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Jun 8, 2010 4:29 PM

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First thing when looking at a prospective guy is general body structure.
Then eyes.
Then personality.



 
Jun 8, 2010 5:06 PM

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Higashi_no_Kaze said:
Embah said:
I only notice a guy if he has long hair. If he does,
-Body. I love skinny guys.
-Face in general.
-Clothes.

I'm kinda picky.


Me 1 year ago would have rejoiced to see there are girls interested in skinny guys with long hair xD Never met one during my 6 years of long-haired skinny-ness *gg*.

They're surprisingly hard to find, too.
 
Jun 8, 2010 6:05 PM

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The first thing that grabs my attention is how the girl expresses affection, verbally or physically.

ie is it timid and unsure, or unsure but veiled by joking aggression, or just completely relaxed and confident.
 
Jun 8, 2010 6:15 PM

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Hair (I'm a sucker for cute hair)
Body (height/boobs/weight)
Smiles (teeth)
Clothing Style
 
Jun 8, 2010 8:31 PM

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My order is...
1.Height/weight - Tall girls freak me out :(
2.Eyes/teeth - dem pearly whites
3.Personality - No stuck-up cheerleaders for me kthx
4.Hair - As long as they're not bald anything works for me

Nothing must be perfect!!
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Jun 8, 2010 10:35 PM

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ass titties and big booty bitches.
 
Jun 9, 2010 9:43 AM
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Other than the obvious of how they look. Their Smile?
A miserable person isn't a cute person.

 
Jun 9, 2010 10:15 AM

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They're tits and how masculine they are.
 
Jun 9, 2010 10:30 AM
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1-body
2-skin
3-boobs
 
Jun 9, 2010 5:16 PM

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Unless they're really cute/good looking, I don't notice much. Usually I get exposed to them for a while before they grow on me.

But the order would probably be face, then figure (not really overweight because it looks sloppy).
 
Jun 9, 2010 10:24 PM

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I like a girl with long hair and my same race. And not the shouting type. I actually found a girl with these stuff but, she only notice me as a friend or less T~T
 
Jun 10, 2010 12:31 AM

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Wow there's a lot of shallow people here.
 
Jun 10, 2010 12:41 AM
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Shiro-Neko said:
Wow there's a lot of shallow people here.

Unless your Helen Kellerin' it up, its hard to not notice physicality first.

So cliche for an anime board, but I notice eyes if I'm close up, I'm a sucker for big eyes (Audrey Hepburn), second is the waist and below.

Although the first 10 minutes of conversation can absolutely negate all the above, and likewise, can def add points as well.
 
Jun 10, 2010 12:46 AM

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Hair often piques my interest, but I rarely take a second glance since ultimately it doesn't matter.
 
Jun 10, 2010 1:29 AM

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Not 3D.
 
Jun 10, 2010 3:43 AM
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attitude.
personality.
face.

>_> I've never met a geniune cute guy before.
sigh...
 
Jun 10, 2010 7:13 AM
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(girl)

1- hair
2- face
3- voice
4- height
5- weight
6- rest of the body

 
Jun 10, 2010 7:56 AM
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1. face
2. personality
3. voice
 
Jun 10, 2010 10:43 AM

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gr33nm4n said:
Shiro-Neko said:
Wow there's a lot of shallow people here.

Unless your Helen Kellerin' it up, its hard to not notice physicality first.

So cliche for an anime board, but I notice eyes if I'm close up, I'm a sucker for big eyes (Audrey Hepburn), second is the waist and below.

Although the first 10 minutes of conversation can absolutely negate all the above, and likewise, can def add points as well.


Yeah I agree there it's hard not to notice physicality, nothing wrong with that. I'm just saying the ones that are shallow are the ones saying boobs and ass and such, some of the more private parts of a person. Yeah obviously as guys we're attracted to those things, but for that to be the first thing you notice or look for in a girl is a bit shallow.
 
Jun 10, 2010 2:58 PM

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honestly i don't think i'd be able to date a fat girl or someone reeeeaaaallly unattractive. and i don't like the blonde types, so i actually try to avoid them as much as i can.

''You don't love a woman because she is beautiful, but she is beautiful because you love her.''

1. general appearance - face, hair, body etc. Usually i don't pay much attention to boobs. Face plays a major role if i think she's attractive.
2. Clothing etc.
3. personality - when we start talking or smth.

on a serious note - it helps a lot if the anime had a good budget.
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Jun 10, 2010 3:42 PM

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Shiro-Neko said:
I'm just saying the ones that are shallow are the ones saying boobs and ass and such, some of the more private parts of a person.

Noticing chest isn't any different than noticing hair.
Furthermore placing importance on one area of the body is not any more shallow than the other.

I don't see what saying "private parts" has any weight or relevance to this issue of "shallowness". Furthermore the breasts are as much of a fetish as any other part of the body. The non-genital posterior is not exactly a reproductive organ either, not that it matters.

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Jun 10, 2010 5:20 PM

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ukonkivi said:
Shiro-Neko said:
I'm just saying the ones that are shallow are the ones saying boobs and ass and such, some of the more private parts of a person.

Noticing chest isn't any different than noticing hair.


So if i'd be starting at her breasts, than it wouldn't have any other effect/meaning than if i'd be staring at her hair? And so for a ''normal'' person hair would be sexually attractive and get him sexualy aroused, just as breasts would?


 
Jun 10, 2010 5:39 PM

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tits or eyes
 
Jun 10, 2010 7:20 PM

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1. Hair
2. Eyes / face
3. Everything else
 
Jun 10, 2010 7:32 PM

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TITS (MUST!)
Ass
Face (please no acne)
Long Hair
Not anorexic or over weight.
 
Jun 10, 2010 7:33 PM

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Whether she is an anime girl or not

yeah, I went there
 
Jun 10, 2010 7:44 PM

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As long as he has hygene and isn't shorter than 5ft.

Then, his personality.
 
Jun 10, 2010 8:10 PM

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Generally:
1) Smile
2) Eyes
3) Hair
4) Style

I like white guys... but I've never dated one LMAO. I think they have eyes that are just so much better. :| I'm Asian, so I can't see myself with anyone but Asians rn T_T But I think white guys are so beautiful, generally~ Hahaha.



 
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So if i'd be starting at her breasts, than it wouldn't have any other effect/meaning than if i'd be staring at her hair?

In terms of shallowness, yes, it is exactly the same.
That there is more societal taboo around breasts is a completely different matter.

Shallowness isn't a cultural thing. It's a universal concept.

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And so for a ''normal'' person hair would be sexually attractive and get him sexualy aroused, just as breasts would?

Normal is cultural though. The breast fetish is full culturally spread.
If culture dictated that hair was sexually attractive, most men would find it sexually attractive.

Of course even the sexual arousing capability in current society is debatable. And not a lot of people distinguish between the sexiness of breasts and the attractiveness of breasts. Most men call both hair and breasts attractive, but that doesn't distinguish a whole lot. A lot of people could find breasts attractive moderately in the overall sense of the body when they say "I like big breasts" or "I like smaller breasts" could simply mean something in an aesthetic scale as saying "I don't think bald women are as attractive to me".

Furthermore, arousal isn't enjoyment. In lower parts of my self esteem, I failed to find sexually arousing what I preferred aesthetically and found a paradoxical arousal in say, manly men, in communities in which twinks and effeminate men were frowned upon. I got so much punishment/undesirable "reinforcement" though constant mental thinking, that I literal started to get a mental block trying to get aroused by my psychological preference(effeminate men), and being bombarded by the feeling my only thing I could turn to was what was "ok" and being forced down my throat, manly. And the more as time went on the mental block got stronger and every time I would see manly guy associations or picture, while heavily psychologically unappealing(I wouldn't even want to kiss them), it was scary and exciting because it was like I was like my sexuality was being defeated and a giant wall was being plastered over my goal of getting back to my sexuality. That I just tried to jump and jump and couldn't overcome, all just because I couldn't escape the dissenting voices in my own head. And I see my "enemy" all the time, it's still with me lately, and it becomes exciting because it's like "oh no not this again", which is why it's exciting, because I don't want it.:/

But yeah, from all sexual arousing aesthetics to non-sexual or taboo to not, it's all equally shallow. Because none of it is especially personality related. About the closest you can get is facial emotions reading, and some people have mental disorders and such that make them, very hard to read, or give awkward emotions, and could be really nice people deep down.

So there's a lot to do with "attraction", from purely sexual to purely psychological,
By the way I really need psychological help from this dysfunction between what I'm aroused by and what I enjoy lately and how separated and different they are, but I really don't know how(aside from the fact I've cut off porn from my life for several months now, which sadly doesn't seem to be helping). I've tried searching around to fix my problem, but to no avail.:<

Ehem, this is so off topic. Well I have this odd aesthetic for first noticing people who might have potential personalities I might be interested in. It's of course not going to be accurate and is judgmental, but that's exactly what first impressions are. You can't know someone's personality on first notice. And I look for people who might often be considered a bit "different" by extremely strict notions of the status quo, I would hope as normal as possible. I have this odd contrast in liking between like, either really androgynous general look, and just like, random novelty/cutesy type stuff that's not-very gender uncomforing. Because for women I would like a girl who, doesn't fit all the general role type stuff I find annoying and is instead a lot like me and a typical guy so I don't have to worry about that. And, have a lot in common because I'd want a girlfriend who doesn't "deep down want to be treated like a girl", much less someone who would rather spend her time putting on make-up than getting that "sweet new 'x' thing on that new 'x' video game(that I also like). And similarly with a guy, I don't want them being so macho and manly that they're just annoying.

It comes down to this, if you're androgynous, I see someone I would be more attracted to long term. It's just my sexuality, even if I'm going through this weird manly guy thing right now, people don't just change like that or it would cause divorce. I know what I like and I would prefer as much of it as possible. And I just can't imagine myself wanting to cuddle and be in a bed with beside, a ultra-muscular manly due or some skinny d cup woman with hips thrice the size of her stomach every single day for the rest of my life, shallow or not. That's the sexual part. Has things to do with fashion as well as body type, though they're not as important.

Then I also look at things like, does this person have some cool cutesy stuff on? For what reason do they like it? Does this person have that "scene kid" look that means they probably have certain shared pop-cultural interests? Does this person wear something politically that I disagree with? This this person wear an annoying, redneck-y American labeled clothing with a big eagle on it? Or does the personal look less nationalistic and more on my side of things?

Less that looks, and if I am able to notice a word or action first, I notice things like: Does this person act cute, and by cute, I mean endearing? For instance, do they have a good sense of humor and seem bubbly? Do they seem approachable and nice? Did they say something I agree with or disagree with? Did they say anything or perform an action that shows an interest similar to mine?

If I meet this hot emo I mean scene guy, really all feminine and hot and attractive and hot and all that, and did I say hot? Yeah well if I meet him being an awesome person who says Chrono Trigger is the best video game ever and oh I don't just listen to random pop punk and Alesana styled Mainstreamo, I also really like x, x, and x. Oh and I'm a Pagan and not necessarily a Wiccan though, AND OH HEY I'M JUST RANDOMLY WILD IN PUBLIC BECAUSE I'M A FUN PERSON, but also from that I'm not just wild and fun, I'm also smart, and like to read lots of non-fiction, oh and I'm open minded and don't troll on everything I don't absolutely love, oh and I just love to travel and would like to see [x country/culture I also like]. Sold? Yeah, sold.

When I see a guy, I judge them by as much of this future I want as possible: :Hot emo guy after physical intimacy/cuddle time/anything physical:, oh hey, while snuggling, why don't we pop in and play some Tales of Symphonia, or New Super Mario Bros. Wii, or maybe some animu? Oh hey, now that we're done with that, want to go to the skatepark? Oh no just wanna skate the town. Tony Wakeford is doing what?, let's go! Oh hey, want to go out and look for some more Victorian and other classical decorations? Let's work on [something we love] together! Oh dear, we got ourselves x in x situation, oh well :ridiculously positive viewpoint about every situation:, KIRBBBYYYYYYYYYY. That stuff is the cream of the crop right there. The stuff distant dreams are made of.

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Jun 10, 2010 8:37 PM
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Okay why is everyone doing 1...2...3....4....5 when it's clearly asking "the first thing you notice"
 
Jun 11, 2010 12:32 AM

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Okay why is everyone doing 1...2...3....4....5 when it's clearly asking "the first thing you notice"


Because they all are a must need. I'm sure if we could, we'd look at everything at the same time.
 
Jun 11, 2010 3:55 AM

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personality
 
Jun 11, 2010 8:59 AM

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eyes ! and then the lips. i noticed that i tend to date girls with slanty eyes (not necessarily asian) and full lips.
 
Jun 11, 2010 3:07 PM

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1: Hair ( I also can't stand girls with pigtails)
2:Face
3:lenght ( i'm somehow turned off by girls taller than me, and no, i'm not short.)
4:width
5:Chest (more civil word for boobs)
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Jun 11, 2010 3:28 PM

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ukonkivi said:
I suppose I'm the only one who read all that...

We share physical and "psychological" attractions in men.
 
Jun 11, 2010 3:28 PM

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personality


You can notice it on the first glimpse? Wish I could too.


Those Adam's apples really appeal to me for some reason.
 
Jun 11, 2010 3:30 PM

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Cursesoul said:
personality


You can notice it on the first glimpse? Wish I could too.


Those Adam's apples really appeal to me for some reason.
This got a chuckle out of me.
 
Jun 11, 2010 8:24 PM

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hair
face
and his clothes. :3
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Jun 12, 2010 3:42 AM

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I've gotta say, quite an interesting reading.
I would think that the cultural part is still discussable. Without any research this would just be a guess.


 
Jun 12, 2010 4:02 AM

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Gotta be the legs. That and intellect. Plus relatively strait teeth. That about all I care for.
 
Jun 12, 2010 4:16 AM
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lovescream said:
Generally:
1) Smile
2) Eyes
3) Hair
4) Style

I like white guys... but I've never dated one LMAO. I think they have eyes that are just so much better. :| I'm Asian, so I can't see myself with anyone but Asians rn T_T But I think white guys are so beautiful, generally~ Hahaha.


I'm white and I've never dated an Asian. Wanna go out? =D jkjk
Its actually somewhat odd, I'm very attracted to a lot of Asians, but never had the chance to go out with one, unless you count Indian, but I mean far east Asian.
Most of the girls I have dated have been hispanic oddly enough.

Then again, I'm a HUGE geek, technophile, anime watchin, video game playin' guy and I've never even took someone out on a date that knew what anime was. Now THAT is cause for a sad face.
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Jun 12, 2010 4:27 AM
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Okay why is everyone doing 1...2...3....4....5 when it's clearly asking "the first thing you notice"


If you play Notorious B.I.G. - Hypnotize while watching your avatr pikachu's cheeks, I swear he moves to the beat and adds a whole new level of kawaii to gangsta.
 
Jun 12, 2010 5:31 AM

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body
face
hair
clothes
rings
body language
eye contact
smile
approach

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Jun 13, 2010 4:44 PM

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breast and ass(curves i guess you could say that)
body
face
eyes
voice
 
Jun 13, 2010 5:34 PM

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basically in this order

face and/or hair
body
personality/interests
other shit.
 
Jun 15, 2010 7:27 AM

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1. Hair
2. Face
3. Body
4. Attitude/personality
 
Jun 15, 2010 9:45 AM
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Face
Hair
Boobs
Nails. Black nail polish kinda turns me off :| Clean, trimmed, and natural is the best imo XD
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Jun 15, 2010 9:55 AM

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1.face
2.body
3.clothes
4.attitude/character/personality
 
Jun 15, 2010 1:29 PM

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the first thing i usually notice is the face
then i check the hair
so basically everything i check first is the head =p
 
Jun 15, 2010 2:45 PM

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Hair is the first thing I notice. I like short wavy hair.
 
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