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Aug 19, 2:42 PM

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Thank you everyone for helping me , I feel much better after reading all of yours responses , my parents will divorce soon so that will be my new start.
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Lonely_Ronin123 said:
When you ask this kind of question you will probably get an answer like this : One day it will get better , let's be realistic it won't , you will keep living and living thinking like that but years pass by and nothing really changes. At least in my case

This is true. Hell, it just gets worse. I thought I was depressed 10 years ago. Now days I don't even know how I'm still hanging on.
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Find your own purpose. This isn't a question you can ask other people because objectively there is none.
“Loddfafnir, listen to my counsel: You will fare well if you follow it, It will help you much if you heed it. If aware that another is wicked, say so: Make no truce or treaty with foes.” - Havamal 127
 
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Sawilagar said:
Find your own purpose. This isn't a question you can ask other people because objectively there is none.


What if I can't find one? I guess there is no need to continue like this
 
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If you have experienced trauma, psychologically speaking, you will feel better about it with time.
If you feel your life is stuck in a rut, you are the only one who is able to change things for the better through your own ambition, and by attacking the source of your struggles. It won't get better by itself.

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MasterGlyth said:
If you have experienced trauma, psychologically speaking, you will feel better about it with time.
If you feel your life is stuck in a rut, you are the only one who is able to change things for the better through your own ambition, and by attacking the source of your struggles. It won't get better by itself.
his year of birth is 2003, so in this case it might actually get better by itself..

Shit, I suffered too when I was 16. Being a teen sucks so hard, like you're super helpless and the most random stuff can steamroll you, you don't know who you are or who you want to be or what you want to do, etc.

Imo he should just give it time. Lots of these issues resolve themselves as he gets older and gains more experience.
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What do you need a purpose for?
What's so bad about your life?

Of course nothing seems to change, you're like 16 and all you've ever known is school.
 
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Aug 19, 3:26 PM
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He's at that age. Most teens go through that phase.
That being said, there is no purpose in living, and if there is, most of the time you don't find it, it finds you. Life isn't like what we watch in anime/movies and shit where theres a grand scheme on why we were born and such. Life is just life, its there.
 
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>Born March 30, 2003

You're too young to be thinking about your life purpose. You're just going through phase, find your own life purpose. Not everyone gets one right off the bat, sometimes it takes decades. If you're depressed, find activities that you'll find enjoyment out of.
 
Aug 19, 4:09 PM

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Wait until you are an adult then life gets worse. You haven't experienced anything yet.

My advice always is get a job and you will always be doing something.
 
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You have to find that reason yourself. I'm sure you're young, you don't pay bills, and your parents take care of all your daily live tasks. Life isn't that bad if you compare it to how ppl live in other countries. You're just going through a phase and you need to find happiness within yourself. Because if you're unhappy now, Idk if you're going to survive when you're forced to have a job, etc.

Keep your head up. Life is great, it's all about mindset. If you think negative shit, then everything about your life will be negative in return.
 
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It really doesn’t get better. You work until you get old and sick, then you retire and die 10-15 years later. And that’s if you’re lucky.

Still, there are things that can entertain you while you’re here. Anime, video games, drugs, the internet, fat bitches, traveling, pets, lifting weights to get brolic

I just take life for what it is and try not to think about it too much, since nothing really matters in the end anyway.
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Lonely_Ronin123 said:
When you ask this kind of question you will probably get an answer like this : One day it will get better , let's be realistic it won't , you will keep living and living thinking like that but years pass by and nothing really changes. At least in my case
if it's not rude for me to ask, what changes have you made to yourself from the moment you start questioning yourself and thinking "life is suck" up till now?
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Stop scratching out lines
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That is something that you have to figure out for yourself. Find something that makes you happy and live for that.

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This is why I hate how nihilistic society has become. It has literally become the new religion of modernity and it isn't productive whatsoever and creates problems like this.
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Aug 19, 6:33 PM
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Like I saw someone else say you have to find your own reason to live. If your profile age is correct you are still very young at that age I was in the same spot as you. I had no idea why I should keep living with the things I was going through it didnt seem worth it. However, after time passed and life kept moving i found a purpose it was extremely hard to find but in a way I'm glad it was.

It may take you longer than me to find your purpose but if you keep at it and don't give up someday even if it is a long time from now you will find it. Just don't give up.
 
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Yeah, it's true, it will never get better, life is life and it is bad, but if you have any will to keep living you have to find your own reason, it can be anything really, live for someone you love, for religion, for your hobbies, etc, whatever reason you find it's ok, if you don't find any reason and even so want to keep on living it's ok as well, if you can't find a reason and want to die it's ok as well, we live in a world where everything is normal, so try to find your own reasons, anyway, I hope you find something that makes you keep on living, good luck
 
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If you do nothing new, nothing will change. Life ain't gonna suddenly become better over time. You make it better.
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on the neurotransmitter scale, hits of dopamine
in the large scale, fuck all
 
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be an existentialist - existence has no meaning until you make one
 
Aug 20, 12:22 AM

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I live to be satisfied, i don't think life has any kind of meaning or purpose either.
You make your own purpose or meaning whether its selfish or selfless it still doesn't matter.
You create your own purpose.
 
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It's really up to you to make things change. It's difficult when you're going through things that make it seem like there's no room for change, but you just have to throw those changes in there. Life DOESN'T get better UNLESS you make changes for yourself.

You can look to the people around you for inspiration, but no one is responsible for your happiness except yourself. There is no way anyone can force you to be happy. You need to find out how to achieve that yourself.

I'm not even going to say you need to find a purpose, it's more like you need to find a mindset and a lifestyle that works for YOU.
And you're going to get a lot of people trying to get you to live life their way. That's when you have to find ways to support the lifestyle YOU want without anyone else's help.

Good luck!

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Aug 20, 2:26 AM

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i don't know. there were times when i thought i found the answer. as my depression seems to grow, i need to find excuses to keep going.
 
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It wont get better anytime soon, you'll live a miserable and shitty life. And even if you somehow manage to become successful, you'd still be unhappy because you have no answers for your deepest existential questions.

Now what?
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Lonely_Ronin123 said:
When you ask this kind of question you will probably get an answer like this : One day it will get better , let's be realistic it won't , you will keep living and living thinking like that but years pass by and nothing really changes. At least in my case


I don't think this is the right place to be having such a discussion. And for the record, i agree with you. Existence is grim and hopeless.

(Don't bother responding whoever you are reading the latter part of my reply. You won't get a response back. Especially if you're one of "them". You know who you are.)
 
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If you're too rich - money holds even less value and so are the things you buy with it, it will never be enough

If you're too poor - if you work your ass off to get to the point of being rich you'll eventually hit part 1 above

Become a famous inventor/specialist in your field? most people will probably never know your name unless they search for it.

Become a astronaut? You'll probably be overshadowed and forgotten about if you weren't the first person to do something

Become a war hero? Last "meaningful" war was WW2, everything since then has been a waste of human life or only served to mess up the future.

Now all that must sounds like some pretty pessimistic shit but I assure you I'm going somewhere with this.

No matter how grand or how small whatever you're doing, plan to do, or have done in the past it all comes down to yourself how much you value it. There are people that have been in recent wars that embody exactly the good side of humanity and true as hell heroes. Sure the outcome of the war may be governed by corrupt politicians at top but you can sure as hell expect these heroes to feel some fulfillment in their lives. Sure some come out with PTSD and regret being a soldier but if they truly believe in their resolve of becoming a soldier that's all there is to it. It all comes down to the individual.


Now let's say someone has a strong passion to set foot on the moon, motivated purely by themselves to set foot in space. Sure it may be meaningless to step foot on a space rock with no means of discovery since they aren't the first, will probably be forgotten unless researched, probably realize once they get up there how anticlimatic it all was. But all it takes is them to look at it all and see what they've done. It's a feeling beyond words and applies to even the most smallest of accomplishments.

Everything is meaningless, so make your own meaning.
 
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When the answer is simple but heavy, people's words ring hollow.

One can listen to what other people tell and try to understand their viewpoints.
But their answers are theirs. Not answers for oneself.

One can follow instructions or listen to advice others hand out. But the giving hand is also the leading one. If you take from it, you must follow.

Even following one's own "dreams" instead can feel like a huge burden.


Imo only without the chains of morality and rationality can one feel free.
If you consider suicide, it means your brain is incredibly active. You could just do nothing instead and float on, as the waves of life force you along. You don't have to be another piece of driftwood in the ocean. Suicide is a legit option for anyone at anytime. No matter how famous, rich or otherwise apparently "happy" or "successful" the person may seem.
 
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I honestly don't know why you feel that way or what problems you may have so I really don't know what to advise you.

I used to also believe that things wouldn't get better. That me throwing up in front of a toilet was never going to change. It did get better.

You need to want and work for whatever it is you think you need or you want. Depression, loneliness and many mental illnesses are hard, but it is almost never too late to start working towards improvement.
 
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It’s simple; until you find that purpose.

Giving up is never the answer. If you give up, then the chances of you actually achieving your goal are 0. But if you don’t, then the chance is still there.
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Life's purpose is whatever you make it. Have a family, be a good employee/employer, write a book, have a huge book/manga collection, travel the world, you name it.
This said, if you're looking for a purpose to suddenly appear to you, you can drop that idea. Life is utterly pointless, we're just animals, at the end of the day. The fact we are intelligible actually just makes it harder, as it gives birth to that exact question.

My advise, make friends irl, get out of your comfort zone, try new, pointless things. Just do something, keep going, keep pushing. Maybe, one day, you'll find whatever you're looking for. This said, you're what? 16? You should be doing whatever floats your boat, and exploring.

I did nothing of what I just told you to do, but I wish I had.


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The only thing that's keeping me alive is Yuzusoft and all their untranslated games.
 
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If you believe in an afterlife: Strive towards becoming an extremely successful individual leaving as large of a positive impact on as many people as you can hopefully leaving your mark on history no matter how small or large. Also, starting/having a family as well as many friends and basking in the comfort of their love as well as the admiration of those you helped along the way. Make sure to have fun throughout your life too. Finally grow old and finally die happy knowing you live a good life and that you'll be moving onto a better place.

If you don't believe in an afterlife: You need to go to as good of a college as possible with as good of a major as possible and graduate into getting a job as high paying as possible (with plenty of potential for upward economic mobility). Or if you already screwed up that chance, you need to use your free time to come up with a side business that you can eventually turn into a full time business that you can use to get rich instead. Either way once you're well off enough to afford the following lifestyle, literally spend the rest of your life constantly high on drugs and having sex so that you always feel euphoric and fantastic all the way up until your death. In this scenario there's no real purpose to life and you only have less than a century on the planet so you want to spend as much of it feeling great as possible. Although I'd argue you're much better if you can convince yourself of a higher purpose in order to fall into the prior scenario. We know now that it's simply scientific fact that those who believe in a higher power (especially those who go about said belief in a good healthy way) tend to be happier in life.
 
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i was thinking this when i was your age too, i tried killing myself twice and failed (cause we are coward by nature and instinct)

a purpose wont make u happy

life doesn't have to be all good, its supposed to be ups and downs

the best thing is to enjoy little things and details

there really is no grand purpose

no purpose can even matter in the face of death. no matter what i tell u, u will just reply with "well its not important when im dead"

and i cant blame u, its like we have this "give up button" that will just end everything and it sounds really tempting

try living in the moment and shit like that, life is kinda fun. just know that u have this one chance only, there is no god out there to resurrect u or something

as someone that was in that kinda state (im not even gonna say it was bad time lol), im here if u ever wanted to talk
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Thank you everyone for helping me , I feel much better after reading all of yours responses , my parents will divorce soon so that will be my new start.
 
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