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Oct 26, 2019 12:18 AM
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So I've noticed women like to exchange their "outfits" or clothing sometimes... Some siblings also wear each other's clothes, which I also haven't been able to experience cause I have a sister and shes much younger than me. I just find the concept strange... like I wear my own clothes. I bought them because I feel like they look good on me. I don't know why I would put on other people's clothes... its just strange. I also tend to be protective of my clothing from others.

Theres a funny story actually. I was volunteering for an event and I got paired up with a girl and we essentially had got placed at one part of the venue and would have to stand there for like 3 hrs. SO it would honestly be weird not to have some sort of conversation. So I just start talking to this girl and I found out all this stuff about her life like how shes going to school for animation and what kind of shows shes into and her ethnic background and religion. She makes sure to tell me like at least 3 times that she has a bf, because apparently a man can't be friendly with someone he has to talk to for almost 3 hrs. So I'm usually well prepared and I had a jacket in my bag, because I knew it would be getting colder that day. This girl did not. So here I am in my warm cozy jacket and this girl is out here literally shivering. The thing is I just don't like letting other people borrow my clothing period. On top of that I'd be cold if I gave her my jacket and she kept mentioning her bf and idk if he would feel some way about this. So yeah I just let the girl be cold and eventually I convinced her to take a break


Anyway what you guys think?

LoneWolfOct 26, 2019 5:21 AM

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Oct 26, 2019 4:12 AM
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It seems like you were just making up excuses to not let her borrow your jacket by reminding yourself of her boyfriend, even though he has no presence at all. The right action would not be just remove your jacket and hand it over. You ask her if she would like to wear your jacket, and alternate between you two every 10 minutes or so if she accepts, if you really didn't want to be too nice to her.

To be honest, what you did is completely fine, albeit more on the insensitive side. But still, I'm still not patronizing enough to call you anything because I probably would be reluctant to give her my jacket too, but in the end I would... I hope.
Oct 26, 2019 4:58 AM
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I don't like to wear other people's clothing. I go by the concept what's mine is mine and what's yours is yours when it comes to clothing.
I do have a sibling, but I can't wear her clothes even if I would want to. First, she's younger than me, so her clothes would not fit me, except for the over sized ones, both of us like over sized hoodies. And second of all, she's a girl and I'm a guy, but that would not be such a big issue since most of her clothes are very boy-ish, she rarely wear anything that a girl would usually wear. She thinks boy clothes are much more comfy than girl clothes and I have to agree with her on this ones.
Oct 26, 2019 5:30 AM
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Yarub said:
It seems like you were just making up excuses to not let her borrow your jacket by reminding yourself of her boyfriend, even though he has no presence at all. The right action would not be just remove your jacket and hand it over. You ask her if she would like to wear your jacket, and alternate between you two every 10 minutes or so if she accepts, if you really didn't want to be too nice to her.

To be honest, what you did is completely fine, albeit more on the insensitive side. But still, I'm still not patronizing enough to call you anything because I probably would be reluctant to give her my jacket too, but in the end I would... I hope.


I don't feel like I'm obligated to let anyone borrow my personal clothing, later on I found out you could even borrow a jacket from the volunteer office, this girl was just poorly prepared and It's not like I was a complete asshole, told her to take a break cause she was clearly cold. Also it was one of my favorite jackets... A black Akira jacket (the one that Kaneda wears) and it was quite expensive I just don't like the concept of other people wearing my clothes. Even if she didn't have a bf I would be reluctant, I feel like that was just a cherry on top thing. I feel like she was making a point to keep mentioning it to me even though I was just making small talk in a situation where it would be weird not to.

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself."
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Oct 26, 2019 5:53 AM
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I once borrowed and wore my friend's underwear when I was invited swimming unprepared
(just came from school to the pool)
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there's nothing wrong with what you did, there's no right or wrong on those situation.
I would have offered her my jacket though, and tell her that im not by any means hitting on her, just chivalry. If she accepts it or not is her choice.

If it was unbearably cold though, I'll probably also convince her to take a break and keep the jacket.

Oct 26, 2019 5:59 AM
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I'm a rather selfish person so, in my opinion, you did nothing wrong.
It is of more importance to me that I'm nice and warm than someone I just met.
My brother and I wear each others clothes from time to time. It's usually just shoes or T-shirts but at times he takes some of my suits (which I despise sharing).


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Oct 26, 2019 6:03 AM
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I don't care about wearing other people's clothes, nor about lending others my clothes. In that situation, though, I would probably state we could share the jacket and take turns wearing that. I mean, I'm working with that person for three hours, it sounds a bit rude not to.
Oct 26, 2019 6:10 AM
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I've never worn someone else's clothes. If they have something i like, i would just buy it myself instead of borrowing them. I'm not into clothes anyway, so i doubt that'd ever happen. My friends definitely didn't exchange clothes either, we're just possessive of our things i guess. It's like lending a DVD to someone. I never ever did it, because i saw what an awful state their own discs were. A bit mean of me, but i didn't want my stuff getting damaged :'D

Hmm i think not giving her the jacket was fine. That's a bit too personal i think, especially when you're essentially a stranger. I'd be a bit reluctant accepting a jacket from someone who wasn't a friend and wouldn't want them to be cold anyway. Giving a girl your jacket is a very boyfriend-ey thing to do i think. Not a big deal if you offered though, it's just a jacket at the end of the day.
Oct 26, 2019 6:13 AM
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I'm not sure about it, but I think it depends on the person size body. I have a slim body so I prefer picking something that fits me perfectly. Some of my friends has bigger body and some are fat. If I use their clothes I would look super awful. I mean, imagine you're just a little kid but for some reason you have to use an adult sized clothes. you'd probably say "damn, this clothe is too big for me."
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Oct 26, 2019 6:47 AM

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I don't really fuss over it, I share if it's needed and I accept if I need extra clothes for some odd reason. It's really nothing special as long as people give those clothes back after they don't need them.
Oct 26, 2019 7:03 AM
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I think it is pretty common among siblings of the same sex. An older brother may have his clothes handed down to a younger brother as they grow. It was pretty fashionable for black boys to wear large T-Shirts, jerseys and shorts. I'm pretty sure it started with poor parents just trying to save money on clothes by passing them down. So you'd have a little boy wearing a large T-shirt and the parents would just say that they'd grow into them. I'll bet some parents even looked ahead and purposely bought oversized clothes sp that their children wouldn't grow out of them too quickly.

Also commom for girls to wear their boyfriend's clothes while at home.
Oct 26, 2019 10:35 AM

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I don't mind giving my clothes to others. My mom and sister both wear my clothes. We all wear the same socks and its always been like that for as long as I can remember. I like wearing other people's stuff if they're close to me besides family because it makes me feel cozy.

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Oct 26, 2019 10:52 AM

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is this a fetish because I was turned on from the first sentence of your post.
Oct 26, 2019 3:07 PM

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I am very protective of everything I own. Nobody wears it, nobody touches it. I hate to have people touch my phone and computer especially. I don't even want people looking at the screen for any reason. When I'm in public I always look for corner spots or spots that are against a wall because I do not want anybody looking at my phone screen. Doesn't matter what I am looking at, I just hate people looking at my screen. Don't move anything in my room around either. I will notice. I get a little annoyed sometimes because my mom thinks she's cleaning my room but what actually happens is I panic because I don't know where anything is now. My room isn't messy, its actually pretty clean for the most part but what isn't neat stands out.

I do find it strange how girls are so okay with doing stuff like wearing each other's clothes, borrowing one another's shampoo, or looking at and using each other's phones and computers. Not that every girl is like that, but I never see guys doing this kind of stuff unless it was an emergency of some kind.
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Oct 26, 2019 6:54 PM

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I'm also quite protective with everything I own

However I wouldn't mind giving my clothes to an hypothetical lover as well as borrowing his clothes, as long as the size matches
Oct 27, 2019 8:41 AM

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I usually wear my older brother's clothes on every day, sometimes we tended to swap clothes every day and every daily all the time.
Oct 27, 2019 9:00 AM
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Until we were like 10 or something me and my brother exchanged shirts and trousers simply because our parents thought it would be a waste to buy each other new clothes and we didn't have much money either. I didn't like to wear girly clothes (still hate dresses with all my might) so I was fine. But it was awkward for my mum to explain each time someone said "oh your sons are so adorable". Now when I'm much older I wouldn't mind sharing a shirt with a friend,but other than that I'm reluctant.
Oct 27, 2019 10:31 AM

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LoneWolf said:
Some siblings also wear each other's clothes, which I also haven't been able to experience cause I have a sister and shes much younger than me.
no one is falling for that, we know you steal ur imoto's panties and wear em and rub em all over yourself. you sick fuck.
LoneWolf said:
I was volunteering for an event and I got paired up with a girl and we essentially had got placed at one part of the venue and would have to stand there for like 3 hrs. SO it would honestly be weird not to have some sort of conversation. So I just start talking to this girl and I found out all this stuff about her life like how shes going to school for animation and what kind of shows shes into and her ethnic background and religion. She makes sure to tell me like at least 3 times that she has a bf, because apparently a man can't be friendly with someone he has to talk to for almost 3 hrs. So I'm usually well prepared and I had a jacket in my bag, because I knew it would be getting colder that day. This girl did not. So here I am in my warm cozy jacket and this girl is out here literally shivering. The thing is I just don't like letting other people borrow my clothing period. On top of that I'd be cold if I gave her my jacket and she kept mentioning her bf and idk if he would feel some way about this. So yeah I just let the girl be cold and eventually I convinced her to take a break
total boss moment there. ya did right.
Oct 29, 2019 1:50 AM
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If you don't wear other people's shoes on your face then you're missing out.
Oct 29, 2019 5:23 AM
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I don't like to wear other peoples clothes (a cost maybe if I'm freezing my nuts off) but my former girlfriend never wore a jumper because she always wanted to wear the one I was wearing when I walked her home, she would never wear a washed one as she wanted one that smelled of me.
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Maybe you don't trust the person's hygiene? Personally, I don't mind lending my stuff to someone I know. But for random people - nah. I can't imagine someone wearing my kawaii clothes on a stinky body. Jeez. By the way, I've heard that dirty clothing could be a fetish. Some dudes are ready to pay for women's dirty shoes or even panties to sniff that shit and get an orgasm. This is a really weird case. I'm wondering, is someone here ready to sell their stuff for such "lovers"? Maybe I am, but it depends on the price.
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Honestly I would let others borrow my clothing if they were to promise in sanitizing.
Dec 6, 2021 6:10 AM
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I wear hand me downs. But I would wash them first before wearing them.
I don't mind lending my jacket if someone is cold. or because they need it due to an unfortunate accident leading them to need temporary replacement clothing.
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I also often borrowed clothes to and from my friends but not as much as girls
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I love that, because they smell like them and when it's from guys they are a bit oversized and comfy and I especially love the clothes from my girlfriend.
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Dec 6, 2021 7:19 AM

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I have always had partners that I shared my clothes with. My ex-wife and I had the same style, taste and size. Now my new partner and I are in the same boat, even though he's a man. My favourite clothing piece of his is his norwegian "russegenser" graduation hoodie from 2011.
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My brother often lent me some of his shirts.


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Yarub said:
It seems like you were just making up excuses to not let her borrow your jacket by reminding yourself of her boyfriend, even though he has no presence at all. The right action would not be just remove your jacket and hand it over. You ask her if she would like to wear your jacket, and alternate between you two every 10 minutes or so if she accepts, if you really didn't want to be too nice to her.

To be honest, what you did is completely fine, albeit more on the insensitive side. But still, I'm still not patronizing enough to call you anything because I probably would be reluctant to give her my jacket too, but in the end I would... I hope.
Not handing over the jacket is the right choice here. To hell with those who are incapable of discerning the most obvious of outcomes!


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Dec 6, 2021 1:26 PM
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Gross! Who does that trailer park trash? Ghetto hoodlums.
Dec 6, 2021 1:37 PM

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Luchse said:
Yarub said:
It seems like you were just making up excuses to not let her borrow your jacket by reminding yourself of her boyfriend, even though he has no presence at all. The right action would not be just remove your jacket and hand it over. You ask her if she would like to wear your jacket, and alternate between you two every 10 minutes or so if she accepts, if you really didn't want to be too nice to her.

To be honest, what you did is completely fine, albeit more on the insensitive side. But still, I'm still not patronizing enough to call you anything because I probably would be reluctant to give her my jacket too, but in the end I would... I hope.
Not handing over the jacket is the right choice here. To hell with those who are incapable of discerning the most obvious of outcomes!
2 years later and in retrospect, I would hand my jacket without second thought. Shit happens and I can tolerate the cold.
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I wear clothes I find in the streets and can spend days wearing them without washing them.



Fight me, hygiene freaks ;)

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Jul 25, 2022 7:53 AM

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i buy used clothes occasionally, if that counts, but i dont like the idea of me wearing an outfit/article of clothing that is still, 100% someone elses.
Jul 25, 2022 8:40 AM

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I'm the youngest of 6 so I'm used to hand me downs. I share clothes with my friends sometimes. And I steal my fiances hoodies and shorts all the time.
Jul 25, 2022 2:23 PM
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Umm, no? Unless you gave old clothes away, I think most people are quite conscious about their belongings.
I doubt anyone will share any unless it's an emergency or they are close.

They are probably doing this for fun. I just pray that the clothes stay safe. Good luck, poor clothing.
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I sometimes wear my brothers clothes since we're almost like twins, but we're actually not

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