| or if you're gay/bi/pan, do you find yourself attracted to otaku? Personally, I find myself not attracted to male otaku. I find them uncool. If you're wondering, yes, I'm not too fond of myself. One could say I hate myself. Do you sometimes feel disgusted with yourself (like me)? I hope I'm not offending anyone. EDIT: By otaku, I mean avid anime fans, not the casual one. ShaneM said: I'm curious as to why you find male otaku uncool when you would share a similar interest with them. I'm not upset; just honestly curious. Okay, after I read some comments, I realized something. And I guess I know why I find otaku uncool. In my place, people tend to look down on adults who watch anime. There is this image that adults who watch anime are childish, unsociable and incompetent. Even my parents. And relatives. Although they rarely show/talk about it. Actually, not many people know I love anime, because I never cosplay (I can't imagine how my parents would look at me when I started to cosplay, haha) , and I never talk about anime too much, and I never hang out with the 'otaku' group. I don't want to be judged. When I see otaku, I see myself reflected in them, and I hate it. I always thought things would be so much easier if I don't like anime or I know how to not give a damn about what people think of me. p.s. oh, and FYI, I DO love m/m pairing... orz |
CrimsonMidnightNov 16, 2016 10:11 PM
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| that sounds like a personal issue xD i have zero problem with female anime fans, or male anime fans. |
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xrockxz89 said: that sounds like a personal issue xD i have zero problem with female anime fans, or male anime fans. Yeah, you're right. I just want to know what people here think about it. |
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Shicchi said: xrockxz89 said: that sounds like a personal issue xD i have zero problem with female anime fans, or male anime fans. Yeah, you're right. I just want to know what people here think about it. i mean, there's all types of 'otakus.' They aren't all uber nerds. Might be some hot girl who thinks it's cool to like anime for some reason ;) |
| I CELEBRATE myself, And what I assume you shall assume, For every atom belonging to me as good belongs to you. |
| I'm curious as to why you find male otaku uncool when you would share a similar interest with them. I'm not upset; just honestly curious. I find female otaku attractive yes - but not because of how they look. Obviously looks play a role in any attraction but I like the idea that I'd have a common interest we could discuss - it's more fun than watching a bunch of anime alone. I don't tend to feel disgusted with myself; I'm very much fond of myself because I've been through things most people couldn't even relate to, and stayed strong through it. For that, I'm very impressed by myself. If you feel disgusted with yourself maybe you should take some time to bond with the "inner" you and figure yourself out more; it could broaden your perspective. If your lack of self-interest stems from a mental abnormality (which I've got, so by no means am I judging) then see someone about it. I think it's worthwhile to develop a kind bond with yourself. |
| I would find them attractive if they were attractive. Being an otaku has very little influence on me in that regard Also Shicchi I would recommend you stop hating yourself when you aren't a bad person Edit I forgot to mention yeah I can disgust myself sometimes but thats just when I find a new fetish while searching for hentai but that only lasts for about 10 seconds maybe so I get over it really fast |
DeknijffNov 16, 2016 9:28 PM
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| They tend to be cringy, which is problematic because there are some real qts among them |
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| I mean, anime and all that good stuff is one of my interests, so if someone shared your interests, wouldn't that make them more susceptible to being liked by you? Answer: Yeah, I don't know any female otakus personally, but I think they'd be pretty cool. |
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| Most female otaku, like the hardcore ones tend to be fujoshi's. I mean theres nothing wrong with that, but I wouldn't be cool with someone that is constantly bringing up dudes fucking each other while we're in a relationship. That being said I know a lot of girls into anime/manga and most of them are pretty cool. I find those that are more into manga to be a lot less awkward. Personally I'm not really the type to openly broadcast my hobby so I would probably be more in tune with someone that thought the same way. |
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Shicchi said: or if you're gay/bi/pan, do you find yourself attracted to otaku? Personally, I find myself not attracted to male otaku. I find them uncool. If you're wondering, yes, I'm not too fond of myself. One could say I hate myself. Do you sometimes feel disgusted with yourself (like me)? I hope I'm not offending anyone. EDIT: By otaku, I mean avid anime fans, not the casual one. I don't see anything wrong with girl otakus actually I like being able to talk about anime with girls. I find it annoying when girls think all anime is just porn or that we are just needs or something. Guys wise in otaku it depends as a guy I'm selective with who I keep as friends because I find it annoying when guys talk about girls and sex all the time so my guy friends are more like me we talk about the current releases and what's good this season stuff like that. |
| Do you mean like a over obsessive type of otaku or just a anime fan type of otaku. I like the idea of being with someone that enjoys anime like i do but not if they are like an annoying high school anime club member type. |
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| Female otaku for reasons other saying similar interest most likely more open to cosplay as your animu waifu etc |
| I don't know because I never met any in real life so far :/ |
| Eh, I'd say i might have a marginally increased emotional attraction towards an Otaku and/or Gamer considering we'd likely have more overlap on our core interests. Doesn't mean i'd go out of my way to date one or anything though. I don't really feel disgusted with myself, but i do sometimes feel like i should make more of an effort to diversify my hobbies, and become a more interesting person. Sometimes it can be a little hard to peel myself away from my "Otaku" interests. |
| @Shicchi - You don't want to be judged, but judge male otaku? Yeah, you're smart. |
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Shicchi said: Okay, after I read some comments, I realized something. And I guess I know why I find otaku uncool. In my place, people tend to look down on adults who watch anime. There is this image that adults who watch anime are childish, unsociable and incompetent. Even my parents. And relatives. Although they rarely show/talk about it. Actually, not many people know I love anime, because I never cosplay (I can't imagine how my parents would look at me when I started to cosplay, haha) , and I never talk about anime too much, and I never hang out with the 'otaku' group. I don't want to be judged. When I see otaku, I see myself reflected in them, and I hate it. I always thought things would be so much easier if I don't like anime or I know how to not give a damn about what people think of me. Well, that's quite a bit of self-discovery already. I can tell you one thing, if it helps: liking anime is not childish or immature. Remember the people who tend to hold this judgement are the same people who will spend hours upon hours watching TV dramas and the FUD spreading news; both of which I consider of lower intellectual value than anime. Anime teaches lessons and allows people to experience so many different stories; if that's wrong then be glad to be "wrong." Your parents judgement is held because they don't know what they are judging. They may think anime is childish; but such a notion is no more childish than them holding judgement over that which they've never once experienced. The same goes for your peers. Honestly, I would recommend going to a convention if you ever feel comfortable enough to. I was wondering why you didn't find male otaku attractive and now realize you've never been to a convention. There are some strange ones, definitely - but there are some really amazing people that you can meet at conventions; and also, the majority of people there are 16 - 22, there are very few children. This contradicts the current viewpoint you have as well. When it comes to "not caring what others think." This is something I've been working on for quite some time. If you're intelligent (which I'm sure you are) you likely overthink and this leads to worries about how others perceive you. The best remedy I've found for this is one that takes practice, but it's Mindfulness. I'd recommend looking into it if you have the time. // Edit: I wanted to note something that I didn't in the original post. You don't have to cosplay to attend an anime convention. I've been to a lot and it's normally about 50 : 50 cosplayers to normal clothed people. I haven't yet cosplayed though I plan to - it can be difficult to get into, so your first convention I'd recommend just going in casual attire. |
ShaneNov 16, 2016 10:33 PM
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SomeEdgeLord said: I WILL report you from this forum if this continues. In real life, I am one of the coldest, unsympathetic, people you'll ever know, who's grown up in an even colder household, you really don't want me to break my persona, I know how to make people feel bad. YearnsforAttention said: hm who has 1656 friends on MAL that's right me bye bye YearnsforAttention said: I don't want your approval how many damn times do I need to say it I enjoy irritating you I am gonna do things MY way |
| If by otaku, you mean someone who likes to watch anime, then I think that's cool. If by otaku, you mean someone whose entire life revolves everything anime, then that's not cool. Doesn't matter whether they're a guy or a girl. |
| I find having any sort of interest which you are passionate about very attractive tbh. It doesn't have to be anime/manga, but I prefer that. I don't really care that much tbh, unless you're going to judge me for it, I don't mind talking to you. |
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Even among avid anime fans, I think there are many different kind of people. I mean, I'm quite an enthusiast, but I'm still very discreet, and I talk about a lot of other things. With that in mind, and after reading your last edit, I still think it wouldn't be that bad. |
| Short answer: Yes. I would date one. Long answer: I've met a number of female otaku IRL and online. Some of the younger ones were a little annoying, but that's mostly a maturity thing. The ones in their late teens and 20s have been pretty cool, though. If I was still a teenager and had my low self esteem back then. I would probably say no. |
mascarponeNov 18, 2016 10:11 AM
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| Any female anime viewer who legitimately calls themselves an otaku is probably a source of cringe. |
| I've been here way too long... |
| I know one female otaku. But she's a die hard fujoshi and our tastes in anime colide pretty often. We get along fairly well. Most of the time. |
abhimanyurox said: exactly this, of course it's always a plus to have a shared interest in my opinion thoughI find having any sort of interest which you are passionate about very attractive tbh. It doesn't have to be anime/manga, but I prefer that. I don't really care that much tbh, unless you're going to judge me for it, I don't mind talking to you. |
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Kasey said: @ShaneM Would your answer still be the same for the Japanese term? Yes, and no. I still don't feel watching anime is childish; and I don't think you can round people into a "type" and judge them based off that. For the Japanese term, however, you're likely to come across some very strange people. I don't necessarily endorse "obsession" with anime to the point where it is your life - nor do I necessarily feel those people are attractive, but in terms of casual anime "otaku" I think the community is filled with great people. |
| My views might not hold much substance since I've never actually met a proper otaku. Anyway that would be a very vague criteria for finding a potential partner, while I do like some similarities for obvious reasons, but anything more won't make much of a difference really. Not to mention it'd be pretty awkward to talk about anime if our tastes were completely the opposite, which is very much possible. |
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| I wouldn't mind sticking my otaku in their otaku. |
| Depends, if she's hot. If she is, then I'll make my move ;) (I have never ever met a good looking female otaku before) And otherwise, I don't give a fuck. I would just talk about her about anime/manga and stuff like that And be friends wit her, recommend her things and vice-versa. |
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| I've never met a female otaku before, so I'm not sure. As long as she's not a feminist, and does not have any tattoos or body piercings, then I guess she would be okay. |
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| Their faces are always covered in spots, their breath is terrible and they always smell like shit. I'd never even associate myself with an otaku, male or female, let alone be attracted to one. |
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| it depends on how your define otaku, if its the usual japanese definition of obsession then ye those female otakus need help but for the western definition of otakus and that is anime as their hobby then i see them as any normal girl with any hobby too |
| well Nice girl vs nice girl who likes anime a lot = the nice girl who like anime a lot Its nice to have something in common |
| “If you believe it to be a sea of bitterness, then a sea of bitterness it is. If you believe it to simply be scenery on the path of life, then scenery it is…. The sea of bitterness never ends, but the scenery does." -Meng Hao |
| I'm happy with my normal life right now... |
| doesn't matter if female or male, all otakus are bunch of weirdos |
crashinho said: doesn't matter if female or male, all otakus are bunch of weirdos But OP said "be honest", can you honestly prove yourself that all "otaku" are weird? Not because they enjoy a different for of being from the rest, since if you enjoy anime and, you perceive other medium as weird(let's rule of those who can sing both ways) |
crashinho said: i'm being honest here? like that's what i think about those people who call themselves 'otaku' - weirdos. it's just a stereotype man and of course i can't prove it, it's just my opinion and how i view them ~ @_ako_ OP stated that, EDIT: By otaku, I mean avid anime fans, not the casual one. Is it alright for me to think that, weirdo is connotation for the your feelings of disgust? |
| First of all I'm not otaku. I spend most of my time on anime and games, but "otaku" seems to be too much. Nvm I just read what you meant by "otaku". I guess I qualify. As for girls, yeah - shared hobbie were always my priority, so I'd pick otaku girl over "normal" one any day. |
JustAnotherShiroNov 18, 2016 10:17 PM
| @_ako_ oh well didn't really read what op had to say i just read the title - my opinion still stands the same though, even worse for those who are avid ~ disgust? that's a strong word. no, they do not disgust me it's their life and they can do whatever they want, it's just like me - i like sports and someone doesn't like sports that doesn't mean that they're disgusted by me, no? it's just a matter of opinion. of course, not ALL 'otakus' are weirdos, i love anime myself but i'm not on here saying "oh and i'm like a huge otakuuuu" and stuff like that, i just find that really.. awkward if you get me. i apologize if i make someone angry, i don't have any intentions of making anyone angry - i'm just stating my opinion. ^_^ |
crashinho said: i'm being honest here? like that's what i think about those people who call themselves 'otaku' - weirdos. it's just a stereotype man and of course i can't prove it, it's just my opinion and how i view them ~ @_ako_ Its best not to attach yourself to stereotypes so quickly. Just because somebody calls themselves an otaku doesn't make them a weirdo. Nothing wrong with admitting you're a hardcore anime fan. Fans nowadays worry about the silliest things. |
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crashinho said: @_ako_ oh well didn't really read what op had to say i just read the title - my opinion still stands the same though, even worse for those who are avid ~ disgust? that's a strong word. no, they do not disgust me it's their life and they can do whatever they want, it's just like me - i like sports and someone doesn't like sports that doesn't mean that they're disgusted by me, no? it's just a matter of opinion. of course, not ALL 'otakus' are weirdos, i love anime myself but i'm not on here saying "oh and i'm like a huge otakuuuu" and stuff like that, i just find that really.. awkward if you get me. i apologize if i make someone angry, i don't have any intentions of making anyone angry - i'm just stating my opinion. ^_^ I'm not angry... Though I thought you are... Nah, 13 years-old just have the guts to say, "I love anime and am an otaku~" with a big smile on their face. Unless, of course you're talking about someone who's age exceeds 13 years-old but acts like one. It is indeed a matter of opinion, but in that opinion, I don't care what you think about that, rather what you feel... So, yeah, if you don't feel disgusted, what do you feel? As much as you are, I find this hard to decode, my feeling that is, I've never met anyone who's into anime and stuff so I don't know, I don't hold to stereotype shits because it can be proven false and the reverse, though I didn't think it exist because I've never been there. Kagami said: Its best not to attach yourself to stereotypes so quickly. Just because somebody calls themselves an otaku doesn't make them a weirdo. Nothing wrong with admitting you're a hardcore anime fan. Fans nowadays worry about the silliest things. Well, I just said that myself... But, yeah I strongly agree on your behalf. One because your avatar is cute(just joking). I guess the weird connotation of "otaku" had evolve quite oddly, others see it as either a very positive thing or a negative, which negative things ultimately dominates the positive thing... Do I blame social media on that one too? xD |
| @_Ako_ - Thanks! Stocking is lovely!~ I blame the sheep effect and social media. I think otaku always had negative implications, but that's just because people see being hardcore as a bad thing which is silly in itself. Though, social media has increased the sheep effect and people just believe anything they read and start repeating the silliness. Back in 05, calling yourself a hardcore fan was fine. Nowadays, some fans are concerned with minor things such as admitting what you are. |
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| @_ako_ i'm not mad, i'm sorry for giving that impression ;-; i know that it's not fair from my side to judge based on a stereotype but it's not really a secret that those who like anime are considered.. well weird. especially those who are 'extreme' fans.. but again as i said it's their thing and if that makes them happy then they can do it :P like i have nothing against them, it's just what i think of them :p i'm not gonna kill them or hate them or anything lol xD |
Kagami said: @_Ako_ - Thanks! Stocking is lovely!~ I blame the sheep effect and social media. I think otaku always had negative implications, but that's just because people see being hardcore as a bad thing which is silly in itself. Though, social media has increased the sheep effect and people just believe anything they read and start repeating the silliness. Back in 05, calling yourself a hardcore fan was fine. Nowadays, some fans are concerned with minor things such as admitting what you are. Kinda reminds me of Genshiken to be quite honest... But let's forget about that for a second... People's awareness on internet is just too little. Social media can pretty much rants on whatever they want, people can be feed-off with false facts. And, the reason why I don't use Google for my HWs because it's just basically users putting stuff together... And, hey you can even edit one there...xD By the way, which is more cancerous, FB or Twitter? I have FB but rarely uses it, and Twitter is basically nonexistence to me... Is there a difference of ignorance between FB users and Twitter users? crashinho said: @_ako_ i'm not mad, i'm sorry for giving that impression ;-; i know that it's not fair from my side to judge based on a stereotype but it's not really a secret that those who like anime are considered.. well weird. especially those who are 'extreme' fans.. but again as i said it's their thing and if that makes them happy then they can do it :P like i have nothing against them, it's just what i think of them :p i'm not gonna kill them or hate them or anything lol xD Again, why is that, when people watch anime, they are technically weird? That is the part I get and somehow I don't. Do you understand they're weird because, you too watches anime, and that also applies to me, or because they're weird on a different thing, like outside of the box? Mhhhh... Hating one is another thing, I don't also see a reason for me hating someone just because he/she watches anime. But if he/she punches me, that's a signal of a war. |
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crashinho said: @_ako_ i'm not mad, i'm sorry for giving that impression ;-; i know that it's not fair from my side to judge based on a stereotype but it's not really a secret that those who like anime are considered.. well weird. especially those who are 'extreme' fans.. but again as i said it's their thing and if that makes them happy then they can do it :P like i have nothing against them, it's just what i think of them :p i'm not gonna kill them or hate them or anything lol xD You are the very definition of how divided the anime community is nowadays. "I'm not one of those fans, I'm a normal fan!!" @_Ako_ - I don't know about those. Youtube is pretty bad though. Cancer everywhere anywhere. |
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crashinho said: @kagami does it really matter? at the end of the day i still enjoy watching anime, i just don't like it the way some other people do.. It obviously doesn't matter. Its just really childish and dividing the community to openly frown upon hardcore anime fans who just say they're hardcore fans. This "normal fan" BS is like a plague. |
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