| What I mean by this is that they think they can do better than you if they want to, but they're alright (or even prefer) dating a guy or a girl who they think is not that attractive/smart/fantastic as long as they're loyal and they have a great personality. Don't you think this view is insulting? Like fuck, if you're dating me and you think that you're only settling (despite how positively you look at the situation), GTFO. |
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| yes |
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| I wouldn't bother dating someone if they were planning on braking up with me from the beginning. |
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as long as they're loyal and they have a great personality. As a beta, I'm so grateful if I have a loyal and great girlfriend y'know  |
| The thing is, many relationships when you get older form based on different ideals. When you're younger, the heart craves for the chemical feeling of love and the excitement of exploring your sexuality with a partner you can emotionally connect you. However, as the body and mind both age with time, the spark of "feeling of love" doesn't come as often or not at all, and people merely become to seek a significant other for either company, financial support, or are simply lonely and desire that presence of another being. It's something that does happen to everyone, and rarely do people act out of true love at the age once people have surpassed their prime. |
 gettttt dunked on!!!!!! |
_Charl said: as long as they're loyal and they have a great personality. As a beta, I'm so grateful if I have a loyal and great girlfriend y'know Till you run out of money |
RedTie47 said: _Charl said: As a beta, I'm so grateful if I have a loyal and great girlfriend y'know Till you run out of money Not every girl is a gold digger. |
| Shh. Be yourself. |
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| Sure, if they're good enough for me too. |
| I'll just end the relationship immediately, it leads to drama. |
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| Sounds like a fuckup in the making, Abort mission |
| I've been here way too long... |
| A heart rate is all I need. |
| Yes, because it would make a change from daily life, where 100% of people think I'm the best thing ever 100% of the time. Too bad this situation is unrealistic and will never happen thanks to the world's infatuation with me and my infinite powers of magnetism and charm. |
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| Sure |
| If they could do better and prefer you it shows that he/she really likes you... I mean... who could date a freaking good-looking person with a awesome personality and picks a normal? But I wouldn't date someone like that, because I would feel like I don't deserve him |
WingsOfValor said: RedTie47 said: Till you run out of money Not every girl is a gold digger. Ah no, I meant more that money is also important in the equation that he posted for a healthy relationship, not necessarily because the girl will leave him if he's broke. Should've clarified that, my bad. |
| Fuck off. The only reason why I'd date is because I deeply love and care about you and for the romantic intimacy and longing that comes along with it, not because I want to settle. I'm quite desperate but I'm not THAT desperate. If I'm just 'good enough' for you then you're not good enough for me. |
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| everyone should already know that I'm perfect |
| If you think of dating that way, whether they think you're "good enough" shouldn't really matter. But if it offends you, let it be. Dating is pretty much like a test. If you're offended by it because you take dating really seriously, then you're just not compatible. Just break up 5 seconds after you start going out. |
| Probs #sexybeasts |
| Why are we still here? Just to suffer? Every night, I can feel my leg... and my arm... even my fingers. The body I've lost... the comrades I've lost... won't stop hurting... It's like they're all still there. You feel it, too, don't you? I'm gonna make them give back our past." |
Rubberbandman101 said: +1Depends if they want some |
| Why are we still here? Just to suffer? Every night, I can feel my leg... and my arm... even my fingers. The body I've lost... the comrades I've lost... won't stop hurting... It's like they're all still there. You feel it, too, don't you? I'm gonna make them give back our past." |
| I dont want someone to date me because I'm just "good enough" and they are just settling. I dont really think that's love, I want someone to date me because I'm something special to them and they are something special to me or else I dont really picture it working. |
| I would date literally anyone who gave me attention. |
| Wouldn't date them, if I want someone to provide for me, sure. If they are seeking someone to date who are younger than them and easy to control, then nope |
| save all the cute girls from ntr manga |
| There's a difference between: 1. This person looks good enough to pass my filter, but I like the person and I'm not settling. 2. This person is good enough, and I only like them somewhat, so I'm settling. Frankly, I don't see why the former would be offensive unless you can't accept that you're any less than the hottest person in the world. Believe it or not, physical attraction is not the last word, and it's literally impossible for anyone to know if they can get "better". But that kind of possibility is not what a person should orient their lives toward. I'm surprised that you would post this after your previous thread about "settling", Claire. It's not settling at all. People aren't perfect, and it's the willingness to accept imperfection that makes things work. |
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| sure, but if 'good enough' means i have to fit into some sort of mold then it probably won't last long haha |
| I CELEBRATE myself, And what I assume you shall assume, For every atom belonging to me as good belongs to you. |
LemonCup said: If you think any partner you meet in your lifetime is the metaphysically best outcome possible in all alternate universes, then you're kidding yourself. Good enough is the only thing that's reliable whether you're settling (imo, temporarily lowering the "good enough" standard) or not.Fuck off. The only reason why I'd date is because I deeply love and care about you and for the romantic intimacy and longing that comes along with it, not because I want to settle. I'm quite desperate but I'm not THAT desperate. If I'm just 'good enough' for you then you're not good enough for me. |
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| No unless I really really feel deeply for that person and think I can make them think better of me. |
| The whole my partner must be very special and be perfect in every way expressed by most people in this thread is called infatuation, not true love. |
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katsucats said: Infatuation is ignoring a persons flaws. Love is accepting the flaws and loving them still.The whole my partner must be very special and be perfect in every way expressed by most people in this thread is called infatuation, not true love. |
| It depends on how much I like them. If I like them a lot, I'll take the hit to my pride and stay with them. If I don't really like them, then... well, there's no point staying with them, now is there? |
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katsucats said: LOL Quit trying to justify your misogynist attitude you twit. Just admit that you hate women.There's a difference between: 1. This person looks good enough to pass my filter, but I like the person and I'm not settling. 2. This person is good enough, and I only like them somewhat, so I'm settling. Frankly, I don't see why the former would be offensive unless you can't accept that you're any less than the hottest person in the world. Believe it or not, physical attraction is not the last word, and it's literally impossible for anyone to know if they can get "better". But that kind of possibility is not what a person should orient their lives toward. I'm surprised that you would post this after your previous thread about "settling", Claire. It's not settling at all. People aren't perfect, and it's the willingness to accept imperfection that makes things work. |
IWubYou said: It's not hating women to be real. In fact, I'd argue that putting women on a pedestal is hating on real women. Close your Playboy magazines tool and look around. Nobody's perfect, whether in physical looks or intellect, yet that doesn't prevent us from establishing connections with other people on an equal level. Now go troll someone else.katsucats said: LOL Quit trying to justify your misogynist attitude you twit. Just admit that you hate women.There's a difference between: 1. This person looks good enough to pass my filter, but I like the person and I'm not settling. 2. This person is good enough, and I only like them somewhat, so I'm settling. Frankly, I don't see why the former would be offensive unless you can't accept that you're any less than the hottest person in the world. Believe it or not, physical attraction is not the last word, and it's literally impossible for anyone to know if they can get "better". But that kind of possibility is not what a person should orient their lives toward. I'm surprised that you would post this after your previous thread about "settling", Claire. It's not settling at all. People aren't perfect, and it's the willingness to accept imperfection that makes things work. |
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Involtus said: Yes, because it would make a change from daily life, where 100% of people think I'm the best thing ever 100% of the time. Too bad this situation is unrealistic and will never happen thanks to the world's infatuation with me and my infinite powers of magnetism and charm. |
| Why not? People are dynamic creatures. One day "good enough" may just become "the one" in just a couple of days of knowing another person. Just as long as I also think this person is "good enough" or more I don't see the problem! I'd treat them well all the same no matter what anyway. |
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| No. The couple should learn to accept both owns weakness. Accepting as merely Good enough, purely based on immature feelings. You accept them for what them are not just a partner to satisfy your owns greedy feels. |
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| Katsu is my hero. |
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| Hard to say whether I would, but I think under certain circumstances then I would. Maybe if I were completely infatuated with the person then I would, though I still wouldn't want to just be considered "good enough". So I'd probably naively expect that to change as unlikely as it would probably be. |
 Ahhh... Is this the blood... The blood of the Dark Soul? |
| No, but I also don't settle. I would rather be alone than with somebody that I didn't feel was worth my time. I would want the same treatment |
| i do wonder if any other MAL users has had this view on another person ;o i don't think it's absolutely horrible, sure it's not healthy but, some people just don't like being alone. they will do anything to not be alone so they will 'settle' as you call it. rather than risk going after those who could really damage them further. usually i don't find this is because the other person is hotter, more intelligent, more charming, they're usually just scared. they would rather live with loyalty than go after people they really love. i won't hate them for it, but i would not date them either. |
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