Well, I like NTR, and it's one of my favourite genres nowadays...
People gets me wrong when I said this before though. I'm definitely not what others have called anyone who likes NTR here, such as sickos or even potential rapists. No way, that's crazy lol. Maybe some who like it are sick people, but I actually enjoy more vanilla and harem, it's just that NTR happens to be among them in my fav list.
In real life I consider myself a nice guy, even too sensitive with certain matters... But I think this lack of bad feelings towards the genre comes from my life experiences.
Even in the love matter. Out of the 5 relationships I had, I went through 3 really though ones. In the first one I was suddenly left aside and abandoned by the girl I had a nice relationship with, and it literally happened from one day to the other... only to learn days later that since around those days she was with another guy. Yeah, I was like WHAAT???! It took me a while to recover (several months actually), but with the help of my family I managed to move on.
The second one involved me learning that my girlfriend was having sex with another guy (it started with her behaving strange... yes, like actual NTR, hah). This was the worst one, since I felt very emotionally very attached and connected with this girl. But I was emotionally slapped for good (again, by my family), forced to stand on my own two feet and move on with all my might. Well, I partially didn't hear to advices though (and to this day I feel a little remorse on this one), because I actually managed to get the girl back for a few months, but it was only a sexual thing during that time. And did things I never thought I could do... And then I suddenly abandoned her, and she ended up following me instead, until I was very tired and did something so she would forget completely about me. Yup..... Doesn't it sound like the end we all wish NTRs had?..... Well, It felt good back then, but from that time until now I've grown up and even felt remorse of doing that... I even feel a bit worse for that period than when she NTR'd me. It's as if I had revenged myself somehow, and that feeling made me feel disgusting for a long time :P...
The third time it wasn't so bad. It was a little bit similar to the previous one, with the difference that I avoided being too attached to that girl, and I think I was already prepared. Shortly after, I realized a close friend of mine was in love with me, and that was a beautiful relationship which lasted for 3 years (and oh boy, she was so cute and beautiful... I realized it a bit late, but not too late. We were later separated by our differences concerning marriage, kids.. for which we're too opposite, so it just didn't work and we're just friends now, no regrets).
Now, back to the point.... Why do I like NTR even though all of this? I think it's precisely because of this, I feel that I've become "immune" (not insensitive) to this sort of stories. I feel so good with my emotional life right now that reading this sort of stories actually reminds me of "the path not taken". That is, becoming a depressing and sad pile of man that left his humanity behind. I think it's a matter of being mature and growing past a certain point. Some do make me feel a little bad, but I remember very clearly the stuff I went through and feel reassured that my wounds are healed. And then I just forget about it.
(I also like the art styles of some NTR artists If I don't like the art I even can't read it, so I'm partially into it because of this).
I do have some advices:
1. Try not to identify yourself with a character from any NTR story. From where I see it, most of those male characters have no self-esteem and self-confidence, they usually put all their self-value in the relationship with the girl. So when shit happens, they turn into venomous depression. But you know what really was venomous? The relationship itself. They're free from a relationship that simply wasn't meant to be and FOR GOOD, so actually aren't they better without the girl? Yes, yes they are.
2. Maybe I'm too harsh, but if something like that happened to you, wouldn't you be able to move on? Aren't there friends there to help you? If the end of a NTR story concerns you in this respect, then there's probably something that you can improve in your actual life. Also remember that this is just fiction... but isn't it amazing how a stupid NTR story (often very unrealistic...) can be taken from another point of view and be reflected upon?
3. My best advice I think is this: Don't just watch hentai without the proper labels, or in sites full of porn such as redtube. Even I if I'm not prepared I'd feel bad, so if you're in a situation where you can't still handle all of the above, be as careful as possible with the genre.
And well, this was lenghty, but I felt it may help someone out there. |