| Like I said, after I got my first few paychecks and deposited them into my bank account, my mom literally, confiscated my card and starts using it on whatever she wants. I am literally so upset right now that I don't know what to do, like she's my mom, I tried talking to her about it and she basically wants something in return for raising me... I don't even know what to do, honestly... |
| "It's our job as normal humans to make sure the potential on those misunderstood one is realized" - No Game No Life, Sora |
| "Something in return for raising me" - that's silly reasoning, imo. She's pretty much stealing. |
| is she buying heroin with your money? |
| She can't do that. That's a crime. She's just milking you for what you're worth because she either resents you or doesn't care about you. |
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| That is a crime indeed. But OP, plz. Are you living WITH your mom? IF you are living with her, you MUST give her the money. Because after all, you are just leeching all her resources. You should simply move away and have your own life. If she tries to steal your money, just sue her. But if you are still living with her, stop complaining. |
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goulartknight said: basically wants something in return for raising me... I know how you feel I always have to lend my folks a ton of my money. They used to ask polity and give a reason now they just basically tell me to lend them money and because I lived at home without paying rent in the past for a year or so I can't really argue with them because they pull out the guilt card. Beyond just taking your card back and making sure its hidden from your parent im not sure what else you can do. |
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| Is there more value in her having the money and you having (I'm assuming here) to not pay for things like gas, electricity, rent, food etc or is there more value in having the money and having to pay for all of that stuff yourself? She's definitely stealing from you but I doubt you're going to continue living in her house if you sue her. Actually, is it a shared bank account? Why does she know the PIN for your bank card? |
bash107 said: That doesn't actually depends on the country you live.In my country i could stay in my parents house until 30 and they would feed me like a bitch |
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| You can make your account inaccessible to her. |
| The OP hasn't even stated her home situation yet so you can't jump to conclusions because either way you look at it, taking someones card and using it to buy stuff for yourself without permission is wrong and disrespectful. Mod Edit: Removed quote of deleted post. |
VudisJun 7, 2014 3:58 AM
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Kibura_Iburasa said: Say what you want, but if the OP lives with his parents he will have to choose between having $600 and no house or having $0 while also having a home, food, all bills paid, Internet access and a familyThe OP hasn't even stated her home situation yet so you can't jump to conclusions because either way you look at it, taking someones card and using it to buy stuff for yourself without permission is wrong and disrespectful. Mod Edit: Removed quote of deleted post. |
VudisJun 7, 2014 3:59 AM
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lupadim said: Say what you want, but if the OP lives with his parents he will have to choose between having $600 and no house or having $0 while also having a home, food, all bills paid, Internet access and a family Or or like normal respectful family members, work out a monthly payment plan, what it will cost for bills, rent and so on. Make an agreement and how about, now here me out....Not just taking someones credit card and spending their money without their permission. My parents took 200 from me last week to buy fancy outfits for a night out but at least when I used to live at home we had a payment plan worked out and only one time did they steal my card without me knowing. Also I suppose im the only one worried now IMG is back every thread is going to become meaningless img spam. |
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Kibura_Iburasa said: Now let's calculate how much your parents had to spend with you.lupadim said: Say what you want, but if the OP lives with his parents he will have to choose between having $600 and no house or having $0 while also having a home, food, all bills paid, Internet access and a family Or or like normal respectful family members, work out a monthly payment plan, what it will cost for bills, rent and so on. Make an agreement and how about, now here me out....Not just taking someones credit card and spending their money without their permission. My parents took £200 from me last week to buy fancy outfits for a night out but at least when I used to live at home we had a payment plan worked out and only one time did they steal my card without me knowing. I know that the "I want something in exchange for raising you" excuse is flawed, but it is still valid. |
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lupadim said: Nope, is an obligation, not a favor what you're doing to your child.Kibura_Iburasa said: Now let's calculate how much your parents had to spend with you.Or or like normal respectful family members, work out a monthly payment plan, what it will cost for bills, rent and so on. Make an agreement and how about, now here me out....Not just taking someones credit card and spending their money without their permission. My parents took �£200 from me last week to buy fancy outfits for a night out but at least when I used to live at home we had a payment plan worked out and only one time did they steal my card without me knowing. I know that the "I want something in exchange for raising you" excuse is flawed, but it is still valid. |
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UnoPuntoCinco said: Nope, is an obligation, not a favor what you're doing to your child. Depends, if you're 19 or older and this happens you're way past the time frame for your parents obligation to house, clothe and feed you. They're not doing it because they're obligated to anymore, it's because they either want to or they consider it a favour to you. Even a single year of rent, food and utilities is a shitload of money. Mod Edit: Removed quote of deleted post. |
VudisJun 7, 2014 4:01 AM
UnoPuntoCinco said: The OP is 19 years old. It is NOT their obligation to take care of him and babysit him anymore.lupadim said: Nope, is an obligation, not a favor what you're doing to your child.Now let's calculate how much your parents had to spend with you. I know that the "I want something in exchange for raising you" excuse is flawed, but it is still valid. |
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lupadim said: Didn't know that. OP, get outta there ritenow.The OP is 19 years old. It is NOT their obligation to take care of him and babysit him anymore. Am I the only one that sees more and more ��ï when we quote this? Mod Edit: Modified quote tower; please spoiler or remove old quotes. |
VudisJun 7, 2014 4:01 AM
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lupadim said: The OP is 19 years old. It is NOT their obligation to take care of him and babysit him anymore. Because spending all their first few paychecks is really going to get them moved out and living independently quicker. Expect payment yea but logical payment, rent, bills maybe food but not just take the money when and how much you feel like. |
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Kibura_Iburasa said: I am pretty sure the OP's parents are allowing him to save some amount of money.lupadim said: The OP is 19 years old. It is NOT their obligation to take care of him and babysit him anymore. Because spending all their first few paychecks is really going to get them moved out and living independently quicker. Expect payment yea but logical payment, rent, bills maybe food but not just take the money when and how much you feel like. And anyway, as I said before, it is not their obligation to take care of him anymore. It's not like the OP can do anything about it. |
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Kibura_Iburasa said: lupadim said: The OP is 19 years old. It is NOT their obligation to take care of him and babysit him anymore. Because spending all their first few paychecks is really going to get them moved out and living independently quicker. Expect payment yea but logical payment, rent, bills maybe food but not just take the money when and how much you feel like. I've never seen or heard of a parent stealing their child's bank card and spending the cash on whatever they want though. I wonder if the OP's mother considers this to be a permanent fixture or a bit of a one off just for the hell of it. I actually have a lot of questions regarding this situation. It is intriguing. |
lupadim said: I am pretty sure the OP's parents are allowing him to save some amount of money. Its all speculation until the OP gives us more details than what was first provided, we need more information if he expects an accurate response. idungoof said: I've never seen or heard of a parent stealing their child's bank card and spending the cash on whatever they want though. My parents have done it before, because I lived at home for 2 months or so without paying rent at a time I was skint they helped themselves to over a grand a year later at random points. I didn't want to argue over it so I said call it my rent whilst I stayed and call it quits but they have been helping themselves to a lot more lately its getting to a point where im going to stop going over because everytime I visit I come back with a lighter wallet. |
SpooksJun 6, 2014 3:09 PM
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Kibura_Iburasa said: Now supposing the OP's parents are being dicks and doing it wrong.lupadim said: I am pretty sure the OP's parents are allowing him to save some amount of money. Its all speculation until the OP gives us more details than what was first provided, we need more information if he expects an accurate response. What can the OP do? Sue his own parents, move away and die as a hobo? |
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xXWoLFxChAoSXx said: [i][color=red]But then he won't have a place to live.[/i][/color][/size][i][color=red]Report her to the cops, she is stealing your money, and you are over 18. She legally cant do that.[/size][/i][/color] |
TyrelJun 6, 2014 3:22 PM
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xXWoLFxChAoSXx said: Or he could just live with his parents.[b][i]He could live with a friend or relative for about a month, and with the money he earns and saves up he could rent an apartment, or pay someone to live with them till he can finish school/afford a house.[/size][/b][/i] |
TyrelJun 6, 2014 3:23 PM
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xXWoLFxChAoSXx said: And let all of his money that he works for get tooken away from him? It's not his fault that his parents had him, so he shouldn't have to pay for it. He isn't his own kid. Not a kid anymore. Your alternative is not invalid but it doesn't take into account... any other variables. At all. Also, tooken? I'm not really a spelling nazi but come on. |
| How's your relationship with your mother? Why not just trying talking to her? Maybe you guys can come to an understanding. Does dad know about this? How does he feel about it? |
| Seems fair enough to an extent. How long has she clothed you, fed you, sheltered you, bought you stuff, so on. I wouldn't let this go on for months and months though lol. |
| ._____. i gave my first salary to my mom..actually i gave my family all my money for 2 years...i don't see the problem..if my mom wants something i would go buy that something myself... |
| Sounds like bullshit to me... I wouldn't be working somewhere just have my money confiscated, even if it was my parents. My parents are divorced, so I'd just move out and go live with the other one. If the other one was also stealing my $, I'd live with my two cousins who I'm fairly close to and trust quite a bit, save up $, and live by myself as soon as humanly possible. |
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| Most of the people in my country stay in their parent's home till 25-30! |
| Its called payback, maybe if you gave her some money she wouldn't take it all without asking; kinda worked for me in a similar situation. |
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| Sounds like slavery |
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| That sucks and it isn't fair. Taking all your hard earned cash like that? I would understand if you had a monthly affordable payment plan that you had to give to your mother but actually taking your card? It's very disrespectful and should be corrected. My mother would never think like that. She thinks I should live with her till I graduate from college and she told me I wouldn't have to worry about any money issues. So all the money I make is either for my car or for saving... I guess its a cultural thing in Japan because that's what her mother did for her. Anyway you should have a talk with her about this issue. You need to get your card back because that is unacceptable. If anything, work out a monthly payment plan with her. I'm sure she would agree and you could probably save money as well. |
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| You should try to reach an agreement with her. It is the money you worked for, so she should ask as she is not entitled to it. |
| "Let Justice Be Done!" My Theme Fight again, fight again for justice! |
| I didn't know your family was poor.Jokes. Tell her to sit down, and talk. Talking is good. Violence is a no-no. |
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| OP, if you decide to sue your mom, please go on Judge Mathis. i'm hooked on that show. |
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| I heard that 60% of parents don't give back money they take. Goodluck. apparently its quite common now with the economy and all. |
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| lol It s her house. Don't like it then leave. You can disown her in the process too though. Tell her that she has to choose between relations with you and your paychecks. |
| If your over 18 you can probably change the account password, go to a new bank, or pull out money and put it somewhere other than in the bank. |
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| Open a bank account that she doesn't have access to at a different bank, and start depositing checks there instead, but don't move all the money out right away, just make sure you're moved out when it runs out. Then prepare to move out ASAP, and go "No Contact" with her after explaining the situation to family members you trust, preferably extended family she doesn't keep in regular contact with that will respect your desire to not remain in contact with her after this stunt. Alternatively, walk into the bank and report the card as stolen. You best be ready to change banks and move out, though, because she will probably rain fury down on you for this wholly legal stunt of reporting the card stolen (which it could probably be considered as such). |
donavannjJun 6, 2014 8:43 PM
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Sclequer said: OP is 19 years old. It is NOT their obligation to take care of him and babysit him anymore. What's up with this belief? Why the fuck should you stop taking care of your child once they hit 18? |
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| Report her, it's your money. Even if she is your mom she has no place stealing what's not her's |
| My family is a treasure, you need a map and shovel to find them. |
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