balding wide at the middle old man. Time comes for all of us. My wife is still the person I like to screw the most. Even if she likely couldn't get a 20 year old hard under any circumstances. I'm no beefcake myself. But I sure made the right choice 25 years ago. I didn't judge her on her then looks or her then occupation though. I simply liked who I met that day so long ago. |
| While not technically anime, currently I am a big fan of Hatsune Miku. At least I can go see her in concert. |
| Age != maturity. I'm 26 and I act like an idiot at times. A great deal of brain growth and development happens between 14 and 24. Your personality will change a lot in that time. What you want when you're a teen won't necessarily be what you will want when you're in your mid 20s. This is also why it's so silly for kids to go to college straight out of high school. My stepsister, who I consider to be more mature and focused than I am, got married when she was 18. I got married when I was 19. The difference between us is that while she got a divorce after only a year, my husband and I are still together after 6 years. I can't tell you exactly what makes our marriage work, and what made my stepsister's marriage fail. I have no clue. All I can tell you is we're happy together and our responsibilities are well-taken care of. TL;DR: A minimum legal age should be there, yes. But, it's up to the individual to decide whether they're ready to seek long-term companionship. Let people make these mistakes for themselves. It's the only way they'll learn. |
shyranelle said: Age != maturity. I'm 26 and I act like an idiot at times. A great deal of brain growth and development happens between 14 and 24. Your personality will change a lot in that time. What you want when you're a teen won't necessarily be what you will want when you're in your mid 20s. This is also why it's so silly for kids to go to college straight out of high school. My stepsister, who I consider to be more mature and focused than I am, got married when she was 18. I got married when I was 19. The difference between us is that while she got a divorce after only a year, my husband and I are still together after 6 years. I can't tell you exactly what makes our marriage work, and what made my stepsister's marriage fail. I have no clue. All I can tell you is we're happy together and our responsibilities are well-taken care of. TL;DR: A minimum legal age should be there, yes. But, it's up to the individual to decide whether they're ready to seek long-term companionship. Let people make these mistakes for themselves. It's the only way they'll learn. Almost looked like one of my posts there for a moment hehe. I guess you managed to mentally evolve in a way that didn't conflict with what your wife liked about you to begin with. 25 years later, and I am NOT the guy my wife married really any more. Not been easy being with me as I have been disabled since 94. But some of who and what I was, didn't survive due to my disability. I lost some portions of me better discarded in some cases. Sometimes the change if for the worse sometimes for the better. Your sis getting divorced in a year just shows she NEVER thought about it much at all. |
| While not technically anime, currently I am a big fan of Hatsune Miku. At least I can go see her in concert. |
| The only reason I'd want to be young when I marry, is so that I won't be really old for my children. For example if I got married at 30 (not being very technical but bare with me), my child would be 15 when I am 45. On the other hand, getting married at 20, I'd only be 35, and I would say that I'm young enough to participate in similar activites to my children, like sports. That's only my take however, but obviously children are only one aspect of a marriage, if at all. I say as long as the two are mature, and wise people, allow them to marry as they wish. Putting laws against it is unnecessary, and the idiots that do wish to marry, allow them too as well. It'll be a good growing-up experience for them. Nevertheless, if you do wish to throw kids into the equation, a lot of children are now dealing with divorced or single parents and it's almost the same as having parents that are still together. TL;DR: Sometimes getting divorced is better than forcing a marriage. Young marriages are okay with the right people. |
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