| Pressure to marry someone you barely know is much more likely to cause a higher divorce rate than "love marriages" as you call them. But if they were hot I might just go along with it and use their familial obligation to score with someone out of my league. But it wouldn't be a very happy marriage for the other person. |
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| Rates of divorce are lower in countries were there are arranged marriages because people don't want to be stoned to death by their ex-husband. |
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| But a lot of people are forced or at least pressured to not divorce after an arranged marriage. Meanwhile love marriages happen more often in the Western world, where people usually have the opportunity to divorce. |
Cookies said: Rates of divorce are lower in countries were there are arranged marriages because people don't want to be stoned to death by their ex-husband. I agree. In places like India its looked down upon by society to divorce someone, whereas in the UK if you're not happy with someone you divorce their ass and take half their stuff. I'd rather live in a place with higher divorce rates if it means you're actually free to marry and divorce who you want. |
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| I'll have to side with the love marriage on this one. I wouldn't want to be pressured to marry anybody, I'd prefer to have a choice. |
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| Arranged marriage leads to a greater chance of spousal abuse than marriage for love. |
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| Idk much but in India don't parents force their kids into marriage at the age of 28 irrespective of time, financial condition & career status? Yeah no, I'm not having that . That don't jive with me.. |
| Arranged marriages rarely involve that much freedom of choice (to get involved in one or to get out of it etc). Most countries where arranged marriages are the norm have countless cases (every month!) of people being pressured or forced into marriage (and countless cases of women & men being punished in horrible ways for trying to deviate from the totalitarian system). Many arranged marriage countries seem proud of their low divorce rates but nobody seems to care that this is only because the repercussions for divorce (and even ability to get a divorce) are so bad that most people would rather suffer a lifetime of miserable marriage than to suffer the social repercussions of a divorce etc. And making lots of miserable (sometimes even violent/abusive) couples stay together is IMO no cause for celebration (its a terrible joke really!). I am SO glad I live in a country where arranged marriages are not the norm and people get to chose who they get to date and marry (if they even want to do those things at all) etc! Divorce rates may be high but they're only really high amongst middle aged couples who got married back during a time when marriage was still the norm (a lot of people rushed into marriage) and even though they later regretted their marriages, they tried to make things last until at least the kids were grown up and moved out (but once that has happened, with no kids to keep things going the farcical relationship breaks down entirely and that's one of many reasons why divorce rates are so high amongst middle aged people). A lot less couples choose to get married these days but because people leave marriage to later in life (focusing on establishing a long term relationship etc first), the new generations of married young couples will probably outlast their parents generations marriages (and be a lot happier) by a long shot (because marriage these days is a lot more about what the couple actually wants rather than what they feel pressured into doing etc). |
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| Arranged marriages that are mostly based on being a "suggestion" or "enticement" at most are OK, as both parties have the right to refuse, as long as there is no threat by the parents involved. As for love marriages... yes, but we have to prevent the "social status" BS here. I think people should not lose their rationality about the potential significant other (i.e. being conned), but I don't think that money or "history of the family" is in any way a good reason to prevent 2 people who love each other from being together. If I was suggested an arranged marriage with a person who can't marry another person she loves, I'd personally become angry at her parents for having too much arrogance in the manner of "knowing what's best for the daughter" and would actually support her in her preferences, unless the other guy is clearly a con artist or something like that. |
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ashishkaull said: 4blaze2it0 said: Idk much but in India don't parents force their kids into marriage at the age of 28 irrespective of time, financial condition & career status? Yeah no, I'm not having that . That don't jive with me.. India is a Big country with diverse thoughts . Its hard to say but Marriage is very important part of our lives . That is why most parents force their kids to marry before 30 as it gets difficult to find partners after that . Don't misunderstand this word " Forced " ? Yeah of course not the whole of India thinks that way but all my uncles, aunts & pretty much most elder people in my family (I'm Indian heritage by the way) were arranged and at least 65% of women had to quit their jobs. It's only now that my cousins have freedom of choice as to when to get married & get settled. Can't say the same about choice of career. Even if I wouldn't have wanted to study engineering, I would've had to anyway.. |
| Both. In an ideal world, arranged marriages wouldn't be so bad because the culture wouldn't impose so much pressure on keeping to the marriage going. But as the statistics say, "love marriages" are a complete sham half the time. It's certainly quite telling of how much emphasis people place on marriage nowadays. |
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| Hmm personally I'd go for love marriages, I don't really agree with people not being able to take those type of decisions by and for themselves. |
| I think both kinds of marriage are ok as long as neither of the parties are forced into it. |
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| I'm for love marriage. I've never been able to see arranged marriages working out as intended. On the other hand, though, I don't know much about divorce statistics in love marriages as opposed to arranged ones. |
| arranged marriage isn't love it's basically a jail sentence. If the person is an idiot you can't even be intimate with them nor can you express you inner feelings freely... You have no fucking idea how much arranged marriages make me mad. Whenever I see them in an anime, manga, movie or whatever medium in general I get soooooooooooooooo pissed. I'm one of the gentlest people you can find but damn it I think if I had the chance I would gladly peel the skin off of all the evil people who made the crappy arranged decision and actually enjoy hearing their screams. No lies though. They make me that distorted. I'd murder those airheads. |
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| I'm fine with both, I suppose. I don't think either one is bad. But it does depend. |
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| Not really my place to judge anything. However, bringing up the divorce rate thing is a bit silly, all things considered. I don't have any problem with arranged marriage as long as the children actually like each other I guess. I do not find the idea romantic by any means, though. Also, the options on the poll are funny. Love or arrange.. Should change love to something different or it makes it seem like arranged marriages are loveless. |
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| Arranged marriage persists in my culture, as well, but I don't frown upon it since the conclusion at the end is always made by the prospective husband and wife. The concept is declining, however, as love marriages become more popular (and I personally support them). Also, I think arranged marriages are a nice way to keep the 'Forever Alone' tag off your forehead since you're guaranteed a partner. Helps the ugly people. |
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| As long as the two adults aren't forced into it, I'm fine with it. |
projectfear22 said: If the person is an idiot you can't even be intimate with them nor can you express you inner feelings freely... On the other hand, there certainly are people in these free countries who would prefer a marriage of reason. Not everyone has the spirit for cuddling or sleeping in the same bed/room/house. The pressure might just be enough to make them never marry anyone, even if such willing people exist. |
| Satisfaction with a relationship levels are better indicators than divorce. Divorce can be related to cultural views on divorce. |
traed said: Satisfaction with a relationship levels are better indicators than divorce. Divorce can be related to cultural views on divorce. Correct me if I am wrong, but you're saying that some cultures have higher divorce rates because there is say, a generally higher acceptance of divorce in those countries right? Because if you are, I totally agree. Events are more likely to happen when there is less social pressure and consequence. Like, I don't think 'love' marriage ( As OP likes to call it) is worse just because the countries where it is most common happens to have higher divorce rates. I think its the idea that there is less of a repercussion to divorce in those countries then countries where arranged marriages are the norm. |
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| @Rarusu_ In the US they have a stupid thing where if both involved in a marriage have an income they are taxed for it. For whatever reason the US government wants to push single job run homes. @Done Yes, higher acceptance would lead to more divorces. However I do not entirely reject the idea that arranged married couples try harder at their relationship which can help them be satisfied. People seem really lazy about keeping up relationships these days. So ideally best would be a love based marriage where both involved always put effort in instead of just thinking "I got them already. I don't have to worry" |
| Arranged marriages suck as you have a higher chance of not getting along and basically not living a life of happiness. Love marriage all the way! |
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