| I think I'd be willing to try it out. But no, you're not shallow for wanting sex in your relationship. |
| it depends. while i don't need full on sex, i do need some type of intimacy. some asexuals don't like cuddling while others do. if they were okay with stuff like that, then the answer is yes. if not, no. wanting sex in your relationship doesn't make you shallow or anything like that though. |
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JunkYardHiro said: Being asexual is extremely rare. Personally, in most cases I think its just another one of those edgy and popular sexual orientations people think they have much like Demisexual, Sapiosexual, etc. Probably in most cases, yeah. Or then it's just that two people who aren't sexually compatible at all have ended up together which leads one to believe "o I dun care about sex, I'm asexual" So yeah sexuality is a complicated thing and you don't necessarily figure it out until years later. |
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| lol, I've personally been ignoring the posts in this thread dedicated to tearing apart the existence of asexuality, because honestly, I don't see the need to answer uninformed and ignorant walls of text regarding a person they don't know, but mayhaps I should have, to prevent the continuation of such fatuous and inane remarks. This girl was not born an asexual. It's a result of PTSD. She was raped in the past, and it has in a way affected her ability to have an active libido. That's all I'm going to say on the matter. |
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Hachiko75 said: No. But if you are not happy with your current relationship then dump her. I highly doubt if she is as cold and hateful as you make her out to be that she is giving you any action. Stop treating her like a crappy job and just dump her instead of waiting around for the next booty to come along. This post makes you sound like an asshole. I kinda have to agree. It's not kool to string people along while looking for a new relationship. |
| if you want to be in a sexual relationship then it might not be the best to be with an asexual, cuz then you could both end up unhappy!! but you gotta remember that there are all sorts of levels of asexuality. some are willing to have sex with their significant other to make them happy while some could be sex-repulsed. it all depends on the person, so you would need to talk to them about it and learn what kind of asexual they are EDIT: im asexual so ofc I would be willing to be in a relationship with an asexual, but i have also been in relationships with sexual people and it was fine. im not sex-repulsed, so although i had no drive to do anything sexual with them i still did because i knew they wanted to and it didn't make me uncomfortable or anything. also you probably shouldnt be in a relationship with someone when you have eyes for another person lmao |
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JunkYardHiro said: "blah blah blah, commenting on unrelated things that i have no inside information on and making weak assumptions regarding entire relationships of multiple people"Hachiko75 said: No. But if you are not happy with your current relationship then dump her. I highly doubt if she is as cold and hateful as you make her out to be that she is giving you any action. Stop treating her like a crappy job and just dump her instead of waiting around for the next booty to come along. This post makes you sound like an asshole. I kinda have to agree. It's not kool to string people along while looking for a new relationship. gotta wonder why some people even bother touching a keyboard sometimes. |
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Duskie said: JunkYardHiro said: "blah blah blah, commenting on unrelated things that i have no inside information on and making weak assumptions regarding entire relationships of multiple people"I kinda have to agree. It's not kool to string people along while looking for a new relationship. gotta wonder why some people even bother touching a keyboard sometimes. You said these things yourself in your initial post. >_> |
JunkYardHiro said: I gave basic plotlines of a 5-month-old story to outline an entirely different point than what you're making. Yeah, I'm aware I should just ignore posts like this, but I think it should be a little more than obvious that the entire story of both of the relationships wasn't perfectly summarised in a couple short paragraphs. I gave the information required to give your point of view on the topic at hand, that's all. :TDuskie said: "blah blah blah, commenting on unrelated things that i have no inside information on and making weak assumptions regarding entire relationships of multiple people" gotta wonder why some people even bother touching a keyboard sometimes. You said these things yourself in your initial post. >_> |
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Duskie said: I gave basic plotlines of a 5-month-old story to outline an entirely different point than what you're making. Yeah, I'm aware I should just ignore posts like this, but I think it should be a little more than obvious that the entire story of both of the relationships wasn't perfectly summarised in a couple short paragraphs. I gave the information required to give your point of view on the topic at hand, that's all. :T Ignore whatever you like but you painted yourself in a bad light with your own words. I wasn't the only person to think this. We're giving you our honest opinions on the information you provided us. |
JunkYardHiro said: You're painting yourself in bad light right now, homie.Duskie said: I gave basic plotlines of a 5-month-old story to outline an entirely different point than what you're making. Yeah, I'm aware I should just ignore posts like this, but I think it should be a little more than obvious that the entire story of both of the relationships wasn't perfectly summarised in a couple short paragraphs. I gave the information required to give your point of view on the topic at hand, that's all. :T Ignore whatever you like but you painted yourself in a bad light with your own words. I wasn't the only person to think this. We're giving you our honest opinions on the information you provided us. If you wanna make baseless and crass assumptions like this, then I have no interest in your respect, lol. |
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Duskie said: JunkYardHiro said: You're painting yourself in bad light right now, homie.Ignore whatever you like but you painted yourself in a bad light with your own words. I wasn't the only person to think this. We're giving you our honest opinions on the information you provided us. If you wanna make baseless and crass assumptions like this, then I have no interest in your respect, lol. You asked us if you thought it was shallow and I said that it was. Sorry if its not what you wanted to hear, but you probably shouldn't make threads like this if you can't handle criticism. |
JunkYardHiro said: I can handle any uneloquent propoganda you can muster, sunshine.You asked us if you thought it was shallow and I said that it was. Sorry if its not what you wanted to here, but you probably shouldn't make threads like this if you can't handle criticism. But in the meantime, I'll make the most out of making you feel ridiculous, ofc. |
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| Yes I would. It would even be better then with a normal person (my opinion). A lover is a person to live your life with and be near you. If you want satisfaction just masturbate. You are male so if you close your eyes won't be any difference. |
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| Considering I have a low libodo (??) and might be a demisexual yeah i could be with an asexual. Most asexuals will have kids, and will probably enjoy kissing. I can't say it'd be bad for me to date an asexual especially a guy asexual since they wouldn't be hounding me for sex all the time. <3 |
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Raimu4 said: No I want to have children and a good relationship with a woman that isn't looking for attention with a made up mental illness. A. Asexuals DO have sex to reproduce just aren't attracted to people sexually, so their desires are far less. B. It's a sexual type it's not a mental illness. C. Some of them will be good to their partners to help them out? |
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VariFox said: Chandela knows what's up. +1(of a +1?) Seriously though, it's hard to find the one you find perfect out there. If she really is that great, you better not lose her buddy. Sounds like we all know "whats up" :P Although I am surprised to know this topic is still going :O dakotasapphire said: Raimu4 said: No I want to have children and a good relationship with a woman that isn't looking for attention with a made up mental illness. A. Asexuals DO have sex to reproduce just aren't attracted to people sexually, so their desires are far less. B. It's a sexual type it's not a mental illness. C. Some of them will be good to their partners to help them out? Heh the only purpose sex serves is to reproduce. |
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| I'm dating an asexual right now. We've learned to love each other without sex. |
| Absolutely not. How else am I supposed to show him I love him? Just hugs and gifts? Come on. |
| If you're asking me whether I feel romance and sexuality are related much then not really, definitely not in our current society. The only reason you should feel that is because "you want to raise a child together", but since that's been pretty surpressed these-a-days there is no need. I feel like an open relationship is just a lot more reasonable. Like you live together and make life decisions and what not with your SO, but either of you can just have sex with whomever you want. And with an asexual person there is just one person with that "freedom" I guess, since they wouldn't take up on it. I feel like if I had a relationship with an asexual, they would have no right forbidding me to have sex with others, since to them sex should mean nothing and to me it doesn't. However that's not the case for you, and if you really need sex with your SO then an asexual partner is not for you. period. If anything to me, though, a relationship is about trust. You know your SO thorougly and trust them with whatever they do. You tell them everything about yourself, so they don't have a reason to distrust you. You talk about everything that seems worth talking about, you spend time together, hav fun together and hopefully don't have fights. That's basically it, whether physical activities are part of that or not doesn't matter. Although I feel that by that point, you would probably be pretty comfortable with touching each other. The answer should be obvious by now, but yes I would. |
xxxYaoiMaster said: Yes I would. It would even be better then with a normal person (my opinion). A lover is a person to live your life with and be near you. If you want satisfaction just masturbate. You are male so if you close your eyes won't be any difference. a lover is also someone you have sex with regularly. http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/lover dakotasapphire said: Considering I have a low libodo (??) and might be a demisexual yeah i could be with an asexual. Most asexuals will have kids, and will probably enjoy kissing. I can't say it'd be bad for me to date an asexual especially a guy asexual since they wouldn't be hounding me for sex all the time. <3 how about telling them that you have no interest in that stuff from the get-go so they don't hound you all the time, as you so claim? <3 |
ThrashMatto said: Can the supposed asexual people in here reproduce asexually? no, so you're not asexual. Can homosexuals reproduce homosexually? |
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| Sex is something that usually both people want and is an outcome of a relationship rather than a bonus imo. Relationships will involve compromise, but this is one thing I couldn't live with unless I was asexual too. It will always be at the back of your mind |
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| I wouldn't be able to be with an asexual person in a romantic relationship. The sexual part is important for me. It's a fun intimate activity that expresses desiring a person. I want to do it, to feel it and to express it. I heard some asexual people can have sex, but it's not the same thing. If they don't have the sex drive something will be lacking. |
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Pink_Ribbon said: Absolutely not. How else am I supposed to show him I love him? Just hugs and gifts? Come on. I mean, the way I think of it, what if your partner was to get some kind of illness that prevented them from having sex? Would you leave them? I understand people have sex to show love, but me and my asexual boyfriend have lasted and continue to last. We're both young, so he could "grow out of" being asexual. Regardless, I believe relationships are about love, and sometimes sex is involved, sometimes it's not, I guess. |
Clebardman said: You probably think that was intelligent, don't you?ThrashMatto said: Can the supposed asexual people in here reproduce asexually? no, so you're not asexual. Can homosexuals reproduce homosexually? |
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FalseProphets said: Pink_Ribbon said: Absolutely not. How else am I supposed to show him I love him? Just hugs and gifts? Come on. I mean, the way I think of it, what if your partner was to get some kind of illness that prevented them from having sex? Would you leave them? I understand people have sex to show love, but me and my asexual boyfriend have lasted and continue to last. We're both young, so he could "grow out of" being asexual. Regardless, I believe relationships are about love, and sometimes sex is involved, sometimes it's not, I guess. That's something different, in my opinion. By that time, he would already know how much I care since we would have had sex already. So if I'd loved someone for a while and he developed an illness/got injured, I wouldn't leave him. HOWEVER, if I'd just met a potential partner and he revealed to me that he's asexual, my interest would die right there. That's just my view. I know others don't see it like I do, but that's why this thread exists. |
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Duskie said: So a recent predicament in my life, was that I shared a special bond with a lovely girl, who is essentially anything and everything I look for in a girl. Gorgeous inside and out, she makes me happy. I was supposed to choose between her and my current girlfriend, who's very reticent and cold. Although I love her, she doesn't make it easy. I spend a lot of my time in my relationship with her unhappy. I can't deny that, as much as I do love her. I saw this as an opportunity to possibly have a relationship that could be more fruitful. I weighed the two together, to the point where I felt like scratching my brains out. c: That's a summary of the game, Catherine! Hah! :D But, in all honesty... yes, I would! I would totally date asexual... just not in my bed, or in my life! I mean, I have a very... VERY active libido, and I like sex, but... not with other people. I can't stand people, and I don't want them in my bed, or in my life! I can have interest for both genders - most likely sexually - but never in a sence, that I would like to have sex with them! Weird, ain't it? So, yeah. I do see your point, but... if I were you, I would've choosen the asexual girl - hard-ass type ain't my type :) Oh, and you are not shallow! Not at all! Never think otherwise... kay?! |
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AnimeFreak-San said: xxxYaoiMaster said: Yes I would. It would even be better then with a normal person (my opinion). A lover is a person to live your life with and be near you. If you want satisfaction just masturbate. You are male so if you close your eyes won't be any difference. a lover is also someone you have sex with regularly. http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/lover dakotasapphire said: Considering I have a low libodo (??) and might be a demisexual yeah i could be with an asexual. Most asexuals will have kids, and will probably enjoy kissing. I can't say it'd be bad for me to date an asexual especially a guy asexual since they wouldn't be hounding me for sex all the time. <3 how about telling them that you have no interest in that stuff from the get-go so they don't hound you all the time, as you so claim? <3 Hey I honestly don't know if I am asexual or demisexual, it's not been proven, all I know is it'd really be a pain in the ass for someone I love to be a sex addict wanting it everyday 2x a day all week. If you're that person to others, go ahead, but i'm not one to think about it. |
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Otaku-Gunso said: VariFox said: Chandela knows what's up. +1(of a +1?) Seriously though, it's hard to find the one you find perfect out there. If she really is that great, you better not lose her buddy. Sounds like we all know "whats up" :P Although I am surprised to know this topic is still going :O dakotasapphire said: A. Asexuals DO have sex to reproduce just aren't attracted to people sexually, so their desires are far less. B. It's a sexual type it's not a mental illness. C. Some of them will be good to their partners to help them out? Heh the only purpose sex serves is to reproduce. Right, so they're not a burden on society IF they still have children and have a nice stable home. They're really not that much different than others they just don't do things on a whim. and have pregnancies when not wanted. |
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aliinetje said: Uuuuugh so tired of reading posts like this.Why are you still together with your girlfriend if you're not happy anymore in the relationship? I said I spend a lot of time unhappy in the relationship. As do most people in relationships. I'm not unhappy all the time - but like I said, I love her. And when you love someone, generally you work out whatever problems you have. I've been with her for many months now, there's more to a relationship than black and white. smh. |
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Duskie said: aliinetje said: Uuuuugh so tired of reading posts like this.Why are you still together with your girlfriend if you're not happy anymore in the relationship? I said I spend a lot of time unhappy in the relationship. As do most people in relationships. I'm not unhappy all the time - but like I said, I love her. And when you love someone, generally you work out whatever problems you have. I've been with her for many months now, there's more to a relationship than black and white. smh. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2,5 years and i'm still happy most of the time... It just doesn't sound right if you say that you're unhappy a lot. I also didn't read all posts, so how would i know that someone asked this before? |
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xxxYaoiMaster said: Yes I would. It would even be better then with a normal person (my opinion). A lover is a person to live your life with and be near you. If you want satisfaction just masturbate. You are male so if you close your eyes won't be any difference. "a normal person" How would masturbating be no different from sex for man, but not for a woman, provided they close their eyes? Do enlighten me please. aliinetje said: Why are you still together with your girlfriend if you're not happy anymore in the relationship? also off-topic, but hey fellow Belgian. ThrashMatto said: You probably think that was intelligent, don't you? He's making fun of you for using the wrong definition of asexual, yes. |
ThrashMatto said: You probably think that was intelligent, don't you? No, I'm just trying to figure out wether or not you really believe your first post. You could have clarified your stance on the matter but you apparently prefer to switch to your usual passive-aggressive bullshit... what a surprise... |
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DejWo said: Wayd can be a buttboy at the very best.Duskie said: Uuuuugh so tired of reading posts like this. I said I spend a lot of time unhappy in the relationship. As do most people in relationships. I'm not unhappy all the time - but like I said, I love her. And when you love someone, generally you work out whatever problems you have. I've been with her for many months now, there's more to a relationship than black and white. smh. I think you should have enough relationships to fill your happiness meter to the full. Like find 4-5 more girlfriends. I think Wayd would gladly be one of them. |
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ArbitraryMeme said: Only if they accept my identification as a gay sentry turret. Only out of pure curiosity... what a heck is that?! |
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dakotasapphire said: Otaku-Gunso said: Sounds like we all know "whats up" :P Although I am surprised to know this topic is still going :O Heh the only purpose sex serves is to reproduce. Right, so they're not a burden on society IF they still have children and have a nice stable home. They're really not that much different than others they just don't do things on a whim. and have pregnancies when not wanted. Couldn't have said it better pally, I think many people can learn a thing or 2 from asexuals on that note (: |
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| This may get to be TL;DR for some people, so I'll summarize it briefly at the end. So, I have experience here, sorta, and after it I can confidently say: I don't know. While she wasn't Asexual, the woman I was with had severe sexual repression and aversion. Mainly because she was transgender, and had been forced into a sex life with her (ex)wife where she was in the mentally opposite role she wanted to be. On top of this she was gay (Or straight, if you prefer, though this was before she began transitioning or realized she was transgender) in highschool, living with a family that threatened to kill her over it. So yeah, very very very repressed, and completely uninterested in the concept. Now, that was a situation where a partner is completely unable/unwilling to have sex as part of the relationship, so it's on the rather extreme end of the spectrum. It did put a strain on things, although I don't actually believe it was a significant contributing factor to us splitting up. While I do have an average or even high labido, I'm also perfectly content using other mediums to satisfy that. If I were to be in another relationship with an Asexual person (And I have to say; I would hesitate before doing it again, although it wouldn't be a dealbreaker by any stretch) I think there would need to be two important points: 1.) Sex would have to be on the table, if rare. Although I think frustration from not being able to satisfy a partner sexually would contribute as much stress as not having any sex at all. 2.) While I'm okay with sexual apathy, I don't think I could ever be with someone who had an outright aversion to it again. Even if we did have sex it would feel like rape. I couldn't handle that. Even if it was the partner proposing sex to make me happy. TL:DR You can just read the two points to get what I was saying. |
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Pahatar said: I sexually identify as a sentry turret which is beautiful piece of weaponry.ArbitraryMeme said: Only if they accept my identification as a gay sentry turret. Only out of pure curiosity... what a heck is that?! |
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Otaku-Gunso said: dakotasapphire said: Right, so they're not a burden on society IF they still have children and have a nice stable home. They're really not that much different than others they just don't do things on a whim. and have pregnancies when not wanted. Couldn't have said it better pally, I think many people can learn a thing or 2 from asexuals on that note (: XD Thanks, yeah this is a good example, but freedom to do what you want with whoever we want should be allowed even if it's giving unwanted pregnancies. Although it's not good to make a poor class larger. |
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| https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexual_reproduction Can they do this? |
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teruu said: It is impossible for a human female to be asexual. Yeah so this question is out of the way for me in the first place. Come on Duskie, at least give us hypotheticals that are actually possible. |
Trance said: You having a girlfriend is out of the question then.teruu said: It is impossible for a human female to be asexual. Yeah so this question is out of the way for me in the first place. Come on Duskie, at least give us hypotheticals that are actually possible. I'm out of ideas. |
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