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Aug 20, 2017 5:37 PM
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So I really couldn't find anywhere else to post this so I need some advice from other anime lovers. I've been living a farce for the last 5 years or so and it has to end. Let me explain by saying my gf of 7 years knows i "like" anime...but doesn't know i couldn't live without and she doesnt approve of lewd material. I watch all genres,(ecchi, harem, action, fantasy, ect) all the time, even if the anime is trash by any means. When we moved in together 5 years ago I had to drop anime entirely or at least at home. :'( I was so desperate id watch anime in my car after work and would tell her i had to stay late...I know lying sucks and i felt horrible doing that to her. I recently finished Oreimo and i couldn't help but feel what Kirino felt, the embarrassment, the shame, having to hide and sneak around and go behind my friends and family's back because nobody would ever accept this side of me. It made me think, if i could find someone who can accept me for ALL of the things i like no matter how different, maybe that's what i need? Maybe we shouldn't be together if i cant be myself... I've never left anyone and i've never felt so strongly about something before. I want someone to love me, not just accept me, for the things I love. Is that wrong? Is that too selfish? or would carrying on the lie be worse?
Aug 20, 2017 5:39 PM
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tell that all to your GF and give her time to think about it if she reject it at first
Aug 20, 2017 5:44 PM
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Look, I really don't want to insult your girlfriend and potentially anger you, but she seems kinda close-minded. You can like what you like. If she doesn't accept that, it's her problem, not yours.
Aug 20, 2017 5:54 PM
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Had a friend in a similiar situation. Eventuallly he left his girlfirend. His life definitely became better as he doesn't have to hide his true self anymore. It's not healthy if you have to play a role all the time. Tell her how you feel and see if she can accept you. If she can't, you maybe aren't meant to be.
I wanted to enjoy every second, but time went by too fast.
As time has long run out, we grow more distant with every heartbeat.
You're so close, yet so far... Memories are fading and my heart's breaking.
Please be happy. Because I can't. I will never forget you.
Aug 20, 2017 5:58 PM
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I've felt the same way sometimes, like why cant you open yourself up to something new!??! I've actually gotten her to watch some anime, but its mostly sao and death note, one punch man. Shows that entertain me but never get a emotional response out of me. Alas she has told me before that she considers lewd anime basically porn. Im a sucker for a romance with fan service <3
Aug 20, 2017 6:26 PM
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I don't think your girl will really care that you watch anime as long as it's not a big ecchi hentai tiddy fest tbh...
Aug 20, 2017 7:24 PM
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Maybe we shouldn't be together if i cant be myself... I've never left anyone and i've never felt so strongly about something before.


I would leave :s, unless your a masochist, nevermind.
Is this where you live?

Aug 20, 2017 7:45 PM
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I would leave :s, unless your a masochist, nevermind.


Call me Darkness ;) but in all seriousness, thank you everyone who replied to this post. I think you all have helped me get a better grasp on my own thoughts and feelings. :D
Aug 20, 2017 10:42 PM
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Lets pretend for a moment you like sports and not anime, and that your girlfriend does not let you watch sports in the house.


Hope that helps
Aug 21, 2017 1:13 AM

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Simple, ditch the GF and get a BF.

Else spill the beans. The truth will set you free, one way or the other.

You need to take responsibility because you hid something important.

Once you spill the beans, you will feel better and worse at the same time, but eventually you will feel more better than worse.

Aaaaand, Anime does not control you, you control Anime.
idk about you but the closer a girl gets to looking like ronald mcdonald, the more aroused i become. CAV

where can we cast our eyes to @PoruMairu who thinks of himself a member of the true church. Helion.
Aug 21, 2017 1:17 AM

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It is truly sad that MAL is only place you can ask for advice.
Aug 21, 2017 1:19 AM

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How can you ask in a site where most users have no life?


Swagernator said:
It is truly sad that MAL is only place you can ask for advice.



Ohh shit! I second this.


Swagernator said:
It is truly sad that MAL is only place you can ask for advice.



Ohh shit! I second this.
Aug 25, 2017 7:37 PM
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SO! I made my confession and it was awful. I am so awkward and confusing that she almost didnt know what i was saying at first. She eventually realized what i meant and got angry at first. She was upset because she thought I was saying anime is more important to me then she is, but tis not the case. I do love anime to an extreme, but one cannot compare the love of a person to a hobby. I love them both as much as i can respectively. She then came back down and talked to me about it(this took hours -_-) and we agreed we would make it work! Horay right? Maybe idk. Part of me likes fighting for love but its such a pain to have to try so hard all the time. Love should come easy no? If it has to be forced then is it really love?
Aug 25, 2017 8:08 PM
Aug 25, 2017 8:13 PM
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Persistence is key in a situation like this, my friend. Continue watching anime regardless. Overtime, she will do nothing more than roll her eyes at it, while you continue to watch it hardly paying attention to her hate on it.
Aug 25, 2017 8:14 PM

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Wow, that sounds horrible. What exactly do you mean you "had" to drop it entirely? Like if not she'd leave you or something?. I can't imagine dating someone and making them quit a hobby that they truly enjoy, assuming it's not hurting anyone. I would just be honest with her and hopefully she can compromise.


Aug 25, 2017 8:16 PM

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Most users will tell you to ditch the girlfriend and embrace anime because they gave up on social life or 3d GFs or both. Don't. Just, I dunno, tell her? It's not more shameful than enjoying Fast & Furious or the crap Hollywood produces anyway.

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