| Just curious if anyone here feels the need to connect with people they used to know and if so how do you go about doing it. I was looking on Facebook and I come across an old school photo that was taken when I was 12/13. It's been 10 years since and so I clicked on a few names to see what they looked like now. I noticed that many of them have each other as friends despite the fact they probably no longer have anything to do with each other. It got me thinking, since my Facebook friends list is mostly restricted to people I have active contact with, why do people feel the need to add old school colleagues (not even friends) if they don't plan to ever meet them again? So I'm curious, how many of you like to befriend people you only knew very briefly and if so, why? Also, if you don't care about the past, why not? |
| That's one of the reasons I dislike Facebook - I keep getting friend requests from people I knew at school, who never showed an interest in me, and who I don't really give a shit about. I can count on one hand the people I would actually like to maintain contact with. Unfortunately, once I hit university and met people I connected with more, I kind of lost contact with my high school friends and we grew apart - but that's just life, I guess. If you want to re-connect with people, contact them again and strike up a conversation. Being Facebook friends is meaningless otherwise. why do people feel the need to add old school colleagues (not even friends) if they don't plan to ever meet them again? So they can boast 'I have X number of friends' on their Facebook profiles. |
| Well I don't see the point of that... Xbox achievement points though....that I can relate to! |
| Yeah I do. My childhood friend, who is one of the few people I still hung around with after high school. Haven't seen him in over five years, wonder what ever became of him. Don't even know where he lives anymore. :( |
| I don't care about my past. I have absolutely zero desire to have any contact with people from my school or work days. That's long behind me, and I've moved on to better things. I don't understand people's desire to do so through facebook and such. The entire concept is completely alien to me. I was glad to shed those people as I moved through life, why would I want to have anything to do with them now? |
| It's quite sad when I think about some of my old high school friends, who I never see, and who live five minutes away... but we don't really have that much in common anymore, so no one makes the effort and honestly, I can't really be bothered either. |
| Only the people that I really liked..... It is sad. For me I've only been away from high school for almost a year and I've almost lost all contact with my friends from high school. I only really hang out with the few that I still hang out with today. Other than that it's all people from my college. |
| I really couldn't be bothered to come up with a clever signature at this time. So right now I will go ahead and say nay and move on with my business |
| Well, most of the time I try to keep away from my old school mates who I didn't have much of relationship with. I find it very awkward and stupid to chat with long lost classmates who you don't give a rat's ass for, and it's most likely they don't either. Social networking sites are full of retards who only use it to make like a gizillion "friends", and show how very "emo" they are. However, I do keep in touch with my close buddies who I shared most of my student days with. They are the only people who I feel the need to connect with. I don't really believe in making friends through the internet. |
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Asako said: ^ Pretty much this.I don't care about my past. I have absolutely zero desire to have any contact with people from my school or work days. That's long behind me, and I've moved on to better things. I don't understand people's desire to do so through facebook and such. The entire concept is completely alien to me. I was glad to shed those people as I moved through life, why would I want to have anything to do with them now? |
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| Only if they turned hot over the years. |
| I don't feel a need to, but I like to anyway. Anyone I like I tend to stay in touch with, be it by text or e-mail or whatever. Even people I just kinda randomly meet in the middle of town or at a bus stop or something. If I like them and we talk for a while I'm always sure I have their number or I add them on Facebook so we can meet up some time. That's not too stalkerish, right? X'D |
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| Considering facebook contact between the kind of friends you're talking about is limited to tagged photos and updated status' I generally find that site no more than a place to pose. Just like myspace etc. You do get your genuine people who want to see what old school friends are up to but usually it's just a popularity contest. Especially when you have people try and add you who you met once, and maybe said hi to. It didn't take me long to delete mine. Sometimes I do feel like talking to my old best friends. Because the memories we shared are great. But then I realise that we have all changed and it couldn't possibly be the same. It's a sad thought. I'd rather have a time machine than facebook/myspace I guess. |
| No, not really. And I want to delete mostly everyone from my FB but that would be kinda intense... People would be all "why was I deleted" (BECAUSE WE HAVE NOT TALKED IN YEARS) |
| I find it fun... Not to see the people, but for them to see me and not recognize me or be surprised that I am what I am today. Sometimes I think about organizing old class meetings. Should do it someday. |
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| Connected with a old childhood friend of mine from AWHILE back through Facebook. We're pretty solid bros again, it's nice... |
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| Ehhh, not really. Once we're not friends anymore, it's pretty solid that we've moved on from each other. Although I do like to say hi occasionally to some old friends who I just never see anymore (for whatever reason). |
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| When people get new friends, they tends to forget their old friends. |
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| No. I prefer being on my own. |
| Eh, there are some people I'd prefer to never see again. |
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| One of my favorite things is to see an end. I don't like to drag on half assed relationships. |
| Probably one of my least favorite things in life is reconnecting with people. I guess I get an urge on rare occasions, but unless some event actually ties your lives together again (working at the same place, something like that), it's usually an awkward and futile endeavor. I'm not the kind of person that wants to end all relationships that aren't close. Seeing someone two times a year or something, say during school breaks, is not a problem for me. I just hate forcing a relationship that has already ended. |
| not really... If i was close to them that time then sure... |
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| Depends only if the person is a hot girl then it should't be used to know in the first place or a person who is a hot girl now then we can be friends again aint im such asshole ;D |
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| Connecting to people I used to know? Not really, if ever. I don't see the point. Even if we were good friends, there's a time to accept that things in the past belong there. |
| This thread makes me want to randomly talk to those random people I met on MMO again that's still on my MSN for some reason. It's funny that some people never seem to change. And it's also interesting that some people actually remember you, if you randomly chat with them. I can't say much for myself though. I think I asked at least quite a few number of people if I ever even knew them. |
| i like knowing when the lives of people I reconnect with have gone down hill, as it somehow gives me a small sense of satisfaction. But then again, I'm the one on an anime forum. |
Tachii said: This thread makes me want to randomly talk to those random people I met on MMO again that's still on my MSN for some reason. It's funny that some people never seem to change. And it's also interesting that some people actually remember you, if you randomly chat with them. I can't say much for myself though. I think I asked at least quite a few number of people if I ever even knew them. I used to play MMO, and left my character to my friends from the league. I even remember, that there was a boy, who swore to me, that one day, he will definitely find me and kill me. It's been 5 years since I have played, and I still have my friends from MMO in my MSN. But as I said before in post, people tends to forget their old friends, as they get the new one. I totally forgot about them, untill I have seen your post. |
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spupapi said: A lot of people hates commies... :DI even remember, that there was a boy, who swore to me, that one day, he will definitely find me and kill me. |
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| I do sometimes feel the need, but I hardly ever act on it. I realize that growing apart happens. At the same time, if I once had a good connection with a certain person, I find it sad that we've grown apart. But it happens and people change. |
| I would really like to see where my friends from the past are now, but honestly, I have no intentions of meeting up somewhere and talking to them. I'm not much of a talker anymore, so it probably would just be awkward and weird.... Kinda sad now that I think about it..I haven't seen any of my childhood friends since I was 10... |
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| I used to accept all the friend requests I got in FB from school friends but I realised that out of everyone I went to secondary school with, I only really wanted to stay in touch with two (and we have stayed in touch and meet up), so I deleted everyone else. Some people don't get the hint and have tried to re-friend me four times! |
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| I did set up a facebook and try to reconnect with some people I used to know, but then it just became apparent the main reason we don't know each other any more is because they are all really quite stupid actually. That's what happens with ''clicks'' though they become like the /b/ of normal life, jokes they think nobody else gets, forced meme and secret clubs to make themselves feel more important than other people, which is exactly why I fell out with them. It was a small minded group of people I hung around with in college that's all and just like /b/ they never moved on it's actually a bit sad, even though I am the loner with no love in their life i'd rather be that than a static joke that become stagnant and lost it's humour and charm a long long time ago just like a knock knock joke. Only the joke was that there were about 15 or so people who basically went to gigs and got drunk for a few years nothing much that special. |
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| No They where all pillocks. Where as I do have a Fackbook its not filled with people I dont know |
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Gogetters said: Asako said: ^ Pretty much this.I don't care about my past. I have absolutely zero desire to have any contact with people from my school or work days. That's long behind me, and I've moved on to better things. I don't understand people's desire to do so through facebook and such. The entire concept is completely alien to me. I was glad to shed those people as I moved through life, why would I want to have anything to do with them now? My sentiments as well. |
| Hey what's the idea of firing something dangerous like that in here when people are all dying and stuff! |
| Nope. I barely connect with the people I KNOW. |
| I wouldn't call it as "need", but sometimes when I am bored and sad then I just try to connect to people that I know in past and chat little bit. |
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Asako said: I don't care about my past. I have absolutely zero desire to have any contact with people from my school or work days. That's long behind me, and I've moved on to better things. I don't understand people's desire to do so through facebook and such. The entire concept is completely alien to me. I was glad to shed those people as I moved through life, why would I want to have anything to do with them now? I agree completely. People change from who they were before. As much as some people don't want to admit it, the people that you hang around with have an impact on your lifestyle and personality then when you no longer connect on any level with those people what reason is there to try and connect. To say "Hey, I'm popular, everyone knows who I am!" So what? |
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| That's one reason I don't have a facebook, and I'm too lazy to actually create one. There are people on facebook I would much rather forget about because I'm not the same person that I was back then. Also they probably didn't like me much back then either, so I highly doubt they would like me now. Though the dislike of each other is probably mutual.... =/ |
| I don't feel the need to "connect" with the people that I know now, so why would I bother to talk to somebody who I barely remember from my past? 'Sides, I'd rather forget about the people from my childhood years. |
novalis said: That's one of the reasons I dislike Facebook - I keep getting friend requests from people I knew at school, who never showed an interest in me, and who I don't really give a shit about. That's what irritated me, I just ignored them and kept my friends list as my FRIENDS, I make it literal >> But I tried catching up with people from school, they changed quite a bit and weren't that interesting, so I ended up not talking to them, again. I try to keep the people from the past in the past, as much as possible. |
| Yes, but I do lost contact with some people that I don't have on facebook. But I love to keep in contact with old friends, and people I don't talk to that much. I don't like my past going away especially if the reasons for which got unclose with wasn't a big deal or anything. But I'm only 16, so I don't have that many past friends I DON'T talk to now anyway, but in the future, I still hope so. I love them all very much. |
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| not in the least. they're not in my life for a good reason. |
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| I like to have a feeling of conection, even if it's not there. I like to be able to look down and say, "If I wanted to talk to my best friend from 3 years ago about XXX I'll be able to, and won't hesitate at all". Just me, though. |
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novalis said: If you want to re-connect with people, contact them again and strike up a conversation. This. |
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| I still hate 95% of the people I knew in high school. |
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| I don't feel the need to connect with people I used to know, if I have lost the contact with them is because our relationship wasn't good, and I consider it is not worthy to speak to them again, if I don't delete them from my Facebook is because I think it's unpollite, that's why the 90% of my Facebook contacts are useless, I rather prefer meeting new people. |
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