| So I've noticed women like to exchange their "outfits" or clothing sometimes... Some siblings also wear each other's clothes, which I also haven't been able to experience cause I have a sister and shes much younger than me. I just find the concept strange... like I wear my own clothes. I bought them because I feel like they look good on me. I don't know why I would put on other people's clothes... its just strange. I also tend to be protective of my clothing from others. Theres a funny story actually. I was volunteering for an event and I got paired up with a girl and we essentially had got placed at one part of the venue and would have to stand there for like 3 hrs. SO it would honestly be weird not to have some sort of conversation. So I just start talking to this girl and I found out all this stuff about her life like how shes going to school for animation and what kind of shows shes into and her ethnic background and religion. She makes sure to tell me like at least 3 times that she has a bf, because apparently a man can't be friendly with someone he has to talk to for almost 3 hrs. So I'm usually well prepared and I had a jacket in my bag, because I knew it would be getting colder that day. This girl did not. So here I am in my warm cozy jacket and this girl is out here literally shivering. The thing is I just don't like letting other people borrow my clothing period. On top of that I'd be cold if I gave her my jacket and she kept mentioning her bf and idk if he would feel some way about this. So yeah I just let the girl be cold and eventually I convinced her to take a break Anyway what you guys think? |
LoneWolfOct 26, 2019 5:21 AM
 "The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." -Friedrich Nietzsche |
| It seems like you were just making up excuses to not let her borrow your jacket by reminding yourself of her boyfriend, even though he has no presence at all. The right action would not be just remove your jacket and hand it over. You ask her if she would like to wear your jacket, and alternate between you two every 10 minutes or so if she accepts, if you really didn't want to be too nice to her. To be honest, what you did is completely fine, albeit more on the insensitive side. But still, I'm still not patronizing enough to call you anything because I probably would be reluctant to give her my jacket too, but in the end I would... I hope. |
Yarub said: It seems like you were just making up excuses to not let her borrow your jacket by reminding yourself of her boyfriend, even though he has no presence at all. The right action would not be just remove your jacket and hand it over. You ask her if she would like to wear your jacket, and alternate between you two every 10 minutes or so if she accepts, if you really didn't want to be too nice to her. To be honest, what you did is completely fine, albeit more on the insensitive side. But still, I'm still not patronizing enough to call you anything because I probably would be reluctant to give her my jacket too, but in the end I would... I hope. I don't feel like I'm obligated to let anyone borrow my personal clothing, later on I found out you could even borrow a jacket from the volunteer office, this girl was just poorly prepared and It's not like I was a complete asshole, told her to take a break cause she was clearly cold. Also it was one of my favorite jackets... A black Akira jacket (the one that Kaneda wears) and it was quite expensive I just don't like the concept of other people wearing my clothes. Even if she didn't have a bf I would be reluctant, I feel like that was just a cherry on top thing. I feel like she was making a point to keep mentioning it to me even though I was just making small talk in a situation where it would be weird not to. |
"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." -Friedrich Nietzsche |
| I once borrowed and wore my friend's underwear when I was invited swimming unprepared (just came from school to the pool) __ there's nothing wrong with what you did, there's no right or wrong on those situation. I would have offered her my jacket though, and tell her that im not by any means hitting on her, just chivalry. If she accepts it or not is her choice. If it was unbearably cold though, I'll probably also convince her to take a break and keep the jacket. |
| I'm a rather selfish person so, in my opinion, you did nothing wrong. It is of more importance to me that I'm nice and warm than someone I just met. My brother and I wear each others clothes from time to time. It's usually just shoes or T-shirts but at times he takes some of my suits (which I despise sharing). |
  “The most shameless thing in the world is political power that can be inherited regardless of ability or talent!” |
| I don't care about wearing other people's clothes, nor about lending others my clothes. In that situation, though, I would probably state we could share the jacket and take turns wearing that. I mean, I'm working with that person for three hours, it sounds a bit rude not to. |
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| I've never worn someone else's clothes. If they have something i like, i would just buy it myself instead of borrowing them. I'm not into clothes anyway, so i doubt that'd ever happen. My friends definitely didn't exchange clothes either, we're just possessive of our things i guess. It's like lending a DVD to someone. I never ever did it, because i saw what an awful state their own discs were. A bit mean of me, but i didn't want my stuff getting damaged :'D Hmm i think not giving her the jacket was fine. That's a bit too personal i think, especially when you're essentially a stranger. I'd be a bit reluctant accepting a jacket from someone who wasn't a friend and wouldn't want them to be cold anyway. Giving a girl your jacket is a very boyfriend-ey thing to do i think. Not a big deal if you offered though, it's just a jacket at the end of the day. |
| I'm not sure about it, but I think it depends on the person size body. I have a slim body so I prefer picking something that fits me perfectly. Some of my friends has bigger body and some are fat. If I use their clothes I would look super awful. I mean, imagine you're just a little kid but for some reason you have to use an adult sized clothes. you'd probably say "damn, this clothe is too big for me." |
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| I don't really fuss over it, I share if it's needed and I accept if I need extra clothes for some odd reason. It's really nothing special as long as people give those clothes back after they don't need them. |
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| I don't mind giving my clothes to others. My mom and sister both wear my clothes. We all wear the same socks and its always been like that for as long as I can remember. I like wearing other people's stuff if they're close to me besides family because it makes me feel cozy. |
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| is this a fetish because I was turned on from the first sentence of your post. |
| I am very protective of everything I own. Nobody wears it, nobody touches it. I hate to have people touch my phone and computer especially. I don't even want people looking at the screen for any reason. When I'm in public I always look for corner spots or spots that are against a wall because I do not want anybody looking at my phone screen. Doesn't matter what I am looking at, I just hate people looking at my screen. Don't move anything in my room around either. I will notice. I get a little annoyed sometimes because my mom thinks she's cleaning my room but what actually happens is I panic because I don't know where anything is now. My room isn't messy, its actually pretty clean for the most part but what isn't neat stands out. I do find it strange how girls are so okay with doing stuff like wearing each other's clothes, borrowing one another's shampoo, or looking at and using each other's phones and computers. Not that every girl is like that, but I never see guys doing this kind of stuff unless it was an emergency of some kind. |
Ryuk9428Oct 26, 2019 3:13 PM
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| I'm also quite protective with everything I own However I wouldn't mind giving my clothes to an hypothetical lover as well as borrowing his clothes, as long as the size matches |
| I usually wear my older brother's clothes on every day, sometimes we tended to swap clothes every day and every daily all the time. |
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LoneWolf said: no one is falling for that, we know you steal ur imoto's panties and wear em and rub em all over yourself. you sick fuck.Some siblings also wear each other's clothes, which I also haven't been able to experience cause I have a sister and shes much younger than me. LoneWolf said: total boss moment there. ya did right.I was volunteering for an event and I got paired up with a girl and we essentially had got placed at one part of the venue and would have to stand there for like 3 hrs. SO it would honestly be weird not to have some sort of conversation. So I just start talking to this girl and I found out all this stuff about her life like how shes going to school for animation and what kind of shows shes into and her ethnic background and religion. She makes sure to tell me like at least 3 times that she has a bf, because apparently a man can't be friendly with someone he has to talk to for almost 3 hrs. So I'm usually well prepared and I had a jacket in my bag, because I knew it would be getting colder that day. This girl did not. So here I am in my warm cozy jacket and this girl is out here literally shivering. The thing is I just don't like letting other people borrow my clothing period. On top of that I'd be cold if I gave her my jacket and she kept mentioning her bf and idk if he would feel some way about this. So yeah I just let the girl be cold and eventually I convinced her to take a break |
| Honestly I would let others borrow my clothing if they were to promise in sanitizing. |
| I also often borrowed clothes to and from my friends but not as much as girls |
| I have always had partners that I shared my clothes with. My ex-wife and I had the same style, taste and size. Now my new partner and I are in the same boat, even though he's a man. My favourite clothing piece of his is his norwegian "russegenser" graduation hoodie from 2011. |
If life ain't just a joke Then why are we laughing? If life ain't just a joke Then why am I dead? |
| My brother often lent me some of his shirts. |
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Yarub said: Not handing over the jacket is the right choice here. To hell with those who are incapable of discerning the most obvious of outcomes!It seems like you were just making up excuses to not let her borrow your jacket by reminding yourself of her boyfriend, even though he has no presence at all. The right action would not be just remove your jacket and hand it over. You ask her if she would like to wear your jacket, and alternate between you two every 10 minutes or so if she accepts, if you really didn't want to be too nice to her. To be honest, what you did is completely fine, albeit more on the insensitive side. But still, I'm still not patronizing enough to call you anything because I probably would be reluctant to give her my jacket too, but in the end I would... I hope. |
“The most shameless thing in the world is political power that can be inherited regardless of ability or talent!” |
Luchse said: 2 years later and in retrospect, I would hand my jacket without second thought. Shit happens and I can tolerate the cold.Yarub said: Not handing over the jacket is the right choice here. To hell with those who are incapable of discerning the most obvious of outcomes!It seems like you were just making up excuses to not let her borrow your jacket by reminding yourself of her boyfriend, even though he has no presence at all. The right action would not be just remove your jacket and hand it over. You ask her if she would like to wear your jacket, and alternate between you two every 10 minutes or so if she accepts, if you really didn't want to be too nice to her. To be honest, what you did is completely fine, albeit more on the insensitive side. But still, I'm still not patronizing enough to call you anything because I probably would be reluctant to give her my jacket too, but in the end I would... I hope. |
I wear clothes I find in the streets and can spend days wearing them without washing them. Fight me, hygiene freaks ;) Mod Edit: Modified post. |
StephJul 25, 2022 7:50 AM
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| i buy used clothes occasionally, if that counts, but i dont like the idea of me wearing an outfit/article of clothing that is still, 100% someone elses. |
| I'm the youngest of 6 so I'm used to hand me downs. I share clothes with my friends sometimes. And I steal my fiances hoodies and shorts all the time. |
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