| I've never really had a crush. I mean I've had people I was slightly interested in that I would've wanted to spend more time with them, but they were always distant enough that I would have to come up with an excuse to be around them. And I never could. And then they just fade away from my mind and I even forget their name. So I've never been hurt. I have no bad experiences, but I also have no good ones. I have plenty of good friends though, so I'm only lonely when it comes to relationships. But my friend circles have few females and even they are the SO-s of my friends. I don't really know where to go to meet people. And places where I'd just meet them once or a few times wouldn't really work, because I wouldn't be able to make a move so quickly. It'd have to be somewhere where I'm stuck together with that person for a while. Otherwise they just leave and I'm too much of a chicken to do anything about it. Maybe I deserve this for being a coward. |
| If you generalize, you're wrong. |
Starchaser187 said: If you still have your Yu-Gi-Oh! cards I won't mind sending you to the Shadow Realm. Anyway, it'd probably be in your best interest to move. As for me, I never had problems with love or women, at least ever since I got over my fear of talking to them I had alright cards for the time. I even had all 5 pieces of Exodia! But my mom threw them out because "I didn't play with them anymore" T_____________T I still haven't gotten over that, and that was over half a decade ago. My mom=literally Weevil Underwood |
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LadyRenly said: I had alright cards for the time. I even had all 5 pieces of Exodia! But my mom threw them out because "I didn't play with them anymore" T_____________T I still haven't gotten over that, and that was over half a decade ago. My mom=literally Weevil Underwood 0.0 That is not ok...... Remember looking through a book that sold yugioh cards. Exodia was around $1000, did you get all 5 pieces by luck or pay that much for them? |
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daintybiscuit said: I like this suggestion. Stop looking for it. But also that doesn't mean you should just give up and wait for some perfect person to hit on you. Just let experience comes naturally by actually doing more social things and it will happen naturally. Being a tryhard or a lazy person won't get you anything. Be balanced in your approach.OK i have VERY simple advice. Stop looking for it. In my life, every time i have stopped trying, I have found someone. I can't say this will work for you, but it is my honest opinion. |
| Who does Lupadim ship? |
| Konbu is important |
| Oh man, i was just like you, but you know what, it happened haha, eventually i did meet someone, and i did everything i could to be more social, and i'm a lot happier now. I'm still alone, but i just don't care anymore, because i realize that depending on that to make you happy is asking to be miserable. The best tip i can give you, is forget about the others. do things to make yourself better, doing that, you'll improve yourself and attract people to you! |
| Stopped at the person you were interested in on MAL. . . x.x;;;;;;;;;;;;; Completely broke my immersion, can't tell if serious or not |
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| I don't think MAL is the place you'll find help for that. |
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| Not sure if serious. |
LoneWolf said: @Josh makes me sad to call myself Canadian. |
| Quite frankly you're really young still, and the fact that you're relating experiences all the way back to elementary school just proves that you're coming off as desperate. You have an entire life ahead of you so don't fret so much now. Your time will come, even if it's later than you'd like. With me I didn't even think about dating until after I was out of high school. I've been in and out of one shit relationship after another ever since then and it got to the point where I couldn't even be single for more than a few weeks at most. I forgot how to be comfortable with myself, and so I'd rush into one thing after another, not really paying much attention to the person and not thinking enough in the long term either. I've had everything from emotional to physical abuse, I've been raped, and I've had all sorts of issues relationship-wise. But as soon as I calmed my ass down after my last relationship and learned to have fun by myself and fun just in general outside of sitting in front of the computer watching anime all night, that's when I found someone that's been better than all the exs. I wasn't looking at all, completely stopped. Went on a couple dates with other people but with no thought of anything serious. So my suggestion, make some friends first. You can make friends anywhere - hang around a bookstore or library, a game store, add friends of friends through facebook, etc. The guy I'm dating currently actually added me on facebook through a friend I met at the anime convention I went through last year. He wanted to get into figure collecting and was interested in talking to me because of that (and he was in a relationship so no, there wasn't any other motive there either), and somehow something blossomed from that. But you can make friends and possible lovers through any means. Just keep putting yourself out there. |
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Aylaine said: SuperHands said: Who does Lupadim ship? SorataxShiina! Renly, are you serious with this topic? The reason I am asking is, I want to make sure before I write an essay length post. Does that mean Pet Kanojo is now spoiled for me? |
| Konbu is important |
SuperHands said: Aylaine said: SuperHands said: Who does Lupadim ship? SorataxShiina! Renly, are you serious with this topic? The reason I am asking is, I want to make sure before I write an essay length post. Does that mean Pet Kanojo is now spoiled for me? They bang. |
Aylaine said: SuperHands said: Who does Lupadim ship? SorataxShiina! Renly, are you serious with this topic? The reason I am asking is, I want to make sure before I write an essay length post. Always. Don't know why people doubt me. It's not like my name is Renly_Keys |
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| All I can offer is, Dude, Renly-san, you have my respect for trying, as cheesy as that sounds. |
"Fuck this shit, fun things are fun!" |
LadyRenly said: I read it all, and kudos to you to have the guts to bare your soul like that. Not easy I know.daintybiscuit said: tl;dr? Sorry, there's never a TLDR on the Renly train. I poured my heart and soul out. There's no flow, no direction, only feels. I'm seeing several things here, Renly: You think that having a relationship is going to make everything better, you're letting your past disappointments in love affect your perception of your own self worth, and you're carrying a lot of self-hate. I can tell your early rejections hurt you deeply, but you were pretty young back then and I think your potential love interests just weren't ready for anything serious at the time. Most kids are stupid, cruel, thoughtless, and utterly immature little animals. Don't equate your bad experiences then with how the adult world is now. ^ I think a lot of your self hate stems from these experiences. But the one thing you can always change, if you really want to, is yourself. Obviously you may only be able to do so much with your physical appearance, but in all honesty a winsome personality can easily trump a less than beauteous visage. (Don't know if this is actually your problem or not...:) Anyways, stop focusing on things you hate about yourself and start looking for things you enjoy doing or are good at instead. When I read your posts I see an intelligent young woman with a good sense of humor. Maybe you should write more. And honestly, don't give up on yourself but don't put too much expectation upon relationships either. Finding a significant other isn't going to suddenly make everything perfect. Heck, it may end up being worse, look at all the relationship horror stories people here on MAL have. 21, heck, you're younger than me... If I told you to give up already, then I'm waaaaay past hope here at 26. :P And if you feel things are stagnant where you are, maybe go for a change of scenery. I don't like the crowds, traffic, or society in general here in MD. Eventually I'll be moving down south where the weather is warm and people are nicer. Always looking towards that bright horizon. Good luck, sister! I know there's something good ahead for you, go find it! |
| Some people already said it, but you sound way too desperate for your age (gee, you're only one year older than me, you'd still be considered a kid by my mom's standards). Because you didn't find love at 21 doesn't mean you're screwed or that you'll never find it later. You don't have to go 'chasing' for your soulmate but don't just sit there waiting a relationship to happen and fix all your problems. Go out, meet people, take care of yourself, do something (do sports, arts, whatever you like), go to the library, go to concerts with one or two friends of yours, talk to others : just do something with yourself, it might actually make you feel good. It may sound a bit harsh, but that's because I don't want you to believe dating (or having sex for that matter) is the key to everything or is the only way for you to be happy. I for one had a lot of issues family issues in highschool, but other than that I had quite a few good friends. I didn't really care about relationships at that time (I had way too much on my mind for that, and I really just didn't give a shit), but at one point most conversations started revolving about that ("me & my bae <3 this, me & my bae </3 that", y'nowa mean) so I'd basically just shut and listen. When they noticed, the topic about me being single would come up every once in a while (usually when friend X and I were alone) if I'd finally started dating someone, if I'd finally started having sex, if I was living it well, why etc. Also advices I never asked for and analysis's of my case for started to pop up: "you should lower your standards, or you're gonna end up all alone" (b***, I never had any to begin with!), "maybe you're too intimidating", etc. Anyway, the whole bsnss was not enough to make me care, but I somewhat became very self conscious about me still being a virgin when I entered college. And things didn't really get better after I met someone (because I wasn't in love, and neither was he). My family issues were still there and I had much much trouble getting used to a big ass city like Paris, so when it was over I started going out a looot, getting drunk, smoking weed (well I already used to smoke weed in high school, so it's not like that one counts lool) not caring whomever I went home with... and guess what, I wasn't happy in the least. I screwed up hard. So when my failing my first year was sort of the Brighto slap I needed : I always was the top of the class kind of student and having the majority of my marks closer to 0 than to 20 (out of 20) was a real shocker. Anyway, just to say that I'm single now and have been for around a year and not giving a fuck. What I'm trying to tell you is that you shouldn't be so self conscious about never having been in a relationship, cause trying too hard might just get you hurt. Care about yourself before caring about a potentiel boyfriend or girlfriend, that's what's more important I think. Your time will come too. PS: lupadim, seriously? Like, the master logic bender lupadim? EDIT: Also don't be afraid of being rejected. It happens to a lot of people and it hurts thine ego real bad, but the worst you can do is recover from it and get going, really. Hope it helps. |
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