Is it possible for someone to be out of your league?

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No, you can date whoever you want. Some people simply just aren't interested in you. When people say "she's out of your league" tell them to GTFO. Get some balls and ask her out and see how t hings fare.

If she rejects you then shove it off and better luck next time.

I'm a fabulous person who has dated average girls so its kk.

Apr 18, 2014 2:16 PM

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RandomChampion said:

yogotah said:
Now that I got my goofy question out of the way, I can ask something that is more relevant.

I'm curious to know whether you think that it is truly possible for someone, guy or girl, to be out of someone's league.

This is relevant to my life since there is a girl that I'm interested in, but everyone seems to tell me that she is out of my league. She's too beautiful, too caring, too compassionate..to be with a goofball like me.

I'm the amateur philosopher/scientist/bed lurker/dreamer/ anime indulger...while she's the paradigmatic popular gorgeous, nice to everybody, studying broadcasting,cheerleader image.

I never use to think about a person being "socially" superior to another, and I still don't have an opinion on it now, but so curious to see what others think.

she cant be out of your league if she doesnt exist

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Apr 18, 2014 2:17 PM

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I don't think anyone could be "out of our league" If two people with different interests like each other, then why hold back if one person is more than the other

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Apr 18, 2014 2:17 PM

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No not really, though it is possible for someone to not be suited for you.

Apr 18, 2014 2:18 PM

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No. I see a lot of couples that make absolutely no sense to me. All I can say is well played.

Then again if she doesn't like you she might as well be out of your league.

Apr 18, 2014 2:20 PM

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I see it more as people having higher or different standards that they look for in a significant other. Not everyone will fit into everyone's ideal match as a result. More often then not, someone's surface demeanor may hide a very different character deep down. A few of my friends are like that. They appear a certain way around groups but they aren't as they're perceived in private. What if she has a thing for intellectuals, science, photography or one of your other areas you listed? Get to know her first, the real her that she probably displays in private, then you can more accurately say if there is a chance or not.

Apr 18, 2014 2:26 PM

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Aylaine said:
I see it more as people having higher or different standards that they look for in a significant other. Not everyone will fit into everyone's ideal match as a result. More often then not, someone's surface demeanor may hide a very different character deep down. A few of my friends are like that. They appear a certain way around groups but they aren't as they're perceived in private. What if she has a thing for intellectuals, science, photography or one of your other areas you listed? Get to know her first, the real her that she probably displays in private, then you can more accurately say if there is a chance or not.

This is true. People are more complex than the image they put out in public. She's already a good friend of mine, and does enjoy some of my interest.

I think what I'm wondering the most about is that even if two people are compatible, is it possible for their social status to be so different that they cannot possible be together without it becoming a great strain?

The only way to deal with an unfree world is to become so absolutely free that your very existence is an act of rebellion.
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Apr 18, 2014 2:30 PM

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Lol no. Dating isn't a caste system

Apr 18, 2014 2:38 PM

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yogotah said:
I'm the amateur philosopher/scientist/bed lurker/dreamer/ anime indulger...while she's the paradigmatic popular gorgeous, nice to everybody, studying broadcasting,cheerleader image.

Now tell me how the hell that would work out.

Apr 18, 2014 2:40 PM

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Litrydow said:

yogotah said:
I'm the amateur philosopher/scientist/bed lurker/dreamer/ anime indulger...while she's the paradigmatic popular gorgeous, nice to everybody, studying broadcasting,cheerleader image.

Now tell me how the hell that would work out.

Chloroform, basement and ropes?

Apr 18, 2014 2:41 PM

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Chloroform, basement and ropes?

Chloroform only works in the movies, if you try to smother someone in the real world there's a good chance you'll kill them. Also can take up to around 5 minutes of inhaling to knock a person out. Stick with the ruffies.

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Apr 18, 2014 2:41 PM

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Not personally, no. But maybe for you people.

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Apr 18, 2014 2:42 PM

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Who cares what other people say. If you like her, go for it.

Apr 18, 2014 2:43 PM

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Astros477 said:

Endycia said:

Chloroform, basement and ropes?

Chloroform only works in the movies, if you try to smother someone in the real world there's a good chance you'll kill them. Stick with the ruffies.

How about knocking them out with a tranquilizer gun or a baseball bat to the head?

Apr 18, 2014 2:43 PM

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I only play in the Negro league, so, whatever.

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Apr 18, 2014 2:43 PM

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anyway OP

anybody has the potential to be in your league if you have the means to influence the central nervous system of the target in the necessary ways. Ex - rewire the neurons in target's brain

however, not everyone necessarily has the means to influences the CNS in such ways to put them in the league

the fact of the matter is that you dont know the situation and you should do some investigation - aka go talk to her or something. there is such a thing as her bing out of your league with the means you have, but you cant know at the moment.

Apr 18, 2014 2:44 PM

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btw what's a bed lurker that sounds mad shady....im interested

Apr 18, 2014 2:46 PM

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Endycia said:

How about knocking them out with a tranquilizer gun or a baseball bat to the head?

Wrong dosage of tranquilizer will stop the heart killing the person. Also you aren't guaranteed how long the person will be out. Baseball to the head will most definitely knock them out, but again no idea how long. Probably just as equal a chance of killing or greatly disabling them.

Apr 18, 2014 2:50 PM

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RandomChampion said:

Sapewloth said:

RandomChampion said:

yogotah said:

She definitely has flaws, nobody's perfect. But you can appear to be perfect to the general public.

wtf, my mom told me im perfect. u calling my mom a liar?

Yes. Basically.

Logged in just to say that.

my mom would never lie to me

Of course she would, she was lying about Santa and the Easter bunny as well. The hard truth.

Apr 18, 2014 2:50 PM

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RandomChampion said:
btw what's a bed lurker that sounds mad shady....im interested

You break into people's house, hide under their bed and when they fall asleep you...

Apr 18, 2014 2:52 PM

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Pralando said:

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btw what's a bed lurker that sounds mad shady....im interested

You break into people's house, hide under their bed and when they fall asleep you...

That's lewd

Apr 18, 2014 2:53 PM

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Less competition is always a good thing.

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Apr 18, 2014 2:53 PM

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Of course she would, she was lying about Santa and the Easter bunny as well. The hard truth.

im brown there was no santa or easter bunny. only threats of getting sent to boarding school

Apr 18, 2014 2:55 PM

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Pralando said:

RandomChampion said:
btw what's a bed lurker that sounds mad shady....im interested

You break into people's house, hide under their bed and when they fall asleep you...

steal their teddy bear and replace it with a picture of your grinning face right

Apr 18, 2014 2:55 PM

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It's more like I'm out of everyone's league.

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Apr 18, 2014 2:55 PM

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I do not think so. But they might not at first want to get to know each other if they think the person is out of their league or not good enough.

Apr 18, 2014 2:57 PM

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RandomChampion said:
anyway OP

anybody has the potential to be in your league if you have the means to influence the central nervous system of the target in the necessary ways. Ex - rewire the neurons in target's brain

however, not everyone necessarily has the means to influences the CNS in such ways to put them in the league

the fact of the matter is that you dont know the situation and you should do some investigation - aka go talk to her or something. there is such a thing as her bing out of your league with the means you have, but you cant know at the moment.

I didn't give the full scenario out in the OP, but we are close, and she is giving signs of interest ( as in texting me regularly, eating dinner with her, studying together, etc..). However, a lot of people around me are saying that these signs are benign, and shouldn't be taken seriously due the difference in our social status. Which is weird since I used to belong in such social atmosphere but gave it up to hang out with "geekier" kids, who turned out to be the best friends that one can ask for.

I'm pretty sure that I'll end up asking her out, but I'm curious about this whole "league" thing....never heard of it until recently.

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Apr 18, 2014 3:00 PM

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yogotah said:
This is true. People are more complex than the image they put out in public. She's already a good friend of mine, and does enjoy some of my interest.

I think what I'm wondering the most about is that even if two people are compatible, is it possible for their social status to be so different that they cannot possible be together without it becoming a great strain?

That depends wholly on how important social status is to both people. If it's a non issue, then it will be a non issue but if either person is worried what others may think or say regarding the relationship, then difficulties will likely develop as a result. As an example, my first boyfriend was considered popular. I, on the other hand, was pretty much opposite. Mostly kept to myself, or planted flowers, or other quiet activities. Upon getting together, a few of his 'friends' disapproved of me for the sole reason that I wasn't in their clique. My boyfriend paid no heed to the naysayers, because "My real friends will accept who I am with as long as she makes me happy". Thus it depends on how she sees social status.

I wish more people had that mindset. Other people should be non factors because it's A: not their business, B: not their feelings and C: not their place to judge in my opinion.

Apr 18, 2014 3:03 PM

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Aylaine said:
I see it more as people having higher or different standards that they look for in a significant other. Not everyone will fit into everyone's ideal match as a result. More often then not, someone's surface demeanor may hide a very different character deep down. A few of my friends are like that. They appear a certain way around groups but they aren't as they're perceived in private. What if she has a thing for intellectuals, science, photography or one of your other areas you listed? Get to know her first, the real her that she probably displays in private, then you can more accurately say if there is a chance or not.

Actually this is a good advice. You should follow as said.

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Apr 18, 2014 3:04 PM

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That's usually true, but there are always people who like to have a ugly boyfriend/girlfriend.
I'm one of those who avoid something ugly.

Apr 18, 2014 3:06 PM

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yogotah said:

RandomChampion said:
anyway OP

anybody has the potential to be in your league if you have the means to influence the central nervous system of the target in the necessary ways. Ex - rewire the neurons in target's brain

however, not everyone necessarily has the means to influences the CNS in such ways to put them in the league

the fact of the matter is that you dont know the situation and you should do some investigation - aka go talk to her or something. there is such a thing as her bing out of your league with the means you have, but you cant know at the moment.

I didn't give the full scenario out in the OP, but we are close, and she is giving signs of interest ( as in texting me regularly, eating dinner with her, studying together, etc..). However, a lot of people around me are saying that these signs are benign, and shouldn't be taken seriously due the difference in our social status. Which is weird since I used to belong in such social atmosphere but gave it up to hang out with "geekier" kids, who turned out to be the best friends that one can ask for.

I'm pretty sure that I'll end up asking her out, but I'm curious about this whole "league" thing....never heard of it until recently.

I'd give it shot. You'll only end up regretting it later if you don't

Apr 18, 2014 3:06 PM

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i'm not sure "out of my league" is really an appropriate term for this kind of stuff

people come together for lots of reasons, only sometimes, or rarely, b/c someone is just simply more awesome than them.

if you have similar interests, well, thats pretty key. don't look down on yourself, look up and see if you can find yourself in her. what about you would make you valuable to her and her life?

Apr 18, 2014 3:21 PM

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yogotah said:
I'm pretty sure that I'll end up asking her out, but I'm curious about this whole "league" thing....never heard of it until recently.

Good luck when you do. I would honestly be cautious because friendly people can give off the wrong impression to people who like them. As in, "shes so nice to me, and we do things, maybe she likes me?" from here, the idea will grow within the other person as their feelings grow, but should the other persons intentions be purely platonic, it will hurt that much more because of false hopes. Basically, be mindful of your feelings. Clearly though, the people who said the signs shouldn't be taken seriously at all may be the types who go by social status above other factors. In the end it's up to you, but I must agree with others that if you don't ask, the chances of you regretting it will be high.

Even if you are rejected, at least you had the courage to ask her, to put your feelings on the line and show someone you were interested in them. Plus the old saying rings true: you will never know until you ask.

Apr 18, 2014 3:25 PM

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Yeah, for instance whenever I ask one of the mods out they always say no and tell me to get on their leveljk

Apr 18, 2014 3:33 PM

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Get to know her and see for yourself if there's any hope for a relationship.Take a chance. Live and learn. The league system is in reference to an individual's lifestyle and personality compatibility with others. Your "advisers" don't think things will work out based on what they know about the two of you.

Apr 18, 2014 3:53 PM

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Yes but if you mention you watch anime, it will bring you up to high tier level.

What is this negative connotation that comes with watching anime? That you are somehow some kind of pussy because you like watching moe girls or something like that?

Apr 18, 2014 3:56 PM

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Astros477 said:
No not really, though it is possible for someone to not be suited for you.

I agree with this.

There isn't really anyone that is out of your league. But from your OP, when you compare yourself to a girl like that there's probably going to be a large gap in your interest and personality.

So it's not the case that she is out of your league because she is uber pretty and you're not. But it is the case that it is not meant to be between the two of you because you are two entirely different people.

Apr 18, 2014 4:25 PM

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Soren333 said:

Astros477 said:
No not really, though it is possible for someone to not be suited for you.

I agree with this.

There isn't really anyone that is out of your league. But from your OP, when you compare yourself to a girl like that there's probably going to be a large gap in your interest and personality.

So it's not the case that she is out of your league because she is uber pretty and you're not. But it is the case that it is not meant to be between the two of you because you are two entirely different people.

I also don't think the gap is a physical one, ugly versus pretty (I'm actually a geek stuck in a jock's body), it's more of a social gap. I hang out mostly with gamers, anime watchers, chess players, etc...while she hangs out with the football team clique, cheerleaders, etc...

We do share similar interest, but according to some, if someone is 'out of your league' then it doesn't matter how compatible you are, that gap will keep you from being together. Social pressures are devastating sometimes.

I've gotten mix views in this thread, most are saying to go for it, while some do say that there is a standard that dictates your league. It's interesting, and I wonder the correlation with that and social activities.

I'm really bad at keeping secrets. So I'll have to tell her I like her very soon, or she's going to find out anyway.

The only way to deal with an unfree world is to become so absolutely free that your very existence is an act of rebellion.
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Apr 18, 2014 4:28 PM

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