Kyuss said: Tomato said: If your definition of 'into other women' is that they're romantically interested in other chicks, then you've got a point. But we're talking about pornhub and strippers here. It's a business transaction, there's no love there. Why would you stay with a man if they're into other women? If your definition is they can't be attracted to anyone but you, that's adorably naive, and also called being the thought police. His love nectar is coming out for some other woman anyway. |
Gov said: Tomato said: You'll obviously have to find your own partner that is open to this kind of thing. Usagi and I are just expressing our opinions on this. The main topic was about controlling partners and we've said we don't mind small things. Why would you stay with a man if they're into other women? I don't know if you are trolling or not but I will respond anyway. Guys, yes men go to places to have a good time or to do something they have to do. A strip club can be a place where you can watch the football game, eat food and watch women dance. You aren't into another women. Do you understand that? You are there to be entertained and get your belly filled up. this is such a reach, you can do that at so many places that are identical minus the dancing. like, if you want to do it, go for it, but it's not weird your girl doesn't appreciate it. |
Mayuka said: did you call holier than thou bitch right here last.fm |
truisms said: Gov said: I don't know if you are trolling or not but I will respond anyway. Guys, yes men go to places to have a good time or to do something they have to do. A strip club can be a place where you can watch the football game, eat food and watch women dance. You aren't into another women. Do you understand that? You are there to be entertained and get your belly filled up. this is such a reach, you can do that at so many places that are identical minus the dancing. like, if you want to do it, go for it, but it's not weird your girl doesn't appreciate it. Sex is everywhere wherever you look. Limiting someone's actions is stupid. I know highly successful people who go to the strip club with solid marriages because they have trust. What if my girl goes to the club with her friends and comes back late, should I ban her from going to clubs because I don't appreciate it? Is that where you are taking this discussion? Okay fine what if I don't appreciate her spending a lot of money on clothes during her shopping sprees. Should I ban her from going to the store with her credit card? |
PerpetualTrance said: This andGov said: How is banning someone going to a strip club reasonable? They are there to have a good time, eat some good and look at beautiful women. They aren't cheating and it is the mere social event that is the most important aspect. What is next, you are going to ban porn watching? This is 2015 ladies, it isn't a big deal. Bad reasoning, dear. Look, whether it's porn or not, the fact that you get overly attracted (to the point where you'd want to have sex) to the girl in front of you is enough to make your romantic partner insecure about that. Imagine your own girlfriend fapping to other males; or going to male strip clubs. How would you feel about that? You can convince yourself to be okay with it but the biological, psychological factors remain there; you will be a little jealous. And the more you venture outside your relationship, the more chances there are of your getting distant from your significant other. "Come on, lads! it's 1200AD not 400 BC! we can punish the homosexuals!"- said a guy living in the 1200s. Tomato said: This.In a good relationship you don't need porn or strippers, enough said. But it's really dependent on the relationship. Some girls would be completely fine with it. |
| I personally wouldn't care at all if my partner went to a strip club with their friends or something. I assume I should trust them enough to not create any relationships or cheat on me or w/e. Its like if, let's say, they meet an ex again & hang out with them for a dinner. I know they shouldn't do anything fishy with them, and if the ex attempt to make a move, they would stop them & make it clear they're not interested. My trust for my partner is greater than my distrust of the people around them. I think if you put restrictions on your partner, I feel you don't or can't trust them with other people. If that's the case, then your relationship probably isn't gonna last (assuming your partner disagrees & are very unhappy with these restrictions). |
Nilin said: I personally wouldn't care at all if my partner went to a strip club with their friends or something. I assume I should trust them enough to not create any relationships or cheat on me or w/e. Its like if, let's say, they meet an ex again & hang out with them for a dinner. I know they shouldn't do anything fishy with them, and if the ex attempt to make a move, they would stop them & make it clear they're not interested. My trust for my partner is greater than my distrust of the people around them. I think if you put restrictions on your partner, I feel you don't or can't trust them with other people. If that's the case, then your relationship probably isn't gonna last (assuming your partner disagrees & are very unhappy with these restrictions). A reasonable female. By the gods I didn't think I would see that in this thread. |
Gov said: truisms said: this is such a reach, you can do that at so many places that are identical minus the dancing. like, if you want to do it, go for it, but it's not weird your girl doesn't appreciate it. Sex is everywhere wherever you look. Limiting someone's actions is stupid. I know highly successful people who go to the strip club with solid marriages because they have trust. What if my girl goes to the club with her friends and comes back late, should I ban her from going to clubs because I don't appreciate it? Is that where you are taking this discussion? Okay fine what if I don't appreciate her spending a lot of money on clothes during her shopping sprees. Should I ban her from going to the store with her credit card? i mean, that's fine if they do go... i just don't think it's an unreasonable expectation. i see your point though, absolutely. it depends on the relationship and the circumstances motivating the person to go. if they just want to unwind and watch girls dance, cool. if they're a person who has had a sex addiction or is going to get lap dances from the other women or something, i can see why you would object. if you're in a long term relationship/marriage and your wife is constantly accumulating debt for shopping sprees, yeah, i think it's reasonable to say no to that. i think that's way more reasonable than asking your husband not to go to strip clubs actually. |
Mayuka said: did you call holier than thou bitch right here last.fm |
| Depending on the restrictions and the benefits I receive from the relationship... |
Wensbane said: Honestly, no, I don't allow them to put restrictions unless it's actually something reasonable. |
| I never let anyone who isn't an authority to tell me what to do |
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| short answer: no long answer: of course some behaviors are ok to change if your s/o wants you to, but trying to get someone to cut off their friends, or to not watch something is creepy af and i'd gtfo immediately |
deadoptimist said: Though I think shit-flinging should also have standards - no personal, no behind the scenes. |
| No, such restrictions like not being able to see certain friends, going out by myself, is silly. Some restrictions can be reasonable, like not spending the night at another females house. That I can agree with, but someone who tries to be controlling isn't worth anyone's time. |
Gov said: Usagi said: Yes, there is. You can have physical contact with a stripper, such as paying them to give you a lap dance. You can't do that with the girl on your computer screen. So by your reasoning it is okay for me masturbate to a very attractive girl I don't know who puts foreign objects in her ass and pisses on the screen yet the mere act of going to a strip club, chatting with my buddies and getting lap dance is a big no because it will make you too insecure? Do you hear yourself? Does that make any sense to you? Also clearly you don't go to strip clubs at all because food is served there. You can simply watch while drinking beer and eating steak with your buds. I'm pretty sure you're trolling because I'm pretty sure that no one, out of seven billion people in the world, can be this stupid. You'd have to literally be the least intelligent person in the world to think that going to a strip club is no different from watching porn. Just about everyone in the world agrees that actually having sex is worse than watching people have sex. |
Chiki said: Gov said: So by your reasoning it is okay for me masturbate to a very attractive girl I don't know who puts foreign objects in her ass and pisses on the screen yet the mere act of going to a strip club, chatting with my buddies and getting lap dance is a big no because it will make you too insecure? Do you hear yourself? Does that make any sense to you? Also clearly you don't go to strip clubs at all because food is served there. You can simply watch while drinking beer and eating steak with your buds. I'm pretty sure you're trolling because I'm pretty sure that no one, out of seven billion people in the world, can be this stupid. You'd have to literally be the least intelligent person in the world to think that going to a strip club is no different from watching porn. Just about everyone in the world agrees that actually having sex is worse than watching people have sex. One of the dumbest posts I ever read on here. Congrats. |
| Well if the guy really really are upset about being dominated by their significant other, they would've left them a long time ago. So it does mean something that they are okay being dominated as they do not see it as something negative per se. If you are going for a long term relationship and planning to settle down, you would go all out for your significant other, sharing all the good and bad times, and sacrificing things for the sake of other. In my case, I am just lucky that my girlfriend is not restrictive/as restrictive. Well the only she restrict me from doing is drinking, smoking and weed. Other than that, she's okay with me. But if she was even more restrictive, I really don't mind that I am committing in the relationship and willing to give things up for her. |
| Hell nah. You can't put this dog on a chain |
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| No, I wouldn't, that's one of the many reasons why I don't want a relationship. |
| I let my ex set limitation with certain things. But it never was controlling, just respecting. I'd probably respect my future Ms. Wishes :p Within reason |
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| Not really, I am pretty stubborn and straight-forward. So I wouldn't let my girlfriend decide for me or boss me around. Though if people are genuinely happy in that kind of relationship, then good for them. One of my friends is the type of person who'll let his girlfriend boss him around, he's not even allowed to do any of his hobbies, because she thinks they're weird and nerdy (it's video games and stuff like that, nothing actually weird). Though I personally think it's negatively affecting him, if he says he's happy, then I guess that's on him. He's an adult after all, he can take care of himself. I am the complete opposite, When my ex-girlfriend came home with movie tickets to whatever 2 hours of horse crap she wanted to watch, she'd be super excited and she'd say something like "Look what we're going to see on Saturday!", I am the type of person that would just look at her and say "No". |
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| I like being told what to do. |
| Nah, my boyfriend is usually cool with what I do and I'm also cool with what he does. I love him, and henceforth I trust him. |
| Wanted to quote Tomato but the new rule is super shitty and doesn't allow me to so: what Tomato said. |
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Cottonrabbit said: All relationships require some compromise. It seems a bit immature and selfish to me to prioritise going to a strip club over your partner feeling secure and happy in the relationship. Accumulating debt on unnecessary purchases without discussing it first is also selfish and immature. Obviously there are abusive relationships where the partner tries to isolate them and control every aspect of their life and this is bad. But making one or two adjustments is not a big deal. Both hubby and I have made requests of each other. Azu said: Wanted to quote Tomato but the new rule is super shitty and doesn't allow me to so: what Tomato said. There is a new rule? All posts have to be a certain number of characters, 30 in Casual Discussion. You can't use blank spaces, random characters, comments on the character limit, or anything without meaning to meet the limit or it still qualifies as spam. |
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