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Damn shame I am not going to retroactively change my comments based your little revelation.


You can not speculate all you like but it is funny that you wish come up with reasoning why someone might find it hard(not impossible) to make friends based on an anime list but you aren't willing enough to say what such reasoning implies about a person's maturity level or social standing. It's like you know describing childish actions is more palatable so long as you leave out the actual word, childish.


You quoted me and attempted give reason to what I was describing. Don't get all shocked now that a disagreement with ensued. How often has you trying to rephrase things in politically correct way worked with me?

I can speculate, as you do too. I can say that somebody might try to avoid discussion because they find this site to be a place for relaxing and just getting calmed and careless after a hard and depressing day in which they have to deal with multiple situations that get them mentally exhausted.

Anyway, that would just be another rephrase on the previous post but whatever: MAL and real life are different environments. In MAL anime (and manga) becomes the primary source to know and talk with somebody. So if people don't want to discuss ---> they avoid talking, and having a -strictly based on MAL standards- relationship with those whose tastes are not alike.

I can say and agree that this behaviour is childish. However that is not any more or less than a convenient conclusion for my own thoughts, and as I am not going to be able to know the particular reasons of those people, I prefer to avoid any kind of judgement that implies analyzing the behaviour in more levels than the ones that are shown to me.


Meh, I somehow haven't lost my hopes on it.

Creating a group that supports you opinion is convenient. Of course it has nothing to do with the comment of mine you quote but it's what you do...


And my posts have limited the conversation possibilities to just anime or manga or just MAL friendship? I would say my comments have not done that but what would I know. They are just my comments after all.


Good for you. I however, have not. Troubling that I post my ideas in a different way than you post yours.


You do know what Einstein said about insanity?

This is not really aimed at anyone in particular, but I would like to point out that 'not being friends with' is totally different to disliking, or not enjoying spending time with, or talking with.

In the last 5 odd years online, I have met 2 people I consider a friend. Those 2 people have very similar tastes on anime/visual novels. It is a large part of the basis of our friendship. A lot of the talking we do is about those things, or related to it. Now, on non anime topics, and often anime topics we frequently disagree.

The thing is, chances are if these people had absolutely different tastes to me, I would not be their friend and they would not be mine. They would, instead, be part of the group of people I have met, talked to, played games with, and not been friends with. This is because a friendship needs at least some basis to run on. Without it, it is likely to be rather boring personally.

Now, as to the whole 'What about non anime things you might agree on' idea. Yes, it is possible to find non anime topics that may be agreed on. However, considering that this is MAL if I see someone has a completely conflicting list to mine, I can make a fairly solid guess that we will not get along on anime related topics. Can we be polite to eachother? Yes. Can I enjoy discussing anime with him/her? Yes. Could I enjoy discussing unrelated things with them? Yes. Does that mean I would expect us to become solid friends based entirely on our ability to give different views on anime? No, not really.

Does anime need to be that basis or can something else provide the common ground?

If some other thing can serve as the basis for the friendship then could you agree on whatever that is, disagree on anime stuff, and still be friends?

Yes, definitely. I just would not normally go to the effort to find such a thing on a site devoted entirely to anime. It is certainly possible, though.

(That said, I do not have many interests outside anime/books, so for me its really all down to the stories)