| I love my friends, don't get me wrong. But recently I've been feeling super anti social and the sole thought of going out is making me feel uncomfortable. Not to mention they want me to go to something similar to a rave :) I will probably get 263047320 panic attacks and die if I go. What do? |
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| Why not just be honest with them? It's not good to lie to friends. |
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| don't lie to them. i used to have many friends, but i never wanted to hang out with them. i always told them excuses that i had to do other stuff, and after a few months they all stopped talking to me. just be honest. |
| Ye i can relate to that,similiar situation rit now. I just tell 'em im working and they take the hint usually |
| "hey man you down to go watch paint dry?" "nah, i don't feel up to it" "aight man but it's red this time so your loss" if they're good friends they'll understand that you just don't want to |
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| I usually put the blame on my parents or the studies/work to not go out like "oh sorry bruh, i really can't go out with ya, i'm pretty busy studying, working or my parents are not letting me go" it always work for me when i'm lazy to go out home. Saying that you're sick also works fine as well, say that you are having a terrible headache or fever. |
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| Just be sure to go to everything you can handle, otherwise they might get the impression you don't wanna hang with them personally. Then they'll follow you after your yoga session and find out you sing death metal at karaoke. Oh wait thats just the plot for Aggretsuko.. |
| Why not just say I don't want to hang out? If they're good friends they'll understand. |
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| The thing is I've been planning to go there and was excited about it until recently. So saying I don't wanna do it would just be strange... I don't usually refuse to hang out so I think this once should be ok? |
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| "My crippling anxiety has induced a flu-like malaise, and I feel as if I'm going to die." :) |
| My best excuses for not going out with friends is quite simple, I don't have friends :') |
| If you really don't feel like it just tell them straight up. Don't be scared to explain to your friends how you feel, it's better to let them know straight up than lie. |
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| The fact that you're trying to come up with an excuse is a problem in itself. While I am a firm believer in just saying no, I don't think this is one of those times. Sometimes, going even if you don't want to is the better choice to make if you want to stay on good terms with your friends. I get that good friends will understand, but the thing here is that you've been planning to go together. Suddenly cancelling on them doesn't sound like something a good friend would do. Not to mention, even if you do make up an excuse, your friends will probably see right through it. |
casual_filth said: "My crippling anxiety has induced a flu-like malaise, and I feel as if I'm going to die." :) lmao seems like you're the one who gets it :) |
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| Tell them you are on your period or sth |
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Dildry said: Tell them you are on your period or sth Usually I'd go even if I were on my period tho lmao I am a strong independent woman who doesn't fear period cramps. (says she while sinking into the unknown depths of The Depression Ocean) |
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| Just say that you're not feeling very well or don't felll like going. |
| Today they say you're crazy, tomorrow they will say you're a genious. |
| I don't see the reason why you need to come up with an excuse though. If they see you as a friend, I'm pretty sure they'll understand your circumstances. |
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| Best excuse is not having friends. If you have friends just be up front and honest but gentle. Simple. |
| "My mom said no" - I'm 20 and still use this excuse, because mom always has the last word lol |
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hotlinetohell said: The thing is I've been planning to go there and was excited about it until recently. So saying I don't wanna do it would just be strange... I don't usually refuse to hang out so I think this once should be ok? Just go. Don't run from them. Just tell them it's pretty average and you hope to never go for another one next time. :) What could actually go wrong.. You may want to try bringing cigarette chewing gum candy Phone pill |
| idk just tell them you can't. if they're bothered that much by it you should probably get some better friends. |
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| How can you avoid your friends!!! Cant help but question if they are really your friends/people with similar minds as yours. You normally hang out with people who are ok in your eyes, same mindset as yours. So just tell if you don't want to go. I guess different ppl has different types of friends. As for me, Id jump out when my friends are calling me. And obviously its something fun their going to do now. Cause I know how my friends have a good time and that's part of why I became friends with them. Without a question ill like whatever their upto. Still sometimes I don't go out and just straight tell them I'm not going. |
| flat out tell them you don't like it i have my fair share of riajuu friends and they seem to understand albeit trying to pressure me into going w/ them but end up failing mehehehe... but if its excuse i usually use my family... they know my mother is strict so hehe i lie by saying she forced me to attend or etc etc or even sometimes use school but most of the time I just tell them If they really are your friends they would understand :3 |
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| I just admit to people that i just cant be arsed to socialize sometimes.. Little lies and avoiding stuff , will only get you labeled as a bad friend |
| Just tell them you're ugly so you don't belong in a rave, and then wallow in self-pity back in your sweet corner. |
| I don't have this problem, because I don't have RL friends. |
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| The best thing to do in a situation like this is to get out of your comfort zone and go. I used to try avoid social situations too, and it only affected my life negatively, I recommend you don't go down the same path. You don't want to feel uncomfortable? Suck it up and go enjoy your social life. |
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iMysteriousAura said: The fact that you're trying to come up with an excuse is a problem in itself. While I am a firm believer in just saying no, I don't think this is one of those times. Sometimes, going even if you don't want to is the better choice to make if you want to stay on good terms with your friends. I get that good friends will understand, but the thing here is that you've been planning to go together. Suddenly cancelling on them doesn't sound like something a good friend would do. Not to mention, even if you do make up an excuse, your friends will probably see right through it. That's what I was thinking. But the problem with forcing myself to go there is that it is a rave it starts at 10pm and ends at 5am. :) rubylightning said: Maybe hanging around with a bunch of Extroverted personalities isn't your thing, OP? That is, if you're an Introvert. The outside world (Basically anything on the 'external') caters to the extroverted personalities moreso than the introverted personalities. If you're too introverted and socially uncomfortable with social events/gatherings/get together's, etc. you shouldn't have to be forced to go to them. Sure it's great to have friends, but not if it's always going to be one big anxiety trip every time. hazecloud said: Just go. Don't run from them. Just tell them it's pretty average and you hope to never go for another one next time. :) What could actually go wrong.. Fuchsia said: The best thing to do in a situation like this is to get out of your comfort zone and go. I used to try avoid social situations too, and it only affected my life negatively, I recommend you don't go down the same path. You don't want to feel uncomfortable? Suck it up and go enjoy your social life. Well, here's the thing. I used to have this extroverted best friend and we went to raves together and all (I actually liked it, it was lit). But then a few months ago she made this whole drama and stopped being friends with me, event though I did literally nothing wrong. So ever since then, I went back to binge watching anime, playing games and working all day to the point where I go out like once a week. A few days ago I went out during the day (I usually go out during night time) to see my friend and I had to pass through this outdoor cafe area where a bunch of people were sitting and staring at passerbys. I got quite an anxiety attack during that. So, essentially I was not a completely introverted person, but I guess I became one? And even so - I could kinda will myself into going there, if I didn't know for a fact my ex best friend would be there. :) Thanakos said: Just tell them you're ugly so you don't belong in a rave, and then wallow in self-pity back in your sweet corner. lmao will do And to everyone else: thanks for advice :') |
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| Just say you aren't feeling it and that you might go some other day. Or just straight up tell them that you feel uncomfortable going to a rave lol |
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| @hotlinetohell Regardless, if I were you i'd force myself to go. If not, your social anxiety is only going to worsen. Try to take it slow, start slowly becoming more social again, especially since you've had an anxiety attack, taking it slow is likely the best option. I've been through a similar period of time in my life. I came up with excuses, worried and missed many great experiences, and degraded myself because of simple fear. In regards to your best friend, don't let that get to you, I don't know the specifics, but it's probably not as bad as you think. You don't need to become best friends with her again, just don't let a past relationship with her get in the way of some possibly great experiences. |
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Fuchsia said: @hotlinetohell Regardless, if I were you i'd force myself to go. If not, your social anxiety is only going to worsen. Try to take it slow, start slowly becoming more social again, especially since you've had an anxiety attack, taking it slow is likely the best option. I've been through a similar period of time in my life. I came up with excuses, worried and missed many great experiences, and degraded myself because of simple fear. In regards to your best friend, don't let that get to you, I don't know the specifics, but it's probably not as bad as you think. You don't need to become best friends with her again, just don't let a past relationship with her get in the way of some possibly great experiences. Okay, thanks :) I'll really try to go, but if I just can't make myself go I will make other plans with my friends to like, make up for the loss I guess. How does that sound? Oh and as for the ex friend situation - it's pretty bad, she's shittalking me to everyone :) The fact that it's bad is the reason why I'm like this. But, I will try not to get myself down anymore... |
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Nas said: I don't have this problem, because I don't have RL friends. What if someone has so many friends that he or she can't decide which ones to take out lol. |
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Swagernator said: Nas said: I don't have this problem, because I don't have RL friends. What if someone has so many friends that he or she can't decide which ones to take out lol. How about taking out all of them at once? :) |
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Swagernator said: Nas said: I don't have this problem, because I don't have RL friends. What if someone has so many friends that he or she can't decide which ones to take out lol. Either the person will play Russian roulette with his group to decide. Or They will all drink rakija and the person that still stands is the winner that goes out. This can also be a very unnecessary process tbh. I just need the post count lol. |
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Swagernator said: What if someone has so many friends that he or she can't decide which ones to take out lol. I literally got a friend like that lul. He has soooooo many friends that its like every man in the city is his friend/known to him. Whenever we go out, he will always meet some friends along the way. One time we went out he met some of his (other)friends . He kept talking with them for so long that at one point we left him there(we kinda got annoyed that he meets someone every time we go out). He looked for us a while and then went with those guys rest of the night. |
| "Sorry for not coming, I didn't want to as it seemed boring as fuck." |
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| Just tell them you do not want to go out with them. I'm not sure why it's so hard to be direct? |
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| The classic I'm sick, I don't feel so good. |
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| oh yeah it wouldn't be interesting if you had to see her face. Just say you're helping your parents cleaning house or something. Just don't go and by the way, rave sucks :p |
| "I don't want to go out", i never lie,but most of the time anyway i can't due to my work. And I actually would like to go out with someone,i'm in finland for a week and these people never talk! and super not friendly, for a week i had no conversation at all :( |
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| op ur lying. no one on here has friends and you know its true |
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hazecloud said: oh yeah it wouldn't be interesting if you had to see her face. Just say you're helping your parents cleaning house or something. Just don't go and by the way, rave sucks :p haha why do you hate raves though? :) |
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degenerate said: op ur lying. no one on here has friends and you know its true except i wasn't on here until recently and i still have some remains of my past social life lol |
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| Is it one of those club events? Like 'Alpha Hex Omega Wolffucker EDM throwdown!!' lol those are surprisingly hard to fit in at. It's entirely justifiable not to go out tho especially if you're practicing something like drawing or an instrument. Or if you have been going out with them you can say I jsut want to be alone. |
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