| Are you ever afraid to grow too attached to people? Such as worrying whether or not you can trust them, or simply being worried about getting too emotionally invested in another person? If yes, what were/are the reasons? And how did you "overcome" your attachment fears (assuming they were a problem of course)? Converse. |
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| I take my time getting to know people due to a child good event. Tho now I'm way more open then I was a few years back. |
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| I've noticed that the longer I take to try and approach people the more likely I am to regret not doing so, you have to really do things before its too late because its only once in a lifetime |
| I've been here way too long... |
| it can be a scary thing, but trusing people is a nice feeling. allow the love to enter ya life n be happy |
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| Most of the people I meet never get invested in someone. They avoid emotional attachments. Whenever I try to reach out, they simply push me away. Maybe the problem's with me since I always strive to make relationships as personal as possible. |
| Nope. I probably trust way too easily |
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| Sometimes. Though, betrayal can be rapid than trust. |
| It's something I can't be bothered with. |
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| Nope , I just don't place my trust in people unless they've proven themselves |
| To be honest, I never get emotionally invested with other people. I guess it's because I rarely care when it comes to that kind of stuff. |
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| Yes, because I've gotten to close to them a few times and my heart was broken in an instant. Imagine your dreams destroyed. Poof, just like that. As time passes, I am growing more and more afraid to even let anyone have a chance to get close to me. It's not that I don't want to experience love or be loved, it's just that I don't think that I could bear if someone breaks my heart again. And I don't want to become a person who is sick of life because past experiences. That would totally ruin me. And well, I don't want to be ruined. Feelings are beautiful and nice. Just not everyone's. |
Meikyuuiri_TsumiNov 20, 2015 10:22 AM
| One man's freedom is another man's terror. |
| I know people like this. They're not very fun at parties. |
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| That's y I tell them shit theyll prob leave me before we get too close I won't get that upset when they leave |
| Are you ever afraid to grow too attached to people? No, this isn't something I worry about. If I like someone, I'll let the attachment form on its own. If our bond weakens and breaks, I'll let that happen, too. Nothing in life is permanent, but that shouldn't stop us from enjoying it, and taking risks. |
| I've learned to never trust someone completely. Anyone and everyone has the potential to betray you. |
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| I don't want to get close to people because once I do I jus start unloading my problems and stuff more and more and while they say it's fine at first once they realize how much trouble I am worth keeping around they stop talking. It's a tenancy that I can only stop by keeping certain barriers between me and my friends, even if both of us dislike it. In most cases it's for the best. |
| answer: yes reason why: generalized anxiety disorder and previous experiences with people being shitty and not deserving my trust and time but tbh i think i'm less distrustful than an average person. i'm very open to starting and developing new friendships and i usually try to deepen them immediately |
deadoptimist said: Though I think shit-flinging should also have standards - no personal, no behind the scenes. |
| With boys? Nah, never. With other girls? Yes, it happens. Girls can be backstabbing bitches, in my experience. Not all of them, but some. But I still have friends from both sexes, I'm just more picky with which girls I hang around. |
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| I'm scared to get close and I hate being alone. I long for that feeling to not feel at all. |
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DejWo said: TBH,I do not really trust anybody. I have few closer friends,but even so,I do not trust them entirely. It is not wise to trust someone entirely. |
Temmie said: I don't want to get close to people because once I do I jus start unloading my problems and stuff more and more and while they say it's fine at first once they realize how much trouble I am worth keeping around they stop talking. It's a tenancy that I can only stop by keeping certain barriers between me and my friends, even if both of us dislike it. In most cases it's for the best. Exact same thing with me. I've just learnt to keep certain things to myself, and mostly keep people at arms length. |
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| I don't care about getting too attached to people even if I know I'll have to leave them soon, unless it's with a partner. |
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Grubel said: With boys? Nah, never. With other girls? Yes, it happens. Girls can be backstabbing bitches, in my experience. iiiiIIIIiiIIinternalized misogyny alert boys can be backstabbing bitches too. you need more experience |
deadoptimist said: Though I think shit-flinging should also have standards - no personal, no behind the scenes. |
| I'm not very quick to open up to someone, though this will vary from person to person. Considering my track record, I've gotten somewhat used to being left in the dust. I don't really fear attachment itself because it does take me quite a bit of time to get attached in the first place. Once I do feel attached, I will not let go of that person unless they personally want to let go of me. It'll hurt but they have their reasons, I wouldn't want to be a nuisance. |
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| No |
kawaiiyuris said: Grubel said: With boys? Nah, never. With other girls? Yes, it happens. Girls can be backstabbing bitches, in my experience. iiiiIIIIiiIIinternalized misogyny alert boys can be backstabbing bitches too. you need more experience Lol. First of all, I like that you disregarded the part where i said "SOME". Secondly, I'm older than you, and I have plenty of experience with people. Thirdly, I also like how you disregarded the whole part where I said that I have friends of both sexes, and that I'm just more picky about my girl-friends. Fourtly, where did I state that men can't be backstabbing bitches? I only stated that I'm not worried about getting close to men, because I hang around lots of them and none of them have ever backstabbed me, so I feel safer in their company. As a woman, I can't even see what triggered you here.... |
GrubelNov 20, 2015 2:48 PM
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Solos said: I'm not very quick to open up to someone, though this will vary from person to person. Considering my track record, I've gotten somewhat used to being left in the dust. I don't really fear attachment itself because it does take me quite a bit of time to get attached in the first place. Once I do feel attached, I will not let go of that person unless they personally want to let go of me. It'll hurt but they have their reasons, I wouldn't want to be a nuisance. Ditto for me as well. The problem for me is, when people I'm attached to "let go" of me, it's usually for reasons I can't understand (I can't even think of a reason much of the time, lol), or they simply betray me or grow bored of me. |
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If you can't learn to embrace you're fellow man, clearly you are an otter. |
 I love Christine "If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours. He will put some things behind, will pass an invisible boundary; In proportion as he simplifies his life, the laws of the universe will appear less complex, and solitude will not be solitude, nor poverty poverty, nor weakness weakness." - Henry David Thoreau |
ThrashMatto said: If you can't learn to embrace you're fellow man, clearly you are an otter. Relevant avatar? |
DejWo said: How so? you otter you.ThrashMatto said: If you can't learn to embrace you're fellow man, clearly you are an otter. Relevant avatar? |
I love Christine "If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours. He will put some things behind, will pass an invisible boundary; In proportion as he simplifies his life, the laws of the universe will appear less complex, and solitude will not be solitude, nor poverty poverty, nor weakness weakness." - Henry David Thoreau |
ThrashMatto said: If you can't learn to embrace you're fellow man, clearly you are an otter. Actually, I'm a sentient land squid, but nice try. |
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| I'm not worried about attachment; I am worried about people hurting me. |
traed said: I'm not worried about attachment; I am worried about people hurting me. I think this is my biggest fear which stems from getting attached to people as well. |
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SnugglyWhuggly said: Well clearly I must now reconsider my next "victim"ThrashMatto said: If you can't learn to embrace you're fellow man, clearly you are an otter. Actually, I'm a sentient land squid, but nice try. |
I love Christine "If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours. He will put some things behind, will pass an invisible boundary; In proportion as he simplifies his life, the laws of the universe will appear less complex, and solitude will not be solitude, nor poverty poverty, nor weakness weakness." - Henry David Thoreau |
SnugglyWhuggly said: Yeah ive already been hurt more than id ever want to and probably already beyond what I can handle.traed said: I'm not worried about attachment; I am worried about people hurting me. I think this is my biggest fear which stems from getting attached to people as well. |
ThrashMatto said: SnugglyWhuggly said: Well clearly I must now reconsider my next "victim"Actually, I'm a sentient land squid, but nice try. And who was your next "victim", if I may ask? traed said: SnugglyWhuggly said: Yeah ive already been hurt more than id ever want to and probably already beyond what I can handle.I think this is my biggest fear which stems from getting attached to people as well. Ditto, I feel like I'm damaged beyond repair at this point. |
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| I'll give you something to be afraid to get too close to. *unzips* |
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DejWo said: SnugglyWhuggly said: Ditto, I feel like I'm damaged beyond repair at this point. Nah,you just need a proper mechanic,who is out there somewhere. Do you happen to know where I might find one? |
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mochabearkawaii said: Nope. I probably trust way too easily |
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| Not afraid, just wary. It's impossible to trust people when you know how easy lying is. |
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