Do you think you could be a better parent than your own?
Yes
39.4%
26
No
25.8%
17
Maybe
34.8%
23
66 votes
| As a child, you've probably been told off on numerous occasions. "Don't do this, or don't do that! Don't watch anime coz its too violent or pornographic, don't hang out with so-and-so because they look like delinquents"...all the stuff that some parents are ignorant about anyways....and so on(well you get the gist of it) Now I'm pretty sure whether your 13 or 30(and not yet a parent) that you'd once thought "I'd be a better parent then my own." ...but do you think you could? |
| Many people tend to avoid becoming their parents and are afraid that they will eventually become them |
| Even when I was in crowd, I was always alone |
| I want to be as great as my parents, maybe even a bit better. There are only small complaints, but they're understandable since I know where they're coming from. |
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| My Mom did a pretty shitty job, but I don't want kids... I have a short temper, and I am afraid of fucking them up. ;-; |
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| At first, I was going to say "yes," but just as I was about to click it, I realized something. Were my parents not largely, if not entirely, responsible for who I am? And am I not proud of who I am? So, even though I dislike their methods and don't give them much credit, in retrospect, they did pretty well. Therefore, I answered "maybe." Although, I myself have no intention of having children. I just don't like them. Related: I hate it when people say "no one teaches you how to be a parent." You know who teaches you? Your own parents do. |
obliviouz said: I would do it my way. My parents method worked to an extent in which; I am now able to think, sympathize, empathize and be extremely grateful of things.As a child, you've probably been told off on numerous occasions. "Don't do this, or don't do that! Don't watch anime coz its too violent or pornographic, don't hang out with so-and-so because they look like delinquents"...all the stuff that some parents are ignorant about anyways....and so on(well you get the gist of it) Now I'm pretty sure whether your 13 or 30(and not yet a parent) that you'd once thought "I'd be a better parent then my own." ...but do you think you could? That said, when I become a parent; I will definitely deal with it the way i dealt with challenges in the past. I would never compare myself to my mom and pops. I just wish that I can teach my kid humility on top of being the most well rounded individual I can offer society. |
| Yeah i think i could be better. I'll take what theyve taught me, and spice it up to become better. |
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| My parents were pretty much great. They were encouraging, thoughtful, interested, etc. They lead by good example, not by scolding. It kind of helps that I was naturally quiet instead of a spazz though. |
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| Maybe. I know I have a short temper, but I also know where my parents fell short (and how that messed me up a bit :P ). I do think they overall did a god job. But overall, until I'm raising a kid 24/7, I will have no idea. |
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| Yes and no. I could be a better parent than my father quite easily, but I seriously doubt I could come close to how awesome my mother is. I'm aware of my own flaws and know I wouldn't be a particularly good parent, which is why I haven't had kids, much to many people's surprise (anyone over about 25 without kids seems to be an anomaly these days) but I think it's due to my mother that I'm so self aware and not egotistical enough to think I could do it anyway. |
| my mom is fucking awesome, so i only hope to be as good as her. i'm looking forward to her guidance whenever i have kids. |
| op doesnt understand why kids should be told these things, would make a bad parent |
windy said: my mom is fucking awesome, so i only hope to be as good as her. i'm looking forward to her guidance whenever i have kids. Woo for awesome mothers \o |
| I think I'd be a bit more allowing than my parents. I'd probably be a worse parent for it. |
| My parents were quite overbearing and attempted to control every aspect of my life as though I was my mother's personal barbie doll. I hope to be a much better parent then that. |
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sweetbunny34 said: op doesnt understand why kids should be told these things, would make a bad parent lol, I was a kid and am about to start a family(and hopefully have kids) of my own by end of year...I asked due to that growing up as a 'bad' kid who had ethnic parents, made me think would I be following in their footsteps... ...and its not that I 'hate' the way my parents raised me, but due to their ethnic beliefs, it was pretty hard growing up in a western world |
| Yes and no. I'm going to learn from their mistakes but I will make lots of new mistakes, too. |
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obliviouz said: hmm i guess its a fine line, you need discipline so they know whats right and whats wrong, but too much will make them resent you and go out of their way to do wrong things. im just glad my parents arent religious, religious parents seem to be extremely strictsweetbunny34 said: op doesnt understand why kids should be told these things, would make a bad parent lol, I was a kid and am about to start a family(and hopefully have kids) of my own by end of year...I asked due to that growing up as a 'bad' kid who had ethnic parents, made me think would I be following in their footsteps... ...and its not that I 'hate' the way my parents raised me, but due to their ethnic beliefs, it was pretty hard growing up in a western world |
| My mother is bipolar and has ADHD, which can be problematic at times. When she's not angry, when nothing is going on at work and when I do my chores, she is very sweet. My dad already passed, but he was the greatest parent you could ask for. He understood my love for anime, and spoiled me at times but still was a parent. He was sick for most of the time he was alive, but he still did housework which is more than he needed to do. As tired as I get of my mom my parents are really inspirational. We've never had the most money, but mom still works really hard to pay bills and buy things for me. I shouldn't take my mother for granted. I honestly don't know if I could measure up to my parents. At my current age, as a parent, probably not. |
| I'm gonna have to break the 'awesome mom' cycle. My mom abused me, physically and verbally, until she kicked me out when I was 17. I now live with my dad, who is the coolest dad in the world. Sure, we fight at times but that happens. We get over it in like, five minutes. I'm honestly afraid to have kids, half because I don't want to end up like my mother, and the other half is because of my own mental issues. |
| I don't want children, but I still think I could be a better parent if I did somehow end up having some. I notice my parents mistakes and would try to fix them. But then again, just like they say in The Breakfast Club ... We all turn out like our parents, it's inevitable. (or something like that I don't know the exact quote =/ ) |
Jay_Ox said: No. I do not want to have children because I don't want to be bothered with raising them. Therefore I would not make a better parent. yea this is me too |
| The other day my dad put ant poison in the dishwasher because he found an ant in it. But I think they did a great parenting job, besides a few crazy things here and there |
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| Barely being an adult and realizing the struggles that come with it, I've gained incredible respect for my parents. That's not to say I didn't already have tremendous respect, I've just obtained some more. Growing up, neither of my parents were college graduates. Money was tight, they struggled, but still managed to cloth, feed, get us necessary supplies, with a little leftover for toys, movies, etc... They instilled the idea that I can do better with my life than they did. They taught me that working for money is an admirable thing. They showed me respect for others and not to judge others based on looks or status. They also allowed me to be myself, always encouraging whatever it was I was doing. Whether I was playing soccer, running track, or wanting to dye my hair blue. They never objected. If it wasn't for them, I don't know what type of person I would have turned into. I don't know if I would be as well adjusted and well rounded or if I'd have any of the ethics they taught me. All I know is that they were fantastic parents who did everything they could to help my brother and I grow. You can't ask for better parents than that. I assume I'd never measure up to them in parenting. I'm also not someone who plans on having children, but if I did, I'd feel a great amount of pressure to do half as good of a job as my parents did. |
| My mom controlled a lot of aspects of my life, so it was hard to learn to be independent, but she also kept from making a lot of bad mistakes and taught me good morals and how to save money. She also supported me through college, helping to pay for my books and gas money. I can't say I was always happy with how she tried to control my life, but I am thankful that she was there for me and supported me financially. My father is the opposite. My father was kind of a "it's up to you" type of guy. He's not real dependable when it comes to needing help with something, but he also taught me pretty good morals and allowed me to live at home rent-free while I was in college. We also go out to eat together often, since he loves dining out. Despite the fact that he didn't really pay attention to what we were doing, he was pretty strict on some things. He hated smoking and hated alcohol, and although he wouldn't talk directly to you if you were doing these things, he made it known he wasn't happy with your behavior. I'm not sure if this is a good or bad thing, though it's not behavior that I'd want to model, especially if my kid were underage. Overall, my parents were pretty decent, I think. I can look back on them now and see that they were really focused on making sure I grew up properly and didn't make any major mistakes. They were really religious, which may turn some people off, but I respect that since it meant I grew up with good morals and never really got addicted to drinking or smoking, which can be harmful if done in large amounts. And no, they didn't really bother me about videogames/anime, which I really respected. They knew and trusted me enough to know I wasn't getting into anything too bad. I don't really know if I'd be a better parent than mine. A lot of people say I'd make a good parent, but I'm not really sure. I'd be more lenient than my parents, but I might be too lenient, I think... |
federJul 19, 2010 10:34 PM
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Mythica said: I'm gonna have to break the 'awesome mom' cycle. My mom abused me, physically and verbally, until she kicked me out when I was 17. I now live with my dad, who is the coolest dad in the world. Sure, we fight at times but that happens. We get over it in like, five minutes. I'm honestly afraid to have kids, half because I don't want to end up like my mother, and the other half is because of my own mental issues. Wow, I'm sorry. The rest of us should be blessed to know our parents aren't abusive. |
| Iunno, I love my mom but I also kind of hate her... I've always though that I'd be able to do a much, much better job raising a kid that her but then... I do look foward to raising a kid though, hopefully I'll do a good job. |
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windy said: my mom is fucking awesome, so i only hope to be as good as her. i'm looking forward to her guidance whenever i have kids. This. |
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| Again, to break the "my mom is the best!!" cycle: My mom is a cocaine addict and has been nothing but a terrible parent, kidnapping me, emotionally abusing me to the point where I loath her. There is no redeeming quality about her personality and I'd really wish she would stop trying to contact me all the time. It's really fucking irritating. So yeah, I could be a better parent than my mom. My dad started a business and ignored my retarded mother, and I hardly knew him when I was a kid (and I was scared of him because he was strict unlike my mom who was grumpy about living but didn't really understand the concept of setting rules or doing something other than watching TV). But he was somewhat forced to play a huge role in my life and he didn't do a terrible job, though I grew up pretty much on my own. He was at work all the time, so I'm used to solitude. There was a time where I was forced to go to like daycare for older elementary school students and that was probably the most social time of my life. I hardly saw him, though. We were also poor at the time. I was having my own troubles but my brother is one of those "problem" children, so when my dad was dealing with us kids he was dealing with my brother. So I love my dad and he's changed a lot over the years, but I disagree with him on a lot of things. He says things that generally hurt my feelings, even still. He's really strict but hasn't been around enough to enforce any rules, so I've never really had someone around enforcing rules on me (but they were always there). Just, all of this probably fucked me up and changed who I would of been, I guess. My brother too. I don't regret it or anything, and it has given me different strengths and weaknesses. So yeah, I could be a better parent than him too, though his situation in raising me wasn't an easy one at all. So while I don't hate him or think he was terrible, and I respect him in my own kind of way, I could do better, I believe. I hope not to be dealt the same situation as him; it would help. |
ESSWHYJul 19, 2010 11:35 PM
| To those who said they don't want kids; seriously what are you doing here? ESSWHY said: Tough childhood you have there.Again, to break the "my mom is the best!!" cycle: My mom is a cocaine addict and has been nothing but a terrible parent, kidnapping me, emotionally abusing me to the point where I loath her. There is no redeeming quality about her personality and I'd really wish she would stop trying to contact me all the time. It's really fucking irritating. So yeah, I could be a better parent than my mom. My dad started a business and ignored my retarded mother, and I hardly knew him when I was a kid (and I was scared of him because he was strict unlike my mom who was grumpy about living but didn't really understand the concept of setting rules or doing something other than watching TV). But he was somewhat forced to play a huge role in my life and he didn't do a terrible job, though I grew up pretty much on my own. He was at work all the time, so I'm used to solitude. There was a time where I was forced to go to like daycare for older elementary school students and that was probably the most social time of my life. I hardly saw him, though. We were also poor at the time. I was having my own troubles but my brother is one of those "problem" children, so when my dad was dealing with us kids he was dealing with my brother. So I love my dad and he's changed a lot over the years, but I disagree with him on a lot of things. He says things that generally hurt my feelings, even still. He's really strict but hasn't been around enough to enforce any rules, so I've never really had someone around enforcing rules on me (but they were always there). Just, all of this probably fucked me up and changed who I would of been, I guess. My brother too. I don't regret it or anything, and it has given me different strengths and weaknesses. So yeah, I could be a better parent than him too, though his situation in raising me wasn't an easy one at all. So while I don't hate him or think he was terrible, and I respect him in my own kind of way, I could do better, I believe. I hope not to be dealt the same situation as him; it would help. |
| Yes, I can be a better parent than mine. |
| On one hand, my mom is very tolerant and a bit crazy; likes computer games and is overally fun to talk. On the other hand, she's a hopeless hypocrite who in the past only thought about being with her boyfriend (I'm not being the egoistical one there; we moved because of her relationships eight times for fuck's sake) and didn't give a damn about the fact that it ruined my life. Also, she raised me in a way "you're smart, you'll know what it means. <some time later> Oh, you're [insert age here] now, of course you know what it means, I didn't have to tell you anything :D" My father is a criminal who's in jail now and I haven't seen him in 9 years. I don't care about him anyway, he's a loser with no right to speak to me. End of the story. So yeah, I'd be a better parent even though I hate kids with passion and won't ever have one because of health issues. |
moedeaJul 20, 2010 4:20 AM
Jay_Ox said: No. I do not want to have children because I don't want to be bothered with raising them. Therefore I would not make a better parent. |
shadowsword said: Jay_Ox said: No. I do not want to have children because I don't want to be bothered with raising them. Therefore I would not make a better parent. You'll want them soon enough, when older maybe; when married maybe. |
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| When I get children I'm going to make my parents teach them Vietnamese and Chinese. I'll be such a crap father.. LOL I don't think I'll ever beat my parents. I've grown up spoilt, I can't do anything... There's also the issue of what job I will get when I leave school, what my marks will be, what degree I'm getting... Sigh.. If I end up getting a good job, I'll probably be an enthusiastic parent I'm sure though. |
| I kinda regret of being a human being..... |
DoubleDango said: shadowsword said: Jay_Ox said: No. I do not want to have children because I don't want to be bothered with raising them. Therefore I would not make a better parent. You'll want them soon enough, when older maybe; when married maybe. Umm...no thanks. I hate them and I don't want my own. |
Jiynnx said: greedy parent =P Well actually the more children you born the more chance they think that he/she will become a great person in the future.No. I really don't know how they have managed to look after seven children in their lives. human population overflow!!! |
Frito said: To those who said they don't want kids; seriously what are you doing here? A hypothetical situation was posed and I answered in a hypothetical manner. The fact of whether I want children or not is void in this kind of conversation as the question was not "Do you want to have kids?" but rather "do you think you could be a better parent?" Simple enough to answer, no? |
| Probably not, when I think about the stupid things I did when I was younger, and the patience they had with me, not to mention my other fucked up siblings, there's no way I could be better than they were. Besides, WHY THE FUCK WOULD I WANT KIDS??? |
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