Do girls really get as horny as guys do?

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Red_Keys said:
What do you define as "getting horny"? Is it simply the emotion associated with wanting to fuck?

Well, unless you consider literally all heterosexual sex rape (and some crazies actually do), the answer to your question is "yes". Most women, at times, want to fuck.

Are you talking about the frequency of "getting horny"? Maybe, maybe not. Does a fat person get hungry more often than somebody who actively watches and restricts their diet? Maybe. My point is sexual desire being expressed (different than being felt) is certainly different between men and women, but whether that is based on some sort of innate quality or due to societal pressures is a question to be investigated.

I think women have a natural instinct to be more reluctant about sex, or more choosy about who they have sex with, seeing as they get stuck with the results of the evolutionary purpose of sex for 9 months and then some, while men do not. If you believe in evolution at all, you have to believe that women and men are, at least on some level, different psychologically.

Sex exists for one purpose (reproduction). And that purpose is manifested vastly different in men and women (pregnancy, childbirth, nursing, etc. vs... nothing). Surely it's fair to conclude that the goals, motivations, attitudes toward sex between the sexes will be a bit different.

I disagree completely.

First, goals, motivations, and attitudes are all very societal defined and have little to do with evolution in a biological sense (the obvious exception with goals would be, say, everything on the first tier of Maslow's hierarchy). Second, it makes it sound that the female sex only has the drive to have sex to bear children but that's not the case as women get horny prior to their first period, during "safe" times of the month, while already pregnant, and after menopause. Last, you pose the question of not being sure if it's innate or learned but go on to show your bias to women being less of a sexual creature than men.

If a person is to argue an evolutionary or a biological perspective as to support the claim women are less horny, in general, than men I would expect more concrete points. Not to mention, humans --including females, obviously--have sex sometimes simply for pleasure or other reasons. There are other animals even that have sex for purposes other than reproduction. (A great example there would be bonobo apes.)

A person who believes in evolution does not have to accept/agree with your point(s), like you say. I have provided evidence disproving each of your points. I think you're using the evolutionary perspective to validate your own perspective rather than your perspective being validated by the evolutionary perspective. In other words, your opinion is that women are less sexual than men and you are using the term "evolution" to justify that opinion to others rather than actually have evolutionary evidence to prove your point.

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Oct 7, 2016 9:19 PM

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What kind of question is this? This'll be entertaining.

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Oct 7, 2016 9:44 PM

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Sadist said:
What kind of question is this? This'll be entertaining.

a virgin question who never interacts with the opposite sex? pretty obvious

Oct 7, 2016 10:41 PM

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Sorakaa said:

Sadist said:
What kind of question is this? This'll be entertaining.

a virgin question who never interacts with the opposite sex? pretty obvious

I doubt this is a virgin question, as a virgin question is the first question a person asks. It's more likely a virgin's question but even that may not be true. Plenty of people, even after having, sex are still confused by the opposite sex. Heck, at times, I feel I'm clueless. Scratch that: All the time I am clueless.

Oct 7, 2016 11:53 PM

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Oct 8, 2016 1:47 AM

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They are not horny towards you.

That's the main point

Oct 8, 2016 3:30 AM

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Sadist said:
What kind of question is this? This'll be entertaining.

a virgin question who never interacts with the opposite sex? pretty obvious

Please do note it's a rhetorical question OP.

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Oct 8, 2016 5:30 AM

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Taroon said:
[...]a general rule there isn't much difference in the end result.

And that assertion is based on what?

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Oct 8, 2016 7:01 AM

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According to statistics it's really paired,men and women think about sex or get horny in a slightly equal amount (one gender it's just more obvious than the other),but,based on my life experience (witch it isn't that much) girls are hornier.I've seen,heard and done stuff that just...wow and none were my idea.

Oct 8, 2016 8:33 AM

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Taroon said:
[...]a general rule there isn't much difference in the end result.

And that assertion is based on what?

Hm. Biologically, men and women have differences in levels of the same hormones, for example. These hormones not only manifest themselves physiologically but also influence portions of a person's neurological functioning. However, after we consider the differences, there just isn't that much that's different with our brains. (Read the medical research on MRIs of men and women.) But, let's not lose ourselves int he details here. That sentence you're inquiring about simply means that despite slight differences on how the human body works the end result of desiring to and having sex is the conclusion. I hope I answered your question.

If not, please clarify and/or expand your question for me.

Oct 8, 2016 11:41 AM

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Taroon said:
Last, you pose the question of not being sure if it's innate or learned but go on to show your bias to women being less of a sexual creature than men.

Except that's not what I said.

A food critic who is extremely picky and critical about what he eats, and joe schmoe who picks what he eats based on its ease of availability, both have very different goals and motivations and attitudes toward food. But they both feel hunger just the same.

Oct 8, 2016 2:16 PM

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Taroon said:
Last, you pose the question of not being sure if it's innate or learned but go on to show your bias to women being less of a sexual creature than men.

Except that's not what I said.

A food critic who is extremely picky and critical about what he eats, and joe schmoe who picks what he eats based on its ease of availability, both have very different goals and motivations and attitudes toward food. But they both feel hunger just the same.

Lose the food metaphor already. The topic isn't about food and such a metaphor just brings in too many completely unrelated details. The OP is asking whether the desires of men and women are equivalent or if one sex has a greater desire (and why). The OP isn't asking for some metaphor that is so stretched it doesn't even answer the original question. Or, are you saying women are cultured food critics when it comes to desire and men are so starved that they aren't picky at all when it comes to their desires?

(The metaphor fails to begin with even before applying it to another concept: A food critic eats food because that is his or her profession. Usually food tasting--just like wine tasting--is done not for substance at all. In comparison, a poor person who eats what he or she can based on availability does so because of the limited options. The food critic would eat anything if he or she was in the same boat and lacked options. Both will eat anything to survive.)

I responded to your original post in full. I didn't pull one sentence out of it and quote that which is how you responded (to me). In your original post, you came off as very biased even when you masked it. Maybe that wasn't your intent but it was what got expressed with your words. And, yes, I realize my summary and paraphrasing of you wasn't what you said, exactly. It was, nevertheless, the meaning behind your message. Now, if you make another food metaphor in response, here, I give up.

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If you make another food metaphor in response, here, I give up.

No more of your strawman arguments and misunderstandings of evolutionary psychology is like icing on the cake.

Oh shit, that was a simile not a metaphor. Does it still count?

Oct 8, 2016 3:03 PM

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Taroon said:
If you make another food metaphor in response, here, I give up.

No more of your strawman arguments and misunderstandings of evolutionary psychology is like icing on the cake.

Oh shit, that was a simile not a metaphor. Does it still count?

Heh. Your sentence structure is off and did not actually make a simile (but the attempt is clearly there) :P I guess you just simply have difficulty forming those sorts of things, be it metaphor or simile. I also don't think you understand what straw-man arguments are, in addition to what evolutionary psychology entails. But, that's besides the point.

Again, I write a thorough response to a previous comment, touching upon each part of your message and I receive a reply that 1) mentions food, 2) only quotes a single sentence--one that is the least relevant to my point, and 3) attempts to take a jab at me.

I have explained my thinking at every step and have given examples. I have delve in to the complexity of the topic while expressing my personal views. That is hardly a strawman argument. Additionally, I have already explained why your biased original post is wrong with multiple examples. Just because I proved you wrong does not mean that I don't understand evolution. Instead of stomping your foot and saying, "You don't understand!" why don't you respond to me and actually counter my examples? You were also only talking evolution and did not mention evolutionary psychology. They are two very different things: One talks about fruit and the other talks only about apples.

For the record, I suppose I can let a simile slide.

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Taroon said:
Biologically, men and women have differences in levels of the same hormones, for example. These hormones not only manifest themselves physiologically but also influence portions of a person's neurological functioning. However, after we consider the differences, there just isn't that much that's different with our brains. (Read the medical research on MRIs of men and women.) But, let's not lose ourselves int he details here. That sentence you're inquiring about simply means that despite slight differences on how the human body works the end result of desiring to and having sex is the conclusion.

Finally found a bit of time to reply.

I am assuming that you are referring to the study that suggests that "human brains do not belong to one of two distinct categories: male brain/female brain". However I do not believe that it is adequate to back your assertion.

There are a number of reasons for that, but the most important reason is that you've seemingly recognised, yet downplayed the significance of hormone. The same person (same brain), but with vastly different hormonal balance (due to, for instance, medication, stress or other factor) will experience various changes, including their sex drive. Both women and men will experience a change in their sex drive throughout their lives, but it is unlikely to be at the same pace, or even to the same degree, in part due to hormonal differences.

Also, due to the fact that I couldn't find the full text of the study, I question whether the study is done in a way that one could really draw any conclusion on sexual urges. Frankly speaking an MRI scan is pretty darn noisy, and if they haven't employed any stimulus, I doubt that any of the subjects will be the least bit turned on . A separate study using fMRI found gender differences in brain activation to audio-visual sexual stimulation. While it also doesn't provide anything conclusive to libido in general either, it suggests that we are different enough to be turned out differently.

Clearly most women, like most men are capable of sexual urges. The strength of the urges will differ from person to person. As a whole though, I find it highly unlikely, due to the biological differences not limited to the brain, that everything will be equal after you averaged out.

And I also question the notion that any observed behavioural differences is due to nurture. Some things are clearly frowned upon, even harshly condemned by society and punishable by the law, yet you still end up with a skewed figure (by gender) of those who would cross those lines.

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Finally found a bit of time to reply.

I am assuming that you are referring to the study that suggests that "human brains do not belong to one of two distinct categories: male brain/female brain". However I do not believe that it is adequate to back your assertion.

There are a number of reasons for that, but the most important reason is that you've seemingly recognised, yet downplayed the significance of hormone. The same person (same brain), but with vastly different hormonal balance (due to, for instance, medication, stress or other factor) will experience various changes, including their sex drive. Both women and men will experience a change in their sex drive throughout their lives, but it is unlikely to be at the same pace, or even to the same degree, in part due to hormonal differences.

Also, due to the fact that I couldn't find the full text of the study, I question whether the study is done in a way that one could really draw any conclusion on sexual urges. Frankly speaking an MRI scan is pretty darn noisy, and if they haven't employed any stimulus, I doubt that any of the subjects will be the least bit turned on . A separate study using fMRI found gender differences in brain activation to audio-visual sexual stimulation. While it also doesn't provide anything conclusive to libido in general either, it suggests that we are different enough to be turned out differently.

Clearly most women, like most men are capable of sexual urges. The strength of the urges will differ from person to person. As a whole though, I find it highly unlikely, due to the biological differences not limited to the brain, that everything will be equal after you averaged out.

And I also question the notion that any observed behavioural differences is due to nurture. Some things are clearly frowned upon, even harshly condemned by society and punishable by the law, yet you still end up with a skewed figure (by gender) of those who would cross those lines.

No worries. I appreciate that you took the time--when you had it available--to respond rather than simply respond in haste. It shows you actually care about the topic and your response. It also shows you have good (and cool) head on your shoulders. Now, on to my reply.

You're right, there's limited studies regarding brain functioning differences between gender when it comes to sexuality. I also agree that studies do not account for the various ascpects that hinder one's sexuality. Even open-MRIs are still loud and not the ideal place to get aroused. That said, you are factually incorrect about one point, if nothing else: There are actually female/male brain patterns within brain functioning. I can cite the studies if necessary. (Interestingly enough, the studies have all pointed that these patterns on how men and women are also very similar in their neurological patterns.)

While there few little medical journals with the interplay of sex, neurology, and sexuality, there are a host of similar journals on any two of those three. Additionally, there are a host of adademic journals in the social sciences regarding those topics. As a side note, I need to read http://joe.endocrinology-journals.org/content/186/3/411.fullt to refresh myself on such topics. I am leaning toward the thought that while the sex hormones in male and women differ and manifest themselves differently physiologically (obviously), those hormones and regulated by the pituitary gland. Any serve difference in the pituitary gland between the two sexes would obviously show up in MRIs and would not need the person to be immediately sexually aroused. That said, I continue to defer to your opinion that there's limited studies. I also agree that all the other factors you pointed out do play a role in sexual desire (to list a few: stress, nutrition, and external social stimuli). That actually proves my point.

Men and women are not innately different when it comes to sexual desire as sexuality is greatly influenced by environmental factors. I would say, if nothing else, that it's a possibility that environmental factors (as opposed to internal, physiological factors) may create a difference between men and women. If we agree there, then, we can say there isn't much difference between the men and women when it comes to desire if we applied a controlled environment to mimic the same conditions for them. Obviously, that's impossible to do.

It all boils down a number of points we both agree on:
1) There are limited (if any) academic/professional journals on the topic in the natural sciences leading us to not have evidence easily at hand to support or disprove either position in answering the OP's question.
2) There is a host of external, environmental factors that should be taken in to consideration (in addition to any internal, physiological factors).
3) Witnessed behavior would be defined by social sciences and would take those external, environmental factors in to consideration; however, those behaviors would be a byproduct of those factors that had, had already influenced the person(s).
4) There is no way to compare emotions of one person with another person nor is there a way to measure the difference objectively (as opposed to subjectively).
5) Likewise, there is no way to prove or detail the thoughts of a person without that person's assistance. There is no way to confirm that such a person is being completely honest, forthcoming, and answering in full.

In the end, we would have to both agree that there is no way to be proven correct in our differing opinion. There simply is no objective evidence proving one point or the other. (That said, I'd like to think if we were to take out all these factors, men and women are more similar than different, at least when it comes to human sexuality.)

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Mastergold said:
That's quite a debatable question if you ask me. From my work experience (or usual every day life) almost of the time I always end up being surround with a group of ladies & young girls, and a lot of them were openly talking about sex with me as if it was a normal thing which I felt kind of uncomfortable.

At to this day I still can't understand why most girls (from my viewpoint) tend to feel comfortable talking about sex with someone like me, because from my understanding girls are more reserved when it comes to talking about sex.

-Mastergold

We generally really aren't reserved. At my old job all the women would compare sex stories, shaving/period/drunk stories, who's face they'd like to sit on etc. You name it, we talked about it. The men didn't talk about anything like that at all. It was always the women leering at the male colleagues and saying inappropriate things, too. The only leery thing I heard any man say was when we had a night out and one of the guys told me he'd had a dream where he had sex with one of our female colleagues. That was it.

At my current job we very openly had a discussion about cervical cancer screening tests (aka smear tests), and they all promptly compared their experiences in great detail when I mentioned the fact I was due my first when I turn 25. And a lot of the previous examples apply to this job too.

My best friend will regularly text me her sex stories from the night before, and she once phoned me during the middle of sex (I hung up on her).

Soooo yeah. Women aren't reserved.

Oct 13, 2016 12:30 PM

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I try to make them get off before I do but that is just me... if you have to ask why, you are doing something wrong....

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Now I see and thanks for clarifying my question. For all this time I've been living in this state of confusion because I couldn't comprehend the idea that girls would talk about a topic like sex, in such a freely and candidly way around guys (mostly me, heck! even my mom's friends and girl friends that I knew back then were talking about stuff like period in front of me). Since a young age I always thought that talking about your sex life/sex stories was a private topic. You know something that should only be discussed between your partner or girl-to-girl conversation.

At the end I was wrong and I blame myself for never bothering to ask that question to any female. The times that I try to ask most of them were from guys, and the answers that I got end it up being stuff like: "Nah! they are reserved, they just feel comfortable around you" or "They think you're one of their girlfriends so it's fine" and so on.

Anyways I just want to thank you once again, for answering my question and proving that statement to be wrong. Now I don't have to feel awkward about it, and see it as a normal thing girls do.

-Mastergold

Oct 13, 2016 3:08 PM

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Kuromii said:

Mastergold said:
That's quite a debatable question if you ask me. From my work experience (or usual every day life) almost of the time I always end up being surround with a group of ladies & young girls, and a lot of them were openly talking about sex with me as if it was a normal thing which I felt kind of uncomfortable.

At to this day I still can't understand why most girls (from my viewpoint) tend to feel comfortable talking about sex with someone like me, because from my understanding girls are more reserved when it comes to talking about sex.

-Mastergold

We generally really aren't reserved. At my old job all the women would compare sex stories, shaving/period/drunk stories, who's face they'd like to sit on etc. You name it, we talked about it. The men didn't talk about anything like that at all. It was always the women leering at the male colleagues and saying inappropriate things, too. The only leery thing I heard any man say was when we had a night out and one of the guys told me he'd had a dream where he had sex with one of our female colleagues. That was it.

At my current job we very openly had a discussion about cervical cancer screening tests (aka smear tests), and they all promptly compared their experiences in great detail when I mentioned the fact I was due my first when I turn 25. And a lot of the previous examples apply to this job too.

My best friend will regularly text me her sex stories from the night before, and she once phoned me during the middle of sex (I hung up on her).

Soooo yeah. Women aren't reserved.

That probably has a lot to do with the fact that if men were to repeat such behavior, they could be sued for sexual harassment. Maybe it is different where you live, but "sex talk" is extremely discouraged in most jobs I have had (both for men and women) because such behavior can lead to sexual harassment lawsuits, and supervisors DO NOT want lawsuits.

Oct 13, 2016 6:08 PM

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From my experience they do, but because of the double standard they can't be as open as guys about it. If a guy says "I'm horny" in the middle of a room most people will go "yeah yeah we know"

If a girl says "I'm horny" in the middle of a room... Everyone who isn't thinking about "helping" is calling her a slut.

Oct 13, 2016 10:36 PM

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If a girl says "I'm horny" in the middle of a room... Everyone who isn't thinking about "helping" is calling her a slut.

Girls can be so mean to one another, can't they?

Oct 13, 2016 10:55 PM

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it depends on which girl and which guy you're comparing. There's vast amounts of difference between individuals.

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Fabuubz said:
They/we pretend to not be that way, lol.
Woman are told to be ashamed of stuff like this.
Males, you prefer a "pure" girl over a dirty slut right?

old thread, but i dont really prefer a pure girl lol
i think it depends on how the girl wants to portray herself rather then what the guy wants..if a girl wants to show off her tits and ass, so be it but if she doesn't then so be it :\

Oct 14, 2016 1:23 AM

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Fabuubz said:
They/we pretend to not be that way, lol.
Woman are told to be ashamed of stuff like this.
Males, you prefer a "pure" girl over a dirty slut right?

old thread, but i dont really prefer a pure girl lol
i think it depends on how the girl wants to portray herself rather then what the guy wants..if a girl wants to show off her tits and ass, so be it but if she doesn't then so be it :\

I actually agree with this one. People be however they want to be.

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Oct 14, 2016 1:30 AM

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Fabuubz said:

memer-kun said:

old thread, but i dont really prefer a pure girl lol
i think it depends on how the girl wants to portray herself rather then what the guy wants..if a girl wants to show off her tits and ass, so be it but if she doesn't then so be it :\

I actually agree with this one. People be however they want to be.

yeah i mean i don't really get why being a slut is so bad? unless they're being forced to do that kind of shit then it's obviously a fucking crime, but i mean most of the time girls choose their clothing and girls choose their public image

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Fabuubz said:

I actually agree with this one. People be however they want to be.

yeah i mean i don't really get why being a slut is so bad? unless they're being forced to do that kind of shit then it's obviously a fucking crime, but i mean most of the time girls choose their clothing and girls choose their public image

Well, yeah if a girl chooses to dress a certain way it's fine.
Although it's kind of douchy to think of her as some kind of sex object.
But i won't get into this topic too much, i'm sure i'll go too far and trigger people lol

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Oct 14, 2016 1:34 AM

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Fabuubz said:

memer-kun said:

yeah i mean i don't really get why being a slut is so bad? unless they're being forced to do that kind of shit then it's obviously a fucking crime, but i mean most of the time girls choose their clothing and girls choose their public image

Well, yeah if a girl chooses to dress a certain way it's fine.
Although it's kind of douchy to think of her as some kind of sex object.
But i won't get into this topic too much, i'm sure i'll go too far and trigger people lol

wait i didnt mean to come off as a douche

Oct 14, 2016 1:36 AM

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Fabuubz said:

Well, yeah if a girl chooses to dress a certain way it's fine.
Although it's kind of douchy to think of her as some kind of sex object.
But i won't get into this topic too much, i'm sure i'll go too far and trigger people lol

wait i didnt mean to come off as a douche

Oh no i wasn't saying that, sorry! I'm very bad at choosing what i say
People usually misunderstand.

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Oct 14, 2016 1:47 AM

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Fabuubz said:

memer-kun said:

wait i didnt mean to come off as a douche

Oh no i wasn't saying that, sorry! I'm very bad at choosing what i say
People usually misunderstand.

it's okay don't apologize, though that was cute..ironic but cute

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Fabuubz said:

Oh no i wasn't saying that, sorry! I'm very bad at choosing what i say
People usually misunderstand.

it's okay don't apologize, though that was cute..ironic but cute

You think? Hmm.. Sometimes it gets me in big trouble, it's really not that much fun

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Fabuubz said:

memer-kun said:

it's okay don't apologize, though that was cute..ironic but cute

You think? Hmm.. Sometimes it gets me in big trouble, it's really not that much fun

what kind of trouble could that get you into

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Fabuubz said:

You think? Hmm.. Sometimes it gets me in big trouble, it's really not that much fun

what kind of trouble could that get you into

People misunderstanding me, not knowing i meant something else
start a war against me, might even get me banned (this happened to me on Tumblr before dear lord) and i'm not that good at standing up for myself so i usually end up losing or ignoring people for the sake of ending the entire ordeal.
Because really i was just stating my opinion, i never meant any harm. People take it the wrong way, i'm so sorry for not being able to comunicate what i really feel.

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Oct 14, 2016 2:14 AM

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Fabuubz said:

memer-kun said:

what kind of trouble could that get you into

People misunderstanding me, not knowing i meant something else
start a war against me, might even get me banned (this happened to me on Tumblr before dear lord) and i'm not that good at standing up for myself so i usually end up losing or ignoring people for the sake of ending the entire ordeal.
Because really i was just stating my opinion, i never meant any harm. People take it the wrong way, i'm so sorry for not being able to comunicate what i really feel.

...hmm... i think that's because people over the internet think (from my experience) a bit more highly of themselves which could lead to them not letting others voice opinions/not try to understand what they really intended to..kind've like im spending like 2 minutes before actually writing these replies..

Oct 14, 2016 2:25 AM

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Fabuubz said:

People misunderstanding me, not knowing i meant something else
start a war against me, might even get me banned (this happened to me on Tumblr before dear lord) and i'm not that good at standing up for myself so i usually end up losing or ignoring people for the sake of ending the entire ordeal.
Because really i was just stating my opinion, i never meant any harm. People take it the wrong way, i'm so sorry for not being able to comunicate what i really feel.

...hmm... i think that's because people over the internet think (from my experience) a bit more highly of themselves which could lead to them not letting others voice opinions/not try to understand what they really intended to..kind've like im spending like 2 minutes before actually writing these replies..

Hm, yeah i sometimes just think to myself "is it worth getting shit from people over this topic?" and if the awnser is no, then i won't post. It's a good thing to do.

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Fabuubz said:

memer-kun said:

...hmm... i think that's because people over the internet think (from my experience) a bit more highly of themselves which could lead to them not letting others voice opinions/not try to understand what they really intended to..kind've like im spending like 2 minutes before actually writing these replies..

Hm, yeah i sometimes just think to myself "is it worth getting shit from people over this topic?" and if the awnser is no, then i won't post. It's a good thing to do.

works very well in real life situations too ^^ "do I really need to say this?" "what will be the outcome if I say his, hmmm"

Oct 14, 2016 4:33 AM

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memer-kun said:

Fabuubz said:

memer-kun said:

Fabuubz said:

memer-kun said:

Fabuubz said:

memer-kun said:

Fabuubz said:

memer-kun said:

Fabuubz said:

memer-kun said:

Fabuubz said:

memer-kun said:

Fabuubz said:
They/we pretend to not be that way, lol.
Woman are told to be ashamed of stuff like this.
Males, you prefer a "pure" girl over a dirty slut right?

old thread, but i dont really prefer a pure girl lol
i think it depends on how the girl wants to portray herself rather then what the guy wants..if a girl wants to show off her tits and ass, so be it but if she doesn't then so be it :\

I actually agree with this one. People be however they want to be.

yeah i mean i don't really get why being a slut is so bad? unless they're being forced to do that kind of shit then it's obviously a fucking crime, but i mean most of the time girls choose their clothing and girls choose their public image

Well, yeah if a girl chooses to dress a certain way it's fine.
Although it's kind of douchy to think of her as some kind of sex object.
But i won't get into this topic too much, i'm sure i'll go too far and trigger people lol

wait i didnt mean to come off as a douche

Oh no i wasn't saying that, sorry! I'm very bad at choosing what i say
People usually misunderstand.

it's okay don't apologize, though that was cute..ironic but cute

You think? Hmm.. Sometimes it gets me in big trouble, it's really not that much fun

what kind of trouble could that get you into

People misunderstanding me, not knowing i meant something else
start a war against me, might even get me banned (this happened to me on Tumblr before dear lord) and i'm not that good at standing up for myself so i usually end up losing or ignoring people for the sake of ending the entire ordeal.
Because really i was just stating my opinion, i never meant any harm. People take it the wrong way, i'm so sorry for not being able to comunicate what i really feel.

...hmm... i think that's because people over the internet think (from my experience) a bit more highly of themselves which could lead to them not letting others voice opinions/not try to understand what they really intended to..kind've like im spending like 2 minutes before actually writing these replies..

Hm, yeah i sometimes just think to myself "is it worth getting shit from people over this topic?" and if the awnser is no, then i won't post. It's a good thing to do.

works very well in real life situations too ^^ "do I really need to say this?" "what will be the outcome if I say his, hmmm"

Because saying things bluntly is no good.
Hey, don't you think we've gotten a bit offtopic here? haha

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Oct 14, 2016 6:04 AM

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Brah its damn waterfalls down there you don't want to know, just stay with 2D waifus.

Oct 14, 2016 6:59 AM

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Pirating_Ninja said:

Kuromii said:

We generally really aren't reserved. At my old job all the women would compare sex stories, shaving/period/drunk stories, who's face they'd like to sit on etc. You name it, we talked about it. The men didn't talk about anything like that at all. It was always the women leering at the male colleagues and saying inappropriate things, too. The only leery thing I heard any man say was when we had a night out and one of the guys told me he'd had a dream where he had sex with one of our female colleagues. That was it.

At my current job we very openly had a discussion about cervical cancer screening tests (aka smear tests), and they all promptly compared their experiences in great detail when I mentioned the fact I was due my first when I turn 25. And a lot of the previous examples apply to this job too.

My best friend will regularly text me her sex stories from the night before, and she once phoned me during the middle of sex (I hung up on her).

Soooo yeah. Women aren't reserved.

That probably has a lot to do with the fact that if men were to repeat such behavior, they could be sued for sexual harassment. Maybe it is different where you live, but "sex talk" is extremely discouraged in most jobs I have had (both for men and women) because such behavior can lead to sexual harassment lawsuits, and supervisors DO NOT want lawsuits.

I'm in the UK, we don't have the whole "sue everyone for everything" culture that the US does. No one gives a shit unless it is actual sexual harrassment. None of my examples would be seen as harrassment by any sane person here.

Oct 14, 2016 1:09 PM

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Kuromii said:

Pirating_Ninja said:

That probably has a lot to do with the fact that if men were to repeat such behavior, they could be sued for sexual harassment. Maybe it is different where you live, but "sex talk" is extremely discouraged in most jobs I have had (both for men and women) because such behavior can lead to sexual harassment lawsuits, and supervisors DO NOT want lawsuits.

I'm in the UK, we don't have the whole "sue everyone for everything" culture that the US does. No one gives a shit unless it is actual sexual harrassment. None of my examples would be seen as harrassment by any sane person here.

From what I have seen, the UK is actually more strict on "speech", and what can be constituted as sexual harassment. Either way, in the UK "leering at male colleagues and saying inappropriate things" would be blatant sexual harassment. On top of that, you have repeat behavior which can constitute as sexual harassment, such as consistently talking about sexual topics within earshot of an employee (which yes, both in the US and UK can constitute as sexual harassment).

Honestly when it comes to laws surrounding sexual harassment / sexual abuse / rape, the UK is actually relatively sexist. I am not at all surprised to hear (that much like in America, probably moreso), dirty talk remains "locker room talk" for men.(although Trump's use of the phrase is a little misguided, most men aren't that cringy or talking about 'grabbing them by the p****')

I know I sure as hell wouldn't openly talk about sex in a country where one of the areas decided misogyny (as perceived by the victim) should be a hate crime. You are literally playing with fire there. Maybe British men don't think like me, but if I had the choice of being labeled a sexist pig, and potentially jailed for talking about "sexual stories" or just not talk about them, I would choose the latter.

Oct 14, 2016 1:44 PM

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