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Mar 13, 2017 12:54 AM
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As the title says am looking for advice on how to not look as a creep when I approach her. Here's the background:
About 8 or so years ago I was left to my grandparents for a vacation. While staying there i met a girl, we had lots of, played together, talked alot and I felt very comfortably near her. After that vacation I used to visit my grandparents rarely. Sadly during these years my memory has faded quite a bit, only key details remain. And now a week ago when I was visiting my grandmother I was told that the girl still lives in the same place.

Now that you know the story I'm asking for advice, at first I was wondering about going to knock on her door and say "Hey I'm that guy from many years ago, wanna talk about old times or watch a movie ?", but i think it might be too straight forward and creepy, now am thinking of finding her on facebook and start talkibg with here there.

Any ideas what would work best to not to freak her out ?
And yes, I like her, atleast from that time long ago.
Mar 13, 2017 1:36 AM
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DaveFalco said:
As the title says am looking for advice on how to not look as a creep when I approach her. Here's the background:
About 8 or so years ago I was left to my grandparents for a vacation. While staying there i met a girl, we had lots of, played together, talked alot and I felt very comfortably near her. After that vacation I used to visit my grandparents rarely. Sadly during these years my memory has faded quite a bit, only key details remain. And now a week ago when I was visiting my grandmother I was told that the girl still lives in the same place.

Now that you know the story I'm asking for advice, at first I was wondering about going to knock on her door and say "Hey I'm that guy from many years ago, wanna talk about old times or watch a movie ?", but i think it might be too straight forward and creepy, now am thinking of finding her on facebook and start talkibg with here there.

Any ideas what would work best to not to freak her out ?
And yes, I like her, atleast from that time long ago.

my only childhood friend stopped talking to me when i was 10 and she's hot as fuck now and married to an even bigger loser than me, so i dont know man, good luck though

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Mar 13, 2017 3:29 AM
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I feel the best thing to do is to find out if she remembers you. If she doesn't and you're confident you can just start off again as new friends.

If she does remember you, you can talk about things as before and share how it'll be cool to be acquainted again.
Mar 13, 2017 3:34 AM
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Nothing wrong with adding her on Facebook and saying hi. Just be nice and normal, and take things from there.
Mar 13, 2017 6:27 AM
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Hmm. I think you should just be natural. Facebook is a good idea. You can tell her you heard about her whereabouts and just wanted to say hi as you really had fun together back then.

I don't think she will find it weird. I wouldn't, at least.
Mar 13, 2017 6:36 AM
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Iunno; my parents did a lot of moving when I was young, so I've no contact with any of my childhood friends. Maybe that's why I, like many other people on here, have nothing better to do than to post on MAL.
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Mar 13, 2017 9:00 AM
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Thank you all for support on this :) At first I wasn't 100% ,but now that I see no one is saying "don't do it it's stupid" I think, I'll try to get in touch with her first before eye to eye meeting. If i get brutal rejection I'll let you all know hehe, thanks again for positivity :)
Mar 13, 2017 9:55 AM
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DaveFalco said:
Thank you all for support on this :) At first I wasn't 100% ,but now that I see no one is saying "don't do it it's stupid" I think, I'll try to get in touch with her first before eye to eye meeting. If i get brutal rejection I'll let you all know hehe, thanks again for positivity :)


If you had fun years back I see no reason to knock on her door. As a person who travelled quite often when I was young, I myself have vivid memories of people who I met. Despite not seeing some people for multiple years I would not hesitate to go up and say "Hi! Remember me? I am blah blah blah from years ago, remember we used to blah blah blah together?"

Honestly from my experience, it's you who might make things awkward. If you give off the vibe of honestly wanting to just have a good time and reconnect with someone who you haven't seen in a long while for the pure reason that you had fun together, I doubt they would hesitate to hang out.

That's how I still have friends from 15+ years. One of my good friends who I've had since I was 9 I'm still friends with and despite the fact I haven't SEEN him face to face in about 5 years I still hit him up on skype from time to time to check up on him.
Mar 14, 2017 10:16 AM
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my advice, don't start with facebook.
go knock on her door, say what you want to say, have a little chat, and then tell her if you can add her on facebook and continue talking there.
she probably thinks about you, too.
Mar 14, 2017 1:15 PM
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I won't say that better to go and knock on her door, but I would do so. Just because it's more natural for both of you ways than to search each other on facebook. Eventually the worst scenario can be embodied only in your head, in reality more and more simply. Good luck x)
Mar 14, 2017 1:17 PM

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You should just walk up to her and say "hi".
Mar 14, 2017 1:23 PM

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You'll regret it if you don't try. Go speak to her. Best of luck dude :D
Mar 15, 2017 1:41 AM

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I no longer have friends irl but for this matter I would say do it Senpai. Won't hurt to try and if she doesn't remember just say someone like "Oh, I guess I confused you with the wrong person" and walk away.I checked your age on your profile (sorry if it sounds creepy) and things might be tense as she could be another one of those 24/7 social media girls now and not give a shyt about the past. Sorry if I sound like I'm being rude or something.
Mar 15, 2017 2:42 AM

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I'd knock on her door first, and then try to find her online as a second option. Stuff like this is actually where facebook kinda sucks you know? If you couldn't find her online you'd have to call her, meet up, some actual interaction. Facebook makes it a bit too easy...

Anyways it might be a bit random but it's not like you'd be doing anything wrong by actually knocking on her door, so yeah do that. Storm the castle nigga lol.
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Mar 15, 2017 8:31 AM

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Find her numbers through common friends/relatives. Call her. Start with small talk and try to set up some hang out sessions.
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