| meh im clingy too so its ok |
| Twitter and it's consequences had been a disaster for the human race |
| Some people here dont even seem to know what clingy means. No clingy does not mean abusively controling. No clingy does not mean a stalker. |
traed said: Some people here dont even seem to know what clingy means. No clingy does not mean abusively controling. No clingy does not mean a stalker. How can they know what clingy behavior is when all they have to base it on is their romance anime? |
| You dont have to be in a relationship for there to be clingyness. It can be friends or aquantances too |
traed said: You dont have to be in a relationship for there to be clingyness. It can be friends or aquantances too You're absolutely right. But don't confuse adoration and clinging. There is no good clinging. The only people who find good in clinging have some personal issues with being loved to validate themselves. A minor stockholm syndrome I would even consider it. |
| I dont mind if someone wants to talk to me all day long and says they need me. I only consider it bad if they get mad at me or i cant stop talking for five seconds without them going nuts over it. |
| The first part of that is adoration. The second part is clinging. They are not both clinginess. When someone takes affection and smothers you with it to a point where it invades your personal life as an individual. That is clingy. But just having that affection in the first place and uses reasonable ways to express it, is in no way a clinger. |
| Lol...... that yandere shit though. I think it all depends on the person(s). Like a lot of times clingy girls are annoying as hell. But friends.......sometimes it's good. Like me and my best friends are really tight and do a ton if stuff together. I don't really know if that could be described as clingy, but whenever we are around each other we stick close, so I guess it could be. I think if you've known the person a really long time and are friends then its all cool. But having a person who you don't really like, don't know that well or just met be clingy is annoying. #yuno |
| Yes, yes, yes, and not usually |
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| I am physically clingy. I always want to touch or have my arms cling onto somebody's arms. I like to hug people. Is this bad? |
violityApr 9, 2015 8:48 PM
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violity said: I am physically clingy. I always want to touch or have my arms cling onto somebody's arms. I like to hug people. Is this bad? Yes hugging is serious stuff Clearly you're a slut and will burn in hell for all eternity. for shame |
| Mmm clingy ppl annoy me so. I just need space sometimes I can't really see myself dating one. No I'm not clingy. |
| I tend to be a pretty clingy person unfortunately. It's not that I want to be, but my velcro pads seem to get stuck on people a lot, and trying to free myself is a nightmare. |
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| I'm clingy but I can't help it. :( |
Poitato said: violity said: I am physically clingy. I always want to touch or have my arms cling onto somebody's arms. I like to hug people. Is this bad? Yes hugging is serious stuff Clearly you're a slut and will burn in hell for all eternity. for shame *facepalm* wat. How come am I slut when I'm just very affectionate towards people? And when I mean I touch, cling to somebody's arms or hug, I mean it generally. Towards my mom, father, relatives and close friends. |
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-Sachie said: I'm clingy but I can't help it. :( violity said: I am physically clingy. I always want to touch or have my arms cling onto somebody's arms. I like to hug people. Is this bad? omg you guys are so cute please be as clingy as you want especially to me i love people who are cute ha...haa... i miss when my little sister was clingy now she won't even talk to me please come and cling to me physic..ally... |
Cottonrabbit said: The line between clinging or adoration is often a matter of perspective though. If you don't share the intensity of their feelings or same desire to be around each other, those same healthy behaviors in one relationship will be suffocating and invasive in another. I do know a couple who rarely spend any time together. They never go to the same group events or have much time together outside of work but they are happy. To me, that is baffling. I would be miserable with that level of independence but then they probably view our preference for each others company as clingy. Adoration is clinging that is appreciated by the recipient. Clinging is obsession. Simple as that. Are you obsessed? Is it impacting your social relationship negatively? Yes or no. If yes then cling. If no then not cling. Sure you can have people that show "adoration" more aggressively or less aggressively then what is considered normal. But if there are no negative permutations, one can make the case that is is not clinginess. But I would tread lightly on that, much like how you mentioned treading lightly about more "apart" relationships. There is a reason why the "normal healthy relationship" is the normal healthy relationship stereotype. Outliers can be there sure, but I would still be wary of the true motives of those aspects. |
| I hate most of them, but good ones exist too. |
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| no im not clingy ive been with guys that were, it was suffocating mmm im only clingy towards my mom or relatives - is that a bad thing? ahaha |
| save all the cute girls from ntr manga |
otakuloserperson said: tit said: I'm only clingy to people who hate me because I love being bullied. Omg me too! Who needs love and affection when you can crush on someone who is callous and dismisses your very existence. I didn't give you permission to quote me so shut the fuck up please. |
| I kind of feel bad for clingy people more than anything. I kind of get why some people are clingy. |
| I'll cling to you like a disease. |
| It's annoying, I mean obviously but sometimes its OK, it can be cute here and there. |
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| As long as it doesn't prevent me from doing whatever I want to do. |
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Cottonrabbit said: Six or Seven text messages: "How come you hate me now" "Where are you" "Where are you" "Fine don't talk to me" "Fuck you" "What did I do wrong. As a person who has done something like this in the past, I hope I can say one or two helpful words for people struggling with displaying this kind of behaviour in a current relationship. No, I am not saying they are the victims. I am simply saying that they have a problem that they need help with. This is all from my own experience, not an expert answer backed up by anything. I hope the above helps some out there. To answer the other OT questions, I tend to like my partner as clingy, but anyone else would be too much. I used to be a clingy person, due to some insecurities, but I worked on myself and got past it. Edit: grammer, minor additions |
ixraApr 10, 2015 1:14 AM
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Korrvo said: I like clinginess if I happen to like the person that's clingy. If they're clingy and I don't like them then yea fuuuuuuuuuuuuuck off (although chances are I'll be nice to them anyway -_-) Ditto! I haven't dated a clingy person...yet, but if I REALLY like them I'm sure I wouldn't mind. I think I could be clingy, just cause if I really like that person I would want to be with them often as possible. But texting every hour or day would be too much, or even seeing each other everyday. cause said: Cottonrabbit said: Preferring to go out together rather than on individual girl/guy nights, text messages during the day because they are bored or something funny happened, having hobbies you like to do together and really enjoying your company - that is fantastic. ^That isn't "clingy". That is a normal healthy friendship/relationship with a person. Cottonrabbit said: Locator calls, irrational jealousy and controlling behavior is awful. ^This is clingy behavior. Simply "wanting to spend time with a person" or "wanting to talk with someone" isn't clingy. I don't know where you people get that idea from. It's when you take that to the extreme where they invade boundaries and rationality. One or two text messages: "Hey" "You there?" A-Okay. Six or Seven text messages: "How come you hate me now" "Where are you" "Where are you" "Fine don't talk to me" "Fuck you" "What did I do wrong. Not A-Okay. Thanks to your response I guess I wouldn't be consider clingy just a healthy relationship. I consider this clingy because..my bf thougt it was and also holding hands when going out. I like affection coming from the person I really like/love. |
| I'm rather distant in any type of relationship in the beginning. However, as soon as a (fairly long) time has passed, and as soon as I made sure at least 666 times that the other person would have no problem with me being clingy (in case it might happen in the future, you know~), and the person still keeps insisting it would be okay for me to be clingy, then I turn into this hardcore clinging girl. I spam them with unnecessary random thoughts, don't make any effort in thinking around them and just babble, I use superglue to stick myself to the other person's arm/hand, I don't hide my extreme jealousy anymore, etc etc etc. As soon as I'm close enough with a person, I'm the default clingy, moody and jealous girlfriend. |
If life ain't just a joke Then why are we laughing? If life ain't just a joke Then why am I dead? |
Cottonrabbit said: cause said: ^That isn't "clingy". That is a normal healthy friendship/relationship with a person. ^This is clingy behavior. Simply "wanting to spend time with a person" or "wanting to talk with someone" isn't clingy. I don't know where you people get that idea from. It's when you take that to the extreme where they invade boundaries and rationality. One or two text messages: "Hey" "You there?" A-Okay. Six or Seven text messages: "How come you hate me now" "Where are you" "Where are you" "Fine don't talk to me" "Fuck you" "What did I do wrong. Not A-Okay. Thanks to your response I guess I wouldn't be consider clingy just a healthy relationship. I consider this clingy because..my bf thougt it was and also holding hands when going out. I like affection coming from the person I really like/love. He does make a good point I am curious if your partner is from another culture. It is pretty unusual in western culture to consider hand holding clingy. The accusation of being a clingy couple in my case has usually come from other people because we still prefer to be together (not that it bothers us). It is a fairly common generalisation. Anyway, you shouldn't feel bad about wanting to be openly affectionate.[/quote] Wow, you are very observant. He is a different culture. I mean I'm a mix of European, but he is Asian. I'm still amazed you could tell a difference, I mean I think I would'n't be able to critically think like that. |
| Im not clingy I just want to know where he at, who he with and when I'm with him I like wearing those shirts saying "she my girl" "he my man". Even better if there's a pic on dem too so he can wear that when im not around to scare of dem bitches |
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violity said: Poitato said: Yes hugging is serious stuff Clearly you're a slut and will burn in hell for all eternity. for shame *facepalm* wat. How come am I slut when I'm just very affectionate towards people? And when I mean I touch, cling to somebody's arms or hug, I mean it generally. Towards my mom, father, relatives and close friends. You broke rule no.1 of the MAL forums : Thou Shalt Not Take This Place Seriously. |
Where the fuck did Monday go? |
| I think clingy people are a bit too obsessive, for me to be interested in them. |
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incisorr said: Clingy people are awesome, if you cant handle being with someone you supposedly love all the time then you're a scumbag and dont deserve to have somebody clingy to you anyway |
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| Heh, my problem's sort of the opposite .Supposedly "I don't care enough." I've been dumped for not calling or texting every single day... "Why haven't you called me? I haven't seen you in forever!" "We went out like 2 days ago.." |
| i don't usually encounter clingy people bc i'm a pos and no one wants to cling to me lol |
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| Ugh. I dislike clingy people, I can't stand it. I wouldn't date them considering how focused I get on my education. I would have difficulties making time for someone, so I can't imagine the x amount of spam on my phone from them. Me? Clingy? Nope. |
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| I like clingy people actually. Guess I'm the only one, maybe I have issues I mean as long as it's not yandere levels of clingy, I think it's quite cute. Wouldn't mind dating a clingy guy either. |
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| What do you mean I'm clingy? |
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| I am very clingy but I can't stand people clinging to me all the time, I am weird. So yeah, I wouldn't date a clingy person, but my partner better be prepared for me. :3 |
| i freaking hate clingy people. give me my personal space and back the frick off. like seriously... alone time please? privacy? the worst thing is that i always seem to attract clingy people. they get infatuated with me. it's horrible. |
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| if someone is too attached too fast then it freaks me out a little i'm not going to think it's genuine, and it's going to annoy me if it escalates gradually and i start to think they know things about me which others don't, clingy behaviour is fine it makes me feel needed just don't get mad at me for not being clingier myself, i guess i'm not very clingy, at least not outwardly i'm somewhat slow to return calls; i'll prioritise tasks over other people and i can go a while without talking to a person ...not because i don't like them, and in fact, i might be much more fond of them in my head than i believe they are of me i just find myself distracted by other stuff a lot |
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